alwaysconfused2 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Hello! So I started talking to this guy on Okcupid (just yesterday). We're both going into the same career and have similar career goals. He initiated conversation (although I had visited his page and liked it so he may have saw that), and we talked about some common interests, life goals, and just some general get to know you stuff. He asked what type of relationship/guy I was looking for and after I responded he said he was looking for something simpler. This morning I woke up to a message from him that said "This may be straightforward, but feel free to text me if you would like (phone number). Have a great day " He sent this early this morning. Should I text him? I've had other guys message me their number online, but I was never really interested in them so I didn't bother. But I'd like to see where things go with this guy, but I don't really want to text him first. Although I'm 21, I don't have very much dating experience at all. Pretty much no experience whatsoever until I tired online dating 5 months ago, so I feel like I lack a lot of skills when it comes to this type of thing and flirty responses. Thanks!
Keenly Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Giving you his number is the equivelant of texting you first. Here's what I need you to do. Take this " I don't want to text him first " crap and throw it right into the garbage where it belongs. If you are interested, text him. No games. 1
FitChick Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 "...looking for something simpler" sounds like he just wants casual dating or friends for career networking.
Keenly Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 "...looking for something simpler" sounds like he just wants casual dating or friends for career networking. It could also be interpreted as less drama and without games.
MidwestUSA Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 "...looking for something simpler" sounds like he just wants casual dating or friends for career networking. After witnessing all the autocorrect my iPad does for me, I just assumed she meant 'something similar'. In context, it makes more sense. Or not.
J21 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 He wants to skip all the BS and left the ball in your court. Do what you will.
happywithlife Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 You can do what ever you want. I always set up an in person date before giving someone my number when I was using online dating. The only time I had someone ask to move to text before setting up a date, he sent me sexually explicit photos. I'm not saying that every guy is like that at all. Why not ask for a date?
PegNosePete Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Looking for something simpler, to me, would suggest he is looking for FWB. I would ask him to clarify "simpler" before texting him. If he gives a good answer then text him, most likely he will either call or text you back to ask you to meet up.
the tank Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I did the same thing yesterday after a long discussion because I had to leave. The girl didnt text me . I feel strange to go back talking online since she didnt text me. you should text him because in other case just move on....
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