matt29 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 My story, Hi guys, just thought I'd share my story of my short 9 month relationship that just ended. I met this girl as I own a cafe and she use to work nearby and come in for coffee. There was something special about her that I felt I had to have her.. Eventually I asked her to let me take her on a date and she accepted. We had a great time together and continued dating for a couple of months. Every time we were together (just weekends) it was awesome. We both felt something that we hadn't felt with anyone else before. But during the week and when we weren't together she seemed to go into her shell and hold back. I spoke to her about this and told her if she wasn't ready for a relationship we should put an end to it and just remain friends before we get to deeply involved with each other, but she said she wanted to take it to the next step.. So we became official. When I spoke to her about holding back she said that she hadn't been looking for anything but wanted to be with me due to the connection we felt. As time went on it was a roller coaster. Awesome times and weeks.. And then it's like she's put up a wall and hold back for weeks.. She's been hurt in the past when her father left her mum, this made her feel responsible for her mum and caused her and her mum to become 'best friends' she still lives at home with her mum, she's 24 and after 6 months together we'd spoken about her moving in with me. In my opinion she was never able to pull away from her mum to put me as the number one person in her life. As time went on I started getting more and more frustrated at the fact that I was only seeing her once a week and at times she'd choose to spend a Saturday night with her mum. I was always respectful of her decision because I didn't want to force her to choose me over her mum even though she admitted to me that she'd rather be with me than her mum but felt guilty. Numerous times she told me 'I want us to work more than anything' I need space. I gave her space. Ended up being 2 weeks in which I went NC. We tried again and same thing.. When we were together it was magical but then she'd just put up this wall and continue to hold back on the relationship. She told me numerous times that she'd never met anyone like me and that it seems to good to be true.. Last week she found out that her mums sister has terminal cancer. Four days later she asked me to meet her and she ended the relationship, 'I want it but I just can't do it anymore' I asked her if this is what she really wants and she replied yes, she also said 'your the sort of guy that will move on quickly and forget about me, and if I try to come back in the future you will have already moved on' I gave her a hug and told her to take care of herself then I walked off. This was one week ago and I've been NC ever since. Seems like something that could have been really special. There was still a spark there but the relationship just wasn't developing.. Very sad as I'll always wonder what it could have been. But I know I need time to heal and then when I feel back to my peak of happiness I'll start dating again. Just wanted to share my story. Thanks for reading!
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