cbplayer Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Please don't think this is a troll because this is actually a very serious matter which is driving me crazy. I really would appreciate any help I can get. I am 19 years old going on 20 and I'm about 6'3, black, 222 lbs and relatively muscular but I just cant get girls. Growing up I had self esteem issues because people used to call me ugly but as I approached my late teens and started college things changed. I've had a lot of girls call me attractive and express interest me. I even have guy friends who are indeed straight who say that I am attractive, so I believe it now. However, the problem is that I just can't get girls. I go to college parties and chat with girls and get their numbers and then text and the next day they don't respond... Sometimes I get numbers and starting texting but eventually the girl just stops replying to me altogether or I cant think of a way to get her in bed with me. This happens to me all the time and it's extremely frustrating. I am a virgin. I just don't know to get girls. It bugs the **** out of me. Also, don't get the impression that I'm a shy and insecure guy. I'm actually known to be funny, outgoing, and confident. None of my friends would believe I typed this email. Please give me advice. I genuinely want to change my life. I don't know what to do. Should I learn PUA ? I just wanna enjoy myself and sleep with girls at times and feel wanted by girls.. It's really driving me crazy.
Assasda Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 But you are insecure. You said that youre friends have to convince you that you are good looking. that should always come from within. Just read more books about it, and work on yourself. Get to be a better person personally, and it usually happens for itself 1
David87 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I'm not sure if this is a troll thread but i'll give it a try. You contradict yourself, at the beginning you said you have self esteem issues and at the end ..............you said you are confident.....well you are not. Next time you get a girls number stop texting her( until she gets bored), instead call her and ask her out(dinner, a walk in the park, a picnic ect). If she rejects you, no problem, do this again until you are confident enough.
jbelle6 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I think you could be confident in some things, but still insecure about things that happened in the past. It's pretty normal. Like a brain block when it comes to following through with girls. When people say nasty stuff it doesn't leave us so easily. Maybe some self help books like mentioned, not sure of any specifically, hope someone has better advice than me!
PegNosePete Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Should I learn PUA ? If all you want is to sleep with girls then sure go ahead. I think in your age group it might work because the girls won't have heard it all a million times before. As you get older you will learn PUA stuff it all a load of horse poo, idealistic garbage that might get you laid once in a while (more likely get a lot of drinks thrown on you), but it won't get you any kind of meaningful relationship. Although I have to admit there are some things you can learn by reading it, as long as you filter out all the cheap tricks and stupid schemes they try to teach you.
Gaeta Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I just wanna enjoy myself and sleep with girls at times and feel wanted by girls.. It's really driving me crazy. Maybe that's the problem, these girls can tell that all you want is to get laid? When you communicate with them is it to ask them out on dates? if not then a girl is going to lose interest real fast. You have to talk the talk and walk the walk.
d0nnivain Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Do you want a GF or do you want to lose your virginity without much regard for the person you are having sex with? If girls sense the later, they are going to run. You need to walk before you run. Next time you are exchanging #s with a girl, ask her on a an actual date. Go from there.
Author cbplayer Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 Maybe that's the problem, these girls can tell that all you want is to get laid? When you communicate with them is it to ask them out on dates? if not then a girl is going to lose interest real fast. You have to talk the talk and walk the walk. I do ask girls on dates and I often get answers like, " Idk when, I'm going to be free" or "Sure we can hang out on a certain day" then they flake. Obviously they're not interested, so , I should move on but the thing is almost every girl does this to me. I don't get it.
Author cbplayer Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 Do you want a GF or do you want to lose your virginity without much regard for the person you are having sex with? If girls sense the later, they are going to run. You need to walk before you run. Next time you are exchanging #s with a girl, ask her on a an actual date. Go from there. Ultimately I want a gf.
ja123 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 OP, you might want to check out this thread started by a terrific poster: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/376960-inexperienced-guy-how-deal
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