Leo-lynx Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I overthink way too much sometimes! So I met this guy online, really nice. We dated for a month and a half. What I did not like is that we only saw each other once a week and that he would text me only once a week he’s a lawyer so he’s extremely busy! I regret that I did not communicate my concerns because I did not want to come across as needy, desperate or pushy! I wanted to go with the flow! He went on a trip for his friend’s wedding and promised that he would get back to me and he did we went on other great dates and then the dealbreaker I messed up, again lack of communication and he would always push or dates because of work. I always ask my best friend for advice. This is so embarrassing: I’m interested in a guy who is wonderful on dates but there’s no communication in between! He tried pushing our date again and it was on a day I had other plans, he tried to re-schedule but I had to work. Again bad communication I should have said lets talk over the phone, I can’t think on my feet sometimes! I asked a friend for advice. I asked him out so we can talk he was very happy and said I don’t like going over a week without seeing you! On dates he always showers me with compliments etc… I thanked my friend by texting “girl you should have a dating service you’re dating tip was awesome!” But the guy gets the text! So embarrassing! He said:” ???? I’m starting to wonder here .”I quickly explained and he said ok no worries Same day he made an excuse and canceled on our plans the next day I wrote to him explaining everything he replied saying “don’t worry everything is okay it’s water under the bridge I trust you!”I never heard from him again A week later I texted to check up on him and he was on the train to go see his best buddy in another town. I ended the conversation with “ok have a nice trip!” He asked me how my week went I kept the convo really short and ended with again have a nice trip. He replied I did not reply and never heard from him again! it’s now been three weeks and I wonder did I mess things up? or was he even interested in me? I am trying to be happy and move forward and enjoy life! I just need support I am not hoping on getting him back but I go from feeling awesome one minute to really sad another minute! I am sad that he made it seem like everything was okay between us and then poof goodbye! He probably moved on with another girl by now ladies please…support!!!!
Gaeta Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I overthink way too much sometimes! So I met this guy online, really nice. We dated for a month and a half. What I did not like is that we only saw each other once a week and that he would text me only once a week he’s a lawyer so he’s extremely busy! I regret that I did not communicate my concerns because I did not want to come across as needy, desperate or pushy! I wanted to go with the flow! One date a week over 6 weeks that is only 6 dates. Yes lawyers are busy but not THAT busy. I work with lawyers and I have personal friends that are lawyers and they have time to date, make phone calls and text, each day. My thought is you were not the only one he was dating. He kept things very casual, no communication, date once a week, that way he kept you at a comfortable distance so nothing too close would develop. I thanked my friend by texting “girl you should have a dating service you’re dating tip was awesome!” But the guy gets the text! That is nothing to get upset over, actually it's kind of funny and he should have found this humorous. You did nothing wrong. He was not that interested in you from the beginning. He would have faded away anyway even without you accidentally sending him that text. Sorry it sucks but it's really not worth losing sleep over him.
Author Leo-lynx Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 Thank you! This is what I needed! Some sort of closure because there is nooooo way I'm going to lose my dignity by texting him. I can now move forward thanks! I have not contacted him and won't anytime soon it would have been desperate if I texted him to ask answers see what I mean?
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