Hannah14 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Getting pretty conflicting advice from my friends about this one from "Aw, he just seems like a really sweet guy who's really in to you!" to "Tell him to sod off - he's a weirdo" so any help is appreciated! So, I’ve known this guy for a week now and we hung out once for two hours during which the entire time it felt like he was sort of steering things way off track by being overly touchy feely etc. I told him no every time this happened and at the end of it we both went our separate ways. He seemed nice enough, if a little persistent so when he asked how I thought it went I told him that I had a nice time and we had a lot in common so it was good to chat. The thing is though...he’s always on whatsapp and whenever I go on there he notices and he sends me constant messages all the time (I’m talking 20ish in a row, if not more) and then starts asking why I’m not replying. I even told him that I don’t use it all the time and that he needs to cool it down with the messaging because he’s going way too fast with all of this. I really don't feel the need to justify myself to somebody I don't even know...does that sound fair? Now it’s just gotten downright creepy. Earlier today he sent me a 400+ word essay on whatsapp about how happy he is that “we’re going out together” and he hopes that we can share everything in our lives together and that he’ll always be there for me etc etc and this is honestly so...weird and it's making me feel really uncomfortable. I’ve literally known the guy a week, I’ve made it clear I wasn’t interested when he was putting moves on me, and when he sends messages or phones or whatever I rarely reply and if I do it’s to say something along the lines of “you really don’t need to send me hundreds of messages”. Just now he texts to tell me that he saw me in town today and because he was "walking the same way" he just happened to see me walk down a road and in to a house and he asked if this was where I lived...and could he come over to chat to me in person seeing as i'm rubbish at texting him. I genuinely don’t want to be an ******* to him just incase he's just a really overly enthusiastic nice guy but holy cow. Is this kind of behaviour normal?
Gaeta Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 No it's not normal Yes he is an over cligny weirdo and weirdo is a mild term, he sounds deranged. 2
xxmusical Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 No...that's not normal! I hope he doesn't stalk you. Eek!
Mrin Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Holy smokes that made me cringe just reading it. Ya that guy is a grade A whack job. I would run. Or tell him your overly jealous boyfriend just came back from jail/the marines/a MMA training camp/the police academy - take your pick. 1
jbelle6 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 OMG, he's the male version of the overly attached girlfriend meme. Overly Attached Girlfriend memes | quickmeme 1
Assasda Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Guys like this you just gotta tell him that you dont care for him and he needs to move on
Emilia Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Just now he texts to tell me that he saw me in town today and because he was "walking the same way" he just happened to see me walk down a road and in to a house and he asked if this was where I lived...and could he come over to chat to me in person seeing as i'm rubbish at texting him. I genuinely don’t want to be an ******* to him just incase he's just a really overly enthusiastic nice guy but holy cow. Is this kind of behaviour normal? You have to get out of your head that he is a really enthusiastic nice guy because he isn't!!! Above you have described a situation where he was trying to set up a scenario to force you do something you don't want to do: to find out your address so he could come over to chat to you in person because you aren't willing to chat to him via text! Do you really think a genuinely nice person does this?
Gottabestrong Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 He'd scare me, my advice is to stop talking to him.
regine_phalange Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 If he is under 14 then it's somehow valid. If not, congratulations, you just acquired a new stalker 1
regine_phalange Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 OMG, he's the male version of the overly attached girlfriend meme. Overly Attached Girlfriend memes | quickmeme This girl is so . 1
martaldn Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 OMG, he's the male version of the overly attached girlfriend meme. Overly Attached Girlfriend memes | quickmeme hahahahah!!! scary!!!!!!
Emilia Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 This girl is so . Very funny 'my love is like a candle...' 1
Author Hannah14 Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 This girl is so . Haha! Wow I never even thought about it like that. Actually parts of that one are awkwardly comparable. All jokes aside though, what was just a worrying inconvenience a few days ago is getting out of hand. I told him that he was being really too overbearing and emotional and I just couldn't deal with that from someone I don't even know and that that is my final answer, and final reply to his messages and that he needs to respect that. Immediately afterwards he told me about how his last surviving relative, his mum, is seriously ill and will die before the end of the year and that she has tried to kill herself 2 times in the past couple of years and that is why he is being emotional. He then ended by saying "Oh, but you don't want to hear about all of this because i'm too emotional and you can't deal with it, huh robot girl?" (Robot girl is now his nickname for me). I've blocked him now, but I still have to see him at work a lot. I do feel guilty and I kind of get the feeling that that's what he's aiming for. Er. Is that an awful thing to say?
michellew Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Haha! Wow I never even thought about it like that. Actually parts of that one are awkwardly comparable. All jokes aside though, what was just a worrying inconvenience a few days ago is getting out of hand. I told him that he was being really too overbearing and emotional and I just couldn't deal with that from someone I don't even know and that that is my final answer, and final reply to his messages and that he needs to respect that. Immediately afterwards he told me about how his last surviving relative, his mum, is seriously ill and will die before the end of the year and that she has tried to kill herself 2 times in the past couple of years and that is why he is being emotional. He then ended by saying "Oh, but you don't want to hear about all of this because i'm too emotional and you can't deal with it, huh robot girl?" (Robot girl is now his nickname for me). I've blocked him now, but I still have to see him at work a lot. I do feel guilty and I kind of get the feeling that that's what he's aiming for. Er. Is that an awful thing to say? Yes, he is using guilt as an attempt to get you back. Don't fall for it. This guy sounds crazy. If his mom had tried to kill herself twice, it sounds like some serious issues run in the family. Run and never look back.
MidwestUSA Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Oh great, the dying last relative story. He's a whack job. Hopefully harmless, but make sure you know as much info on him as possible, including license plate tag # if he drives, in case you have to call the police. Working with him might be an advantage. If he's out of hand there, take it to HR.
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