youngcouture123 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Me and my ex dated 2 yrs ago (online relationship) and it was a pretty bad break up.for me aleast. But for some reason i just cant stop thinking about him.i try so hard to not think about him, but i just think about him even more.And its driving me crazy.sometimes i wished i could erase him from my mind and fully and truly get over him.But i dont know how.because no matter how many times i tell myself that i dont want him, im over him, i dont care about him, in all reality hes all i want.And i hate myself for that.
addyBroken Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Its so bloody hard forgetting a loved one. Even harder if that person a first love. I'm in the space where I'm still with her and yet I'm not. I think about her every waking moment. Cant sleep or eat. Its driving me up the wall. All I can say is when we first broke up. I went on dating sites and slept with a few girls. But that only made me feel like I was cheating.
seminoles84 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Have you tried to talk to a therapist? It might help finding the real underlining issues of why you can't seem to let go.
Author youngcouture123 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 no i havent talked to a therapist, plus im too young for all these im just 15
seminoles84 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Oh wow.. 15. Ha I remember my high school sweetheart. Dated 4 years.. Break up was painful but you eventually move on. Just gotta get out ther. You're way to young to be on here with these type of problems! You'll look back at this and laugh down the road. I could have never been with my high school sweetheart.
Author youngcouture123 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 yea i know that but its so annoying how much i think about him because apart of me is over him and the other isnt and i just want that to be all over so i can just enjoy myself or atleast find some closure.
SkyLex Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 hi youngcouture123, maybe you have to start a new thread that has nothing to do with your ex. because no matter how you try to erase him from your mind, the term "him" would always appear and it will direct you back to your memories about him.. so why not start a new thread, like "how to find my new prince charming"
jbelle6 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I think when people online date they are in love sometimes with the fantasy of a person and not a real person. Especially if you've never actually met in real life. I am not saying feelings are not real or anything like that, just that you have never seen this person dealing with stress of day to day life, how he is when he's out with friends etc etc. When we are online we tend to try to present our best, not necessarily our most real. I think that might be making this a bit harder on you than if he were a guy you knew from school or something. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you have what is probably a very built up version of this person in your head that is probably a bit off from what things really are. 1
somecamel Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Me and my ex dated 2 yrs ago (online relationship) and it was a pretty bad break up.for me aleast. But for some reason i just cant stop thinking about him.i try so hard to not think about him, but i just think about him even more.And its driving me crazy.sometimes i wished i could erase him from my mind and fully and truly get over him.But i dont know how.because no matter how many times i tell myself that i dont want him, im over him, i dont care about him, in all reality hes all i want.And i hate myself for that. Stop punishing yourself, it's been 2 years, it really is time to move on. Did you actually meet this guy or was it purely online?
gaius Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 First love can be a tough hump to get over. I thought I'd never get over mine but you do eventually, don't worry. Just give it whatever time it needs and don't try to force anything.
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