Ruby Slippers Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Besides, getting sweaty working out leads to a shared shower later. Exactly. I have this very sexy memory of playing 2 hours of intense tennis with my man one afternoon, then going home, taking a shower together, and having wild sex on the towels in the living room floor, with the workout endorphins still flowing 2
Author waiting4u Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 I'd love to have a workout date but not before we had dated for a while and had sex. Then he'd have seen the best of me and wouldn't be put off. Besides, getting sweaty working out leads to a shared shower later. This. I love the idea of bonding via endorphins and all that, but in the early stages when a guy is still deciding whether they like me or not, I feel like I want to put my best face forward. Here's the depth of my stupidity and vanity in this situation - my crush and I do a lot of texting. We've only been out once so far and haven't seen each other in a while (because he thought I didn't like him and I thought he didn't like me - it's kind of ridiculous). My friend and I went to a kickboxing class yesterday and we had a Facebook exchange about meeting up there so he knew the time of the class. Well, he basically did a drive by and peeked at me! I looked up at the beginning of the class and he was in the lobby trying to act all nonchalant but definitely checking me out. When he wasn't around after the class let out, I sort of freaked - had this "OMG he saw me in my sleeveless top and is now doesn't like me anymore!" :roll eyes: Yes. I am an idiot. SERIOUSLY It took me about 30 minutes to realize this line of thought was utterly stupid. He texted later and we are going hiking on Sunday, so all is good, but I guess that's the kind of thing I worry about. The worst part is that he's really attractive - I don't know if it's just me that thinks this, but I have this fear that he's better looking than me and out of my league. That said, at least he's awkward and a bit insecure as well, so maybe we're a good match. I'll keep you posted.
Author waiting4u Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 Exactly. I have this very sexy memory of playing 2 hours of intense tennis with my man one afternoon, then going home, taking a shower together, and having wild sex on the towels in the living room floor, with the workout endorphins still flowing This is totally my sexual fantasy. Endorphins, shower. Kill me now. 1
Emilia Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 This. I love the idea of bonding via endorphins and all that, but in the early stages when a guy is still deciding whether they like me or not, I feel like I want to put my best face forward. Here's the depth of my stupidity and vanity in this situation - my crush and I do a lot of texting. We've only been out once so far and haven't seen each other in a while (because he thought I didn't like him and I thought he didn't like me - it's kind of ridiculous). My friend and I went to a kickboxing class yesterday and we had a Facebook exchange about meeting up there so he knew the time of the class. Well, he basically did a drive by and peeked at me! I looked up at the beginning of the class and he was in the lobby trying to act all nonchalant but definitely checking me out. When he wasn't around after the class let out, I sort of freaked - had this "OMG he saw me in my sleeveless top and is now doesn't like me anymore!" :roll eyes: Yes. I am an idiot. SERIOUSLY It took me about 30 minutes to realize this line of thought was utterly stupid. He texted later and we are going hiking on Sunday, so all is good, but I guess that's the kind of thing I worry about. The worst part is that he's really attractive - I don't know if it's just me that thinks this, but I have this fear that he's better looking than me and out of my league. That said, at least he's awkward and a bit insecure as well, so maybe we're a good match. I'll keep you posted. I think being yourself is always the best policy because the guy gets to like the real you, not the made-up doll. Many guys prefer natural anyway and what you consider attractive is not necessarily what he considers attractive. I'd always caution a person - especially a woman - about wanting to appeal to someone so much, especially in the early stages. It's kind of .... desperate, to be honest. And insecure. You should be yourself and if that's not good enough for a guy, it's best to find out early on before you get attached. The idea that you have to work extra hard to get him to like you is something I always find a little sad. 3
Author waiting4u Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 Yes, this one turns me into an utterly pathetic ball of goo. :roll eyes: It's beyond sad. But you are absolutely right. The question should be - is he good enough to be with ME? Que sera, sera.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Put on some waterproof eyeliner and you are good to go
todreaminblue Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 (edited) my ex and i were very very close when we worked out together, many years were spent in this very close way, when he worked away i would go for walks with my dog i would do aerobics with my dog she would watch and wait for the walk.......which eventually turned to sprint walks...half sprint half fast paced walk i am a sprinter and marathon walker.......walk for kms ........so instead of walking ks i would do sprints the rottie loved them made her goofy .........smilin....when my ex came back we would kick box sprint walk and long leisurely walks........with kids attached..he would watch em do aerobics and say there's my groover.......... very very close....it is a bond for me...and ultimately a very strong bond with him when we did work out together there was no looking elsewhere ...he had eyes fixed somewhere on me..........our sex life off the charts we would swim at night when the kids were asleep and our pool had a waterfall........i am an excellent diver......next topic it would be heaven for me to get fit with a guy .....and i know any relationship involving fitness mental physical emotional workouts......lasts and can last for a very long time....... if a guy cant handle seeing my red face i really do glow........then he isnt the guy for me...most guys i have been with have seen me at this point and it istn a turn off ......they are proud of my resistance.......to sweat and how when i am red faced i am bouncing with happiness i really dotn give a crap what i look like i am happy..a recent ex wanted no walking no real fitness even though he said he was into it at first...and is sayign no wagain when we have sp[lit..... preferred pills vitamins and cars...i like natural enhancement.........i dont need drugs or cars.......i cant drive anyway.........so if a guy wants to workout date with me..i would be on my way to a really happy place.....deb Edited June 5, 2014 by todreaminblue 1
Els Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Ah, don't worry about looking sweaty. I'm sure they're not expecting you to turn up for a run in heels! Some guys really enjoy sharing hobbies with their date/partner, and it might be even more attractive to them than your skirt, heels, and eyeliner is. That being said, it'd depend on the kind of 'work out' date too, I guess. To me, nature hikes and such would be good, cause it's an experience together. But if he just wanted to meet at the gym, that'd seem slightly 'lazy' to me. At the end of the day, though, do whatever you feel comfortable with.
isisisweeping Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Why do all the men I meet lately want me to work out with them? I tell them I'm a runner and they want to go running. My crush (because I can't actually say I'm dating this one yet) is into martial arts and was over the moon when he discovered I took a class at his kickboxing gym. He says he hangs out there all the time and it would be "so awesome if we worked out together!" I'm not real thrilled about the concept of the workout date because when I work out I'm sweaty, my face is all red, my hair is in a raggedy bun, and I honestly look much better with eyeliner, my hair down, in a skirt and heels. Are guys turned on by this or something? I love the workout date. It's cheap or free.. adrenaline flowing, efficient use of time, make sure we have some things in common... I'd be happy with workout date after workout date 2
VanillaLife Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I posted about this the other day. Whether or not I should suggest a bike ride for first date. Against the better judgement of the masses I decided to suggest it. I plan on trying to "romanticize" a bit by making a nice picnic to have en route, but to me it just seems a more enjoyable way to test the water than meeting for a coffee, drink etc. And any awkward silences pass by easily! And for sure all those endorphins make everyone look and feel sexy
clia Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I do see it as getting to know one another, and in some cases what you're getting to know is that the other doesn't enjoy workout dates! My h and I have enjoyed working out together since dating and still do, so it's simply a shared interest like going to a movie together (I'd much rather work out together). I don't mind workout dates at all once you are an established couple. I thought the OP was talking about a first or second date. I also see a big difference between say, going on a five or eight mile run or doing a Cross fit class, versus going on a hike or doing something less intense. Or maybe I'm the only one who gets all red-faced, sweaty, and gross when I work out hard? I also wouldn't consider playing tennis or another sport as a "work out" date. That's more of an activity date to me.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 It's taken me way too long to figure out that in most cases, a man who is interested in you is going to be much less judgmental about your body than you are. In my experience, most men are looking for their core preferences in body type and structure to be satisfied, and the rest is icing. I could have saved myself a lot of needless self-nitpicking and worry by realizing this long ago. 5
Emilia Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 It's taken me way too long to figure out that in most cases, a man who is interested in you is going to be much less judgmental about your body than you are. In my experience, most men are looking for their core preferences in body type and structure to be satisfied, and the rest is icing. I could have saved myself a lot of needless self-nitpicking and worry by realizing this long ago. Agree with this. Many of them are attracted to a range of different looks because there are certain things they care about as a 'core preference' and the rest is just nice to have. 2
Grumpybutfun Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I always loved work out dates, and suggested them often. If a girl didn't want to, I found that we weren't really compatible. My wife and I have a serious Saturday morning standing date where we work out for a couple of hours, hiking or running.....we look forward to it all week. We usually have our date, have a bit of breakfast or a picnic and a long shower together. One of our first dates was a forrest run....we came to a wet area and she had on these cute little white tennis shoes so I got to pick her up and carry her for a good portion of it. She still says she swoons when thinking about it... I've never understood going to movies since you don't really get to interact very much. We go to the movies, of course, but when we were getting to know each other we preferred outdoorsy stuff. She paints so we spend a lot of time hiking to pretty locales so she can paint or sketch. I honestly prefer women natural too. Makeup and perfect hair isn't as much a turn on for me as natural. Occasional dolling up is great but I don't expect her to be a cover girl all the time. I dated one of those girls once, and I was pretty bored with her after a week. Best, Grumps 2
Ruby Slippers Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 My wife and I have a serious Saturday morning standing date where we work out for a couple of hours, hiking or running.....we look forward to it all week. We usually have our date, have a bit of breakfast or a picnic and a long shower together. I aspire to a marriage like yours 1
Versacehottie Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 In support of these sorts of dates, I forgot to say that it works well for another reason too. On a classic dinner date, as a generalization, women are more in their element situationally--they know how to dress up better than the guy, like nice restaurants, know where to go etc. A workout date gives a guy a chance to be more in HIS element or at least what he thinks is. He can show you a few things, doesn't have to worry about what he is wearing and where to go as much--those things will come more naturally to him likely on this kind of date. They will feel great about themselves. Guys are usually trying to prove they are a good catch and this is a situation where they feel they can show-off or at least be comfortable. Let a person feel good on the date and they likely will have good feelings toward you.
Bonnie Potter Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I'm not real thrilled about the concept of the workout date because when I work out I'm sweaty, my face is all red, my hair is in a raggedy bun, and I honestly look much better with eyeliner, my hair down, in a skirt and heels. Are guys turned on by this or something? Probably, a lot of guys I've talked to lately claim to be turned on most by natural beauty, without make-up and all that. Also, the red face and sweat without make-up conjures up images of primordial sex.
Leigh 87 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Lovely. Except. .... I am a curvy gal and my bf is naturally thin We like walking together!
learning_slowly Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 active and fit guys have triple the rate of spousal abuse What evidence is that based on? I've never even slapped a woman when I've been slapped by one, and I goto the gym at least 3 times a week. However, I suppose if you look at the logic, a skinny weak guy would have a hard time dominating a girl with his strength. But then I imagine they would use emotional abuse. Depends which you think is worse. I think you should aim for a guy that has been bought up not to hit women.
Author waiting4u Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 Probably, a lot of guys I've talked to lately claim to be turned on most by natural beauty, without make-up and all that. Also, the red face and sweat without make-up conjures up images of primordial sex. What is primordial sex? I want some of that lol. Hey, I've discovered cute workout clothes - it helps.
irc333 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I fail to see the problem, actually this would be a BETTER date than a typical dinner date as you're: 1. Interacting with each other. 2. Interacting together on something where you have both common interests 3. He doesn't care if you're sweaty, hair in the bun, and have a red face, did that ever occur to you? That's just an insecurity you need to get over on your part. Why do all the men I meet lately want me to work out with them? I tell them I'm a runner and they want to go running. My crush (because I can't actually say I'm dating this one yet) is into martial arts and was over the moon when he discovered I took a class at his kickboxing gym. He says he hangs out there all the time and it would be "so awesome if we worked out together!" I'm not real thrilled about the concept of the workout date because when I work out I'm sweaty, my face is all red, my hair is in a raggedy bun, and I honestly look much better with eyeliner, my hair down, in a skirt and heels. Are guys turned on by this or something?
RedRobin Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 In support of these sorts of dates, I forgot to say that it works well for another reason too. On a classic dinner date, as a generalization, women are more in their element situationally--they know how to dress up better than the guy, like nice restaurants, know where to go etc. A workout date gives a guy a chance to be more in HIS element or at least what he thinks is. He can show you a few things, doesn't have to worry about what he is wearing and where to go as much--those things will come more naturally to him likely on this kind of date. They will feel great about themselves. Guys are usually trying to prove they are a good catch and this is a situation where they feel they can show-off or at least be comfortable. Let a person feel good on the date and they likely will have good feelings toward you. Depends on the girl and guy. I've outdone plenty of guys I've gone on activity dates with. Not intentionally. Just happens. To THIS girl, restaurants are for more sedentary people. If a guy suggests it and can't be swayed to do something more active instead, it means we aren't compatible. 1
nofeelings22 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Why do all the men I meet lately want me to work out with them? I tell them I'm a runner and they want to go running. My crush (because I can't actually say I'm dating this one yet) is into martial arts and was over the moon when he discovered I took a class at his kickboxing gym. He says he hangs out there all the time and it would be "so awesome if we worked out together!" I'm not real thrilled about the concept of the workout date because when I work out I'm sweaty, my face is all red, my hair is in a raggedy bun, and I honestly look much better with eyeliner, my hair down, in a skirt and heels. Are guys turned on by this or something? It's because we all dream of a girl we think is sexy, who is also really cool and we can share common interests with. Where this really goes wrong is when guys want a thin, in shape girl that can share their interest of downing beers, wings and huge dinners....
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