waiting4u Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Why do all the men I meet lately want me to work out with them? I tell them I'm a runner and they want to go running. My crush (because I can't actually say I'm dating this one yet) is into martial arts and was over the moon when he discovered I took a class at his kickboxing gym. He says he hangs out there all the time and it would be "so awesome if we worked out together!" I'm not real thrilled about the concept of the workout date because when I work out I'm sweaty, my face is all red, my hair is in a raggedy bun, and I honestly look much better with eyeliner, my hair down, in a skirt and heels. Are guys turned on by this or something? 2
Bumpin in My Trunk Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Well read blushing faces are. Idk about red faces due to physical work though But the whole natural look is very appealing to men. I sure do like it. Make up is nice too. But natural beauty is always a plus 2
Potz4prez Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Hahaha... I think they just want to see you in workout pants or shorts Maybe they're banking on your natural endorphins making you like them more haha. Honestly, if a dude is attracted to you, it doesn't matter what you do with your make up, how your hair is or what you're wearing. 5
Priv Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Because they found common ground and are trying to bond using that common ground... 21
Bumpin in My Trunk Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Honestly, if a dude is attracted to you, it doesn't matter what you do with your make up, how your hair is or what you're wearing. True true. Curly, straight, bun, messy all sexy
Fondue Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Because they found common ground and are trying to bond using that common ground... This. I never had a "workout" date, but I imagine it to be really easy. You don't have to focus on the other person whatsoever. You just both exercise for the class, then you're done! It's like you guys "hung out," but not really. It requires very little romantic effort (it might require a lot of physical effort, though!). Also, it might be that the guy wants to "show off" a bit. Maybe he is muscular, maybe he is just really good at what he does, or anything really similar. Either way, it just seems like an effortless thing. 2
Emilia Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 They want to share a hobby. Whatever you do, please don't be a princess about looking sweaty and all that. Guys love a woman who is up for anything. 18
PegNosePete Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I'm not real thrilled about the concept of the workout date because when I work out I'm sweaty, my face is all red, my hair is in a raggedy bun, and I honestly look much better with eyeliner, my hair down, in a skirt and heels. So you prefer guys who will judge you on appearance, than shared interests and having a fun time? You might want to re-evaluate that strategy And yes as said above they are trying to find common ground. Rather than seeking out ulterior motives why not simply say "sure maybe one day but how about coffee first?" 3
Versacehottie Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I'd say the main reason is because it's common ground, the secondary reasons are: he wants to see you in workout clothes bc it's sexy, it's a low-key date, you must seem down-to-earth enough to do this sort of thing. All good signs. And potential for a very sexy date. I wouldn't do for a first date unless there's absolutely no way around it but fine otherwise. Actually love it.
GoreSP Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Why do all the men I meet lately want me to work out with them? I tell them I'm a runner and they want to go running. My crush (because I can't actually say I'm dating this one yet) is into martial arts and was over the moon when he discovered I took a class at his kickboxing gym. He says he hangs out there all the time and it would be "so awesome if we worked out together!" I'm not real thrilled about the concept of the workout date because when I work out I'm sweaty, my face is all red, my hair is in a raggedy bun, and I honestly look much better with eyeliner, my hair down, in a skirt and heels. Are guys turned on by this or something? Well look at it this way: if you are going to date this guy, at some point in time, he is going to see you when you look like absolute crap, so might as well be done with it! I can imagine they can use it to weed out the high maintenance girls from the ones that are able to go 'well, I look like crap but meh' too? 2
GoreSP Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Hahaha... I think they just want to see you in workout pants or shorts Maybe they're banking on your natural endorphins making you like them more haha. Honestly, if a dude is attracted to you, it doesn't matter what you do with your make up, how your hair is or what you're wearing. Or they want her to check out their pipes yio! 1
clia Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Why do all the men I meet lately want me to work out with them? I tell them I'm a runner and they want to go running. My crush (because I can't actually say I'm dating this one yet) is into martial arts and was over the moon when he discovered I took a class at his kickboxing gym. He says he hangs out there all the time and it would be "so awesome if we worked out together!" I'm not real thrilled about the concept of the workout date because when I work out I'm sweaty, my face is all red, my hair is in a raggedy bun, and I honestly look much better with eyeliner, my hair down, in a skirt and heels. Are guys turned on by this or something? I'm with you -- I want to get dressed up and look cute on early dates -- not be all sweaty. I also prefer to work out alone and run with headphones on. To me, these kinds of dates don't show any real motivation to get to know me. The guy has to make no effort. "Well, I need to run anyway, so why don't you just come along with me and I'll see if I like you?" If not, no loss -- I still got my workout in. Or the martial arts guy -- he doesn't even have to go out of his way since he'll be at the gym anyway, so hey, let's work out while you're there! Blech.
kaylan Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 They want to share a hobby. Whatever you do, please don't be a princess about looking sweaty and all that. Guys love a woman who is up for anything. This. As a guy who loves gym and various sports, its great meeting a woman whos active and can do these things with me. If a girl tells me she lifts, or plays soccer, or is into those tough obstacle courses races that have gotten popular....oh man, I swoon for girls like that. Just go with it OP. One of my friends from the gym had a little workout date with one of her crushes in the past, and she absolutely enjoyed herself. Shes very into fitness herself. Im more impressed by a girl whos fit and can keep up with me, rather than her trying to look all girly and pretty. Getting dolled up is typical, and theres plenty of eye candy out there. Its much more rare to find a kick ass active girl in my area. Just go have fun, and then you can do the dolled up date another time. 1
Candy_Pants Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 What other activities can you think of that would leave you red faced, sweaty, taunt, and a bit tired, or reved up??? Really, it's a bonding experience. I was usually the one who suggested "work out dates". But mostly just hiking or biking. And always somewhere with incredible views. For me it was about seeing how fast, or if they pussed out. How they reacted to the heat, views, nature, experience. It says a lot about someone. 4
Ruby Slippers Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I love doing sporty, active things with my man. I'm always pleased and excited when my guy is up for playing tennis and doing active things with me. It's fun and sexy! 1
Versacehottie Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 i can tell you that every date where I've done something active with a guy I felt like a corner was turned. As in if we were just casually dating, then they began to see me more as girlfriend material after such a date. In fact, I wouldn't say afterward, it would be happening right in front of my eyes. I think it lets a guy know that he can be real with you too. (one of the ways). Without everything being stiff and formal like a dinner date is in comparison. Try it. plus there is the added bonus that it's a fact that endorphins and adrenalin generated because of sporting activity will be attributed to their excitement to you. 3
FitChick Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I'd love to have a workout date but not before we had dated for a while and had sex. Then he'd have seen the best of me and wouldn't be put off. Besides, getting sweaty working out leads to a shared shower later. 2
michellew Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I'm very feminine, love to wear dresses, and get dolled up for dates. I also love to CrossFit, kickbox, and yoga. I was recently in the same predicament as you...a guy wanted to do a 5 mile MUD run with me as our date. I said why not (I love fun runs) and gave it a go. We ended up having a blast and it was a great bonding experience! He was attracted to the fact that I pulled through the grueling run, not my sweaty, muddy, makeup-less look. Give it a shot! I'm sure you'll look cuter than you think. 3
Harradin Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I've trained with the opposite sex and not once thought of a date! Gonna have to use that line - although I don't think a lady will want to do judo/kickboxing with a 6'1 195lb power house Training on your own is boring aswell, they may just want someone there to motivate them to train! I try to train with others (who are better than me) so I get motivated to go and train and not get bored, and so I get a great workout!
hotpotato Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 That could actually be fun! I would like a guy to do active things with me.
RedRobin Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I prefer activity dates over coffee/dinner. Too many people claim to be active when they really aren't... OR their idea of 'active' is not the other person's idea of 'active'. Plus I'm with Gore... the guy is going to see you without lots of makeup and fancy clothes eventually. Don't you like how you look without makeup too? 4
jbelle6 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I wish I got asked to do things like that. Next relationship I am in, the person HAS to be active and fit just because I spend so much time on those activities it just makes sense. I had the opposite this past relationship and it's the one thing I didn't enjoy.
Omei Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Couples workouts builds a bond over a common goal to get fit and healthy the support of each other can be very rewarding towards your relationship. 2
GoreSP Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I wish I got asked to do things like that. Next relationship I am in, the person HAS to be active and fit just because I spend so much time on those activities it just makes sense. I had the opposite this past relationship and it's the one thing I didn't enjoy. I brought a date to roller derby practice once. Je never called me back - not sure why
xxoo Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I'm with you -- I want to get dressed up and look cute on early dates -- not be all sweaty. I also prefer to work out alone and run with headphones on. To me, these kinds of dates don't show any real motivation to get to know me. The guy has to make no effort. "Well, I need to run anyway, so why don't you just come along with me and I'll see if I like you?" If not, no loss -- I still got my workout in. Or the martial arts guy -- he doesn't even have to go out of his way since he'll be at the gym anyway, so hey, let's work out while you're there! Blech. I do see it as getting to know one another, and in some cases what you're getting to know is that the other doesn't enjoy workout dates! My h and I have enjoyed working out together since dating and still do, so it's simply a shared interest like going to a movie together (I'd much rather work out together).
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