pnkgrl Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 Ok...this is gonna be long. My fiance and I have been together for 7 years (6 of those years we have been engaged and living together). We were like best friends, really close, and neither one of us thought we would ever be apart. For the last six months or so, he has been kind of withdrawn and very moody. Whenever I asked what was wrong, he always said he hated his job and that's why he was in such a bad mood.. and that it wasnt anything I did. Then, these past few weeks there were several strange little incidents that alone I didnt think too much about.. such as working WAY longer hours on the weekends, coming home later during the week, and one particular incident where his cell phone rang and he looked like a deer in headlights. When I asked if he was going to answer it.. he just threw the phone down and said.. no.. it might be an account that needs something at work. (which i thought was strange because it was like 9 at night) Anyway.. 3 days ago when I got home.. he had already gotten home from work and left a note that said.. I forgot we had to do inventory i have to go back to work. Well... inventory usually lasts an hour or so... so when 5 hours later rolled around... I was pretty suspicious. I got a bad feeling in my stomach and suddenly.. for the first time in 7 years.. had a feeling he was cheating on me. He had just gotten his cell phone 3 weeks earlier.. so I thought I would go online and check the bill. ARGGH.. that was the worst feeling I have ever felt... I saw 31 pages of the bill (each page had probably like 15-20 lines on it).. and about 99% of the messages were from one phone number. To give you a hint how much voice/texting this is... he spent $120 in 3 weeks. OUCH! So I called the number.. and asked the girl who she was. She told me her name and asked who I was.. and I was like this is so and so's fiance of seven years.. why the hell are you talking to my man day and night. She said that he said we had broken up and he never mentioned that we were engaged. So I called him and told him he was busted and I called AMY. Instead of worrying about the feelings of his gf of 7 years.. he just kept saying.. what did u say to her.. what did you say.. he was so worried about this other girl. Anyway.. when he got home he said that he doesnt love me anymore and wants me out of his life. This FLOORED me... seriously.. I never imagined this EVER happening. Obviously I was crying because I was hurt.. and he turned into this psycho jerk immediately. I have never seen this side of him. After a few hours he was like.. if your gonna keep crying and carrying on like this I am going to kick you out.. or I am going to go stay at my friends house for the next 6 months(until our lease is up). For the last 3 days he has been a total ass to me. I have been trying to be strong and acting like it doesnt bother me.. even when he talks to this girl on the phone right next to me. It almost seems like he is trying to make me feel bad... and the more I pretend it doesnt bother me... the more he is a jerk. So my question is.. what is up with that? He dumped me.. stays out all night long with this girl.. and treats me like crap when I'm NOT moping around the house?? BTW his response for the breakup was that I was his first real gf and we started dating when he was 18 and I was 20. He said he hasnt had time to live his life up yet.. partying and being with other girls and stuff. So is this like an early "mid" life crisis? Also, I dont have enough money to move out and pay for the rent for the last 6 months of our lease. Does anyone have any helpful tips on how to stay sane while he is living the crazy life outside of the house and trying to bring me down and break my spirit at home? Its pretty annoying. I was torn apart at first and really depressed.. but since he is being such a jerk.. I have quickly moved from sad to plain p*ssed off! He doesnt in the slightest way resemble the guy I know. I am still pretty much in shock!
Israfil Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 Leave him NOW. Break you lease. Find a way to pay the fees. The sooner you move on, the better off you will be. He's slime. Move on.
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