I couldve dumped her before but she did. Anyone relate?

May 30, 2014

Ok. So here's my lil story. My name is Joe.

Well this all started in Jan when I had to leave the US for family reasons. So my girl begged me to come bring her. So I did right before Valentine's day. We were staying at my uncle's fora month then I got us a room really cheap in a good area..

Well moved in and she changed so much. She started wanting to party, drinking almost everyday. She said she missed home.

Well she stayed here almost 3 months and when i book her to the airport she cried. Sayin she d be back in 2 months..I though. Ok

She got home and she told me. Then I wrote to her to come back. But she would juay read it. And even changed her relationship status from "in.a relationship" to just blank..but then when she left she tagged me on her fb and saying she barely had mo ed in where I was staying (country) weird. Huh? A week after. I noticed she blocked me..

So days went by and I decided to do the no contact rule..so 2 weeks ago she would sayat just a hi that was on a Monday, Tuesday she said another hi at 4 am. Then at 6 am.she added me on google+ I ignored her and on Wednesday when I got home, lanlord told me she had messaged her asking if he had a room for rent. I was like. Damn.. what the hell is she thinking... Of course I told him to say no. And he told me he didn't even reply.

WWell memorial weekend came..she didn't write to me till Monday. Saying hi. Ignored her, then Tue she send me a friend request on facebook again at 1 am. Wednesday she sent another hi. Ignored her. But she asked one of my fnds if I was ok. I contacted that friend and she told him that she just wanted to see if I was still alive.

Why would she say that to him? Just to boost her ego? She said to him she was afraid I would kill myself. But like always, all the stuff that comes out her mouth is always to make her look good. Her pride is just too big. I love this girl with all my heart we had a bunch of good times together I just don't understand her. All the times she would say hi or tried adding me at weird hours just don't add up.

And btw she still hasn't errased my pics from her fb..

Thanks for your time

And thanks for any serious input.

Edited May 30, 2014 by JoeFallkon

May 30, 2014

She may simply not be willing to do an international long distance relationship. As much as she may like you, admitting it will just give you hope to keep chasing her & she doesn't want that.

May 30, 2014

Looks like she may be having second thoughts and realized her mistake. Now she is trying everything to get the connection back. Also, there may have been someone else and that person is no longer interested. I think you're doing the right thing. It's probably best to move on.

May 30, 2014

She actually wanted to marry me here, even when my aunt got her her plane ticket. She wanted to stay, that's why I got the room I'm.at now..

But she changed as soon.as we moved here. Seein that the guys partied everyweekend. And we argued about that cuz we were short w money..

Yea. That's what I was thinking. I know she misses me..She doesn't have anyone, just friends that say they're friends. But not really. She can't count on her family either..

She has told me I was her only family and when I took her to the hospital she said no guy ever waited for her..

I would just like to understand why she does.t talk to me now..she didn't even have the guts to break up with me. She just changed her fb relationship status.. I know she knows that my fnd contacted me when she said she was afraid something happened to me.. but I'm.still going to do that nc rule..maybe 2/3 more weeks. Hopefully she ll text me more than a hi..

May 30, 2014

Ok. So here's my lil story. My name is Joe.
Well this all started in Jan when I had to leave the US for family reasons. So my girl begged me to come bring her. So I did right before Valentine's day. We were staying at my uncle's fora month then I got us a room really cheap in a good area..
Well moved in and she changed so much. She started wanting to party, drinking almost everyday. She said she missed home.

Well she stayed here almost 3 months and when i book her to the airport she cried. Sayin she d be back in 2 months..I though. Ok

She got home and she told me. Then I wrote to her to come back. But she would juay read it. And even changed her relationship status from "in.a relationship" to just blank..but then when she left she tagged me on her fb and saying she barely had mo ed in where I was staying (country) weird. Huh? A week after. I noticed she blocked me..

So days went by and I decided to do the no contact rule..so 2 weeks ago she would sayat just a hi that was on a Monday, Tuesday she said another hi at 4 am. Then at 6 am.she added me on google+ I ignored her and on Wednesday when I got home, lanlord told me she had messaged her asking if he had a room for rent. I was like. Damn.. what the hell is she thinking... Of course I told him to say no. And he told me he didn't even reply.
WWell memorial weekend came..she didn't write to me till Monday. Saying hi. Ignored her, then Tue she send me a friend request on facebook again at 1 am. Wednesday she sent another hi. Ignored her. But she asked one of my fnds if I was ok. I contacted that friend and she told him that she just wanted to see if I was still alive.
Why would she say that to him? Just to boost her ego? She said to him she was afraid I would kill myself. But like always, all the stuff that comes out her mouth is always to make her look good. Her pride is just too big. I love this girl with all my heart we had a bunch of good times together I just don't understand her. All the times she would say hi or tried adding me at weird hours just don't add up.

And btw she still hasn't errased my pics from her fb..

Thanks for your time
And thanks for any serious input.

I'm not a girl, but I can answer your questions.

She is tugging on the leash. She wants to make sure you are still there. You ignoring her is driving her crazy. She wants you to message her, call, SOMETHING. I applaud you for not answering those messages.

It honestly doesnt mean much currently. If you respond and give her some of the time of day, she will go right back to being cold and distant.

Just keep on. If she really wants something, she will text more than a "Hi"

May 31, 2014

I'm not a girl, but I can answer your questions.

She is tugging on the leash. She wants to make sure you are still there. You ignoring her is driving her crazy. She wants you to message her, call, SOMETHING. I applaud you for not answering those messages.

It honestly doesnt mean much currently. If you respond and give her some of the time of day, she will go right back to being cold and distant.

Just keep on. If she really wants something, she will text more than a "Hi"

Well thanks. Any serious advice is welcome.. and thanks I try so hard not to .reply back. Sometimes I wake up at 4 am to.see if she at least sent that hi. Maybe something more.

And yes. I know if I write back. She ll just ignore it and ill go to.square 1.

Now that she texted my friend askin if I was still alive and she knows I'm ok, next time she texts, hopefully she ll swallow her pride and says something more. But till then.

I got a feeling she wants me to chase her. But it ain't happenning anymore. Did that already when.she was here and I looked like a fool.

June 2, 2014

Well even though i complain about the "hi" texts man i miss them "(

Lets me know at least shes thinking of me.

Frikkin weekends are the hardest.

But i didnt text her, almost did last night, i was drinking, but didnt.

June 4, 2014

Ok, so i met this girl a while ago. picked her up, hit it off really good, she was so beautiful.

Days went by, used to text and talk all the time. till i saw some red flags, but i didnt mind.

Id be in class and she would text me, i didnt respond so she would be like. "Im gonna see what else is out there" i responded. "cool, later".

That night she looked up all my profiles i had that i had even forgot about.

I ignored her, but then i started to talk to her again. everything was goin smooth.

One day she spent the night, i took her home and she had left some pills in my trunk. I was like damn.. std or some sht. but it was for bipolar disorder. I had never met anyone with that. i looked into it, i though "its ok" damn. i shouldve ended it there. but i began to have feelings for this girl.

Another night she slept over, we were drinking, she walked out in the middle of the night, i was like. f it, she came back an hr later. "another red flag" btw she didnt know her way where i lived, she lived with her brother like an hr away.

She was so manipulative, she ended up convincing me to move in with me, was like cool, we were getting along. But not for long. She didnt work, and she would tell me to buy her ciggs, i hated that. but i did, i didnt said notn. but i used to tell her that the pack should last her 3 days, i was kinda tight with money.

I used to not like a neighbor cuz she did and sold drugs and i told my girl about her and told her not to g over to her house. guess what she did when i didnt buy her ciggs? yeah, she went over there.

She wasnt taking her meds, and kept walking out in the middle of the night if we had an argument, and i used to go after her, i started caring and worrying about her. and that happened maybe once a week, till i had enough. i took her stuff out and told her that was it. Guess who was supposed to give her a ride to her hometown which was like an hr away?

not her brothers cuz he didnt want her there?

Yea, the tweaker neighbor.

I finally could breath and sleep, but man, i missed her so much, i even prayed to see her again. i just remembered the good times.

3 days later i was in the balcony having a beer w the roomate and guess who comes out the neighbors house? i was like wtf. looking at my roomate i couldnt believe it. i went and talked to her. she wanted to but now the neighbor was acting weird, told her to go back in the house. That made me so mad. i told the neighbor off, she wasnt supposed to do that.

Ever since i had problems with that neighbor.

But inside i was happy to see my girl so i convinced her to go to the mountains with me, and we had a great time. She said she was goin to her uncles house in Ohio, i lived in California. But tat was part of her game, she was so manipulative. i was blind. I convinced her to come back home.

Time went by, started walking away in the middle of the night again. Started calling the cops saying i hit her i heard her punch herself, i left so they never got me. But now she was like.." you cant kick me out, its my house"

i was fckd.

So one day she asked me for my phone, we were arguing, i gave it to her and she started calling her uncle, again, those games. I took the phone back and she punched me in the neck, my turn to call the cops. So she went with another neighbor to ask for her phone and i told her that she had hit me, when the neighbor asked why she did that, she just shrugged her shoulders. And that was the story we gave the cops, i didnt press charges, but she still went to jail for 2 days. She ended up staying 2 days, but dropped the charges since the frikkin DA saw that she had called, so she was guessing this time was self defense.

When she came out she called me to pick her up, she was pissed. i told her we were gonna see the doctor to get her meds, i loved her and now i wanted to take care of her, so the following week we did that, it was in a different count thats why we had not gone.

So the first days she was sleeping all day and i used to help her walk everywhere, she even told me that no other guy would ever do that for her, and other times i had taken her to the ER for 3 hrs at a time. She had told me i was the only guy that ever did that.

So i had an interview and i thought i had the job cuz they sent me to get a drug test. I was so happy, so i went to get a beer. Didnt tell her cuz she couldnt drink with those meds. So i got home and she smelled it on my breath, said i was so selfish. Another big argument.

And well. I ended up having to move out the country for personal reasons, so she went with her brother but she stayed at the appmtn for the rest of the month. My neighbor said she used to cry all the time and was so depressed. This was back in January.

By February, she used to beg me to come move with me and again, i started to miss her, so i gave in to her manipulative ways again. I was staying with an uncle and they couldnt put up w her sht so they bought her a ticket back home, but she cried and asked me to stay, So i got us a room for rent. By this time she started drinking everyday and wanting to go out and started to walk out in the middle of the night again.

And she wanted to go to gay parties without me, i was like. FCK no. she didnt go so she got really pissed and walked out and started hitting herself. Told the cops i ran, i almost got shot. And well finally the cops let me go.

Following week she went to the embassy and got a passport and went back to the US. this was in April 30th

She ended up goin to her sisters and guess what she did? she stole her car.

She started doin drugs and drinking out of control. I felt so disappointed.

Found out she broke up w me through FB, changing her relationship status.

I drunk texted her asking her to come back, beggin her, telling her everything would be better, but she would just read the messages till she finally blocked me out of nowhere a week after that drunk text.

I decided to go on NC and 2 weeks after she would text me just a HI. and adding me on google plus. week after again, texting me Just a hi, I kept the NC strong.

I got home on a wednesday and the lanlord told me she had contacted him asking for a room for rent. brought back memories about the tweaker neighbor, i told him to say no. But i think she just said that so i could keep chasing her and askin what she was thinking, So i told the neighbor to say he hadnt seen me.

Another week went by and she sends me another HI, trying to add me on FB after she had blocked me. Then another HI. i ignored her, so she went out of her way to ask my friend through another app if he knew if i was ok, he said yes, so she tells him she was affraid i d kill myself. Again sht came out of her mouth to make her feel good. havent heard from her in a week.

I wonder all the time. why she treated me like this? i opened up my house to her in cali and here, Ive got arrested, beat up, almost shot.

And its like she doesnt care. she has wrote me letters in the past saying that im her only family, that she wanted to marry me, have kids, stay with me forever. How she regreted treating me like crap and i forgave her all those times. I feel like such a dumb ass.

All i ever did for this girl was care. I was so patient. Maybe i was fooling myself thinking her meds would help, I still miss her and i know if she came back itd be hell.. I had the chance of dumping her ass so many times, but i didnt.

I know she will try to come back cause i know no one will ever put up w her sht. Not even her family. its just a matter of time.I just wish that by that time im healed and dont miss her. Maybe find someone else.

In the meantime. im gonna focus trying to finish school i know this will get my mind of things.

Thanks for your time i wrote a lot..lol

Edited June 4, 2014 by JoeFallkon

June 5, 2014

i still worry about her a lot. but just writing here to get my mind off things.

June 5, 2014

You never should have talked to her again after her "I'm gonna see what's out there" text. Emotional blackmail if I ever saw it. Why did you ever talk to her again after that??

Bipolar is such a mean disease. If not controlled properly, watch the **** out!!

You have to do what's right by you.

June 5, 2014

You never should have talked to her again after her "I'm gonna see what's out there" text. Emotional blackmail if I ever saw it. Why did you ever talk to her again after that??

Bipolar is such a mean disease. If not controlled properly, watch the **** out!!

You have to do what's right by you.

Thanks for the reply.

Yea. i know, a lot of things would be better now. But like i said i never met anyone like that and i didnt know what i was getting myself into, thought it was just girl games., but its done.

I still hope she gets help, even if its not with me. Its so hard not to care, she was a big part of my life for that time we were together, and i do still worry, but i know if i ask her how she is and stuff, shes just gonna get bothered.

Only time will tell.

Im sil in NC, She had sent me a friend request on FB last week after she blocked it (she had made it with her first name, my last name with my email. both of us on the main pic) and I deleted the accnt today.

June 6, 2014

Thanks for the reply.

Yea. i know, a lot of things would be better now. But like i said i never met anyone like that and i didnt know what i was getting myself into, thought it was just girl games., but its done.
I still hope she gets help, even if its not with me. Its so hard not to care, she was a big part of my life for that time we were together, and i do still worry, but i know if i ask her how she is and stuff, shes just gonna get bothered.

Only time will tell.
Im sil in NC, She had sent me a friend request on FB last week after she blocked it (she had made it with her first name, my last name with my email. both of us on the main pic) and I deleted the accnt today.

I don't see a good reason to delete your FB account. Just block her. . .

Stop worrying about her and start taking care about you because your the most important person right now not her......she dumped you and you obviously been in love with a person that only exist in your head....she showed her true color now.... NC is the way friend.

June 9, 2014

I deleted it because it was hers, her name with my last name.

and yeah. im starting school again next week, hopefully.Thanks man.

And update.. After i had not heard from her for a week and a half. she sends me a number through an app we both have. i deleted it. Then she send a message saying that she got a job 40 hrs / week.

Then she invites me to a group chat, i delete it, and she sends me another invite. its 2:30 am where she is. Im thinking she must be drinking or something.

Ireally wanna ask her hows shes been and where shes at and stuff, tell her how much i miss her, how i cant sleep at nights sometimes, unless i have a drink. but i dont want her answers to keep hurting me, i really want her to come back, but i know in my heart she wont change her ways.

Then since i ignored her, she had to get her ego and her pride up again, she just sent me a text saying "song: indina menzel, let it go"

man... im so tired of this stupd games.

Edited June 9, 2014 by JoeFallkon

June 14, 2014

Update:

So i havent broke NC.

I really want her to say sorry so we can try again, but her ego and pride get on the way all the time.she has said that she misses me and she loves me. sending me a link to mariah careys song we belong together. this was last wednesday.

Well get this. When we lived together and we fought, she couldnt just stay still and wait it out, she had to walk out and call someone. "her brother" i told her so many times to keep it between us, but no, she called him everytime, and ever since i met her, he didnt like me.

so since ive been ignoring her shes tried to talk to 3 of my friends asking about me but she didnt get anywhere, and today, well, right now, i get a friend request on an app we used to video chat and guess who it was?

her brother.

what should i do? should i talk to him. let him know what she has done to me, this surprised me.

June 14, 2014

damn, so i was drinking last night and i texted her brother. told him i still love her and would like to be with her but i needed an apology. he didnt respond. also told him i was gonna start school and was doing good, i know he is probably gonna tell her. So prob goin back to square one after 3 weeks of NC..

June 14, 2014

Hang in there mate you were do so damn well, I applaud you for your efforts. I did the same and after going through hell to not contact her for a week. I broke it last night after having a few drinks and asked if she would like to catch up, and guess what no response. So here I am back to starting NC again and now I am back to square one, but hey we need to be strong and get back on our feet and be stronger this time.

June 14, 2014

Well still havent broke NC with her, but her bro is a snitch. there has been a few times when i wanted to make things right with him and he goes and tells her right away. But i guess its a good thing. Maybe she ll get the message that the main reason i havent responded back to her is her short texts saying just hi, hello.

Im pretty sure she called him and told him she missed me or somtn like that, or else, that guy would ve never added me as a friend. But anyways. i guess ill wait till tomorrow and see what he says. im not drunk texting him anymore,,lol gotta start NC with him too.

June 20, 2014

So i broke NC.. was drinking and fell asleep, a notification sound on my phone woke me up. at 3 am

i see what it was and it was her. she found my facebook page. i look at her friends and she had an old friend of mine. maybe she remembered him when she was on my fb, added him and went through all his friends and found me (he has a lot of friends). I don have a pic and its not my real name on that account. its similar, but yeah she found me. told my friend and he deleted her.

Well so she sends a friend request, sends me a pic and a "how are you" i said good. then she says she wasnt sure she was talkin to the right person, i said you are, then she asks me hows school, that she got a job, and that she was sorry about how it ended and also that she was sorry for tryin to hit on my fnd on a dating site. i said it was ok.

then i asked her if she could tell me honestly something , she said ok, i asked what the song she sent last week meant (we belong together by mariah carey) she said she had to go to sleep she had to wake up at 630. im like damn.. so i ask her again, and she said she was confused. we talked a bit about something else but then she didnt read my last text, so i said good bye and i blocked her again.

Idk why she went through all that sht to find me again and still says she is or was confused. clearly she still misses me, but that damn pride.

Back to square one on the NC, but at least i didnt get short texts this time and i got my apology.

Edited June 20, 2014 by JoeFallkon

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