Koans Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Random thought. So we all know to treat each other right. Well, this gigs crap is a major character flaw in my eyes. Are we just excusing cowardness or is this some real scientific crap you can measure and study. My professor today shared her love life. She met her husband when she was 16 and has been together with him for 35yrs. Im not sure if this is the thing of the current generation. What do yall think. I get it, everyone wants to break up. But breaking up out the blue and leaving no real explanation why? seems like some real pusification type ish. 1
David87 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Random thought. So we all know to treat each other right. Well, this gigs crap is a major character flaw in my eyes. Are we just excusing cowardness or is this some real scientific crap you can measure and study. My professor today shared her love life. She met her husband when she was 16 and has been together with him for 35yrs. Im not sure if this is the thing of the current generation. What do yall think. I get it, everyone wants to break up. But breaking up out the blue and leaving no real explanation why? seems like some real pusification type ish. It's not really out of the blue for them because they think about it before doing it and second of all they do it because they found someone better suited for them(in most cases). You just have to accept that and improve yourself so this doesn't happen again.Good luck.
stillfiguringitallou Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Firstly in GIG - if you read the thingy above - they don't usually find someone more suitable - they find someone they THINK is more suitable, more attractive, more kind, more SOMETHING. And then destroy their relationships because of this. Our society is very self absorbed. Used to be people looked for relationships because they were looking to mutually support, protect, and cherish another person. Now society thinks it's all about what their PARTNER can give to them. People wonder why we are crumbling as a society - rampant depression, etc. It's because we became so centered on ourselves that we forgot to care for each other. And I see it everyday on this board. You don't have a RIGHT to tell them how it made you feel. Bull**** - being the dumpee doesn't grant them more rights than you have. Youre just making a fool out of yourself. Wasting your time - maybe - but making a full out of yourself - whatever. You don't have a right to expect someone to stay if they aren't happy. Guess the **** what... life isn't happy peaches. You don't have the right to force them to stay - but you most certainly have the right to expect it. You don't have a right to an explination. BS. They don't have the "right" to expect to take actions that impact someones life to that extent and NOT give and explanation. Too many of us have forgotten that our words and actions DO have an impact on others. They DO effect them on a deep level. And people DO deserve to be treated better than we treat each other. We have become a society of partial narcissists and sociopaths because we were raised to believe it was okay. And honestly - most of it is just damn disappointing. 1
TheHopelessRomantic Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I think you are right. I think too many people are selfish these days, and that doesn't lead to them having long, happy relationships. People also seem to want the security of a relationship, but they want to act like they are still single. Most reasonably attractive women I know take numerous selfie pics with their butt sticking out just to post them online and collect "likes." I don't know how anyone could date someone so self centered. Sounds like my ex haha
RDawg Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Any break up comes down to gigs. The dumper thinks they will find someone better who will make them happy. What they don't realise is that once the honeymoon phase is over all relationships require work and a bit of effort. 2
central Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 OP, it sounds like you were dumped unceremoniously, and are bitter because of it. Yeah, it sucks, doubly so if you were in a seemingly good, exclusive, and commited relationship. On the other hand, many relationships aren't all that great, and not worth preserving or working on. Sometimes the grass IS greener, and it is better to move on. Of course, I believe that should be done ethically and compassionately, but that's not always possible or feasible.
PhillyConnection23 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Any break up comes down to gigs. The dumper thinks they will find someone better who will make them happy. What they don't realise is that once the honeymoon phase is over all relationships require work and a bit of effort. I agree with this. Especially if it is a first relationship. People change a lot when they are young and suddenly what worked great for them at one age, isn't so appealing as they get older. But they also never had the chance to realize a relationship takes work and there never is a finish line. Its a obstacle course that doesn't end. 2
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