Koans Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 LDR. 3YRS. She falls out of love and gets with a guy 3 days later. Fuhk her point of view. from my POV, what triggered the break up was presenting her with the ultimate commitment to move to my state to live with me. Infidelity? Sincere Rebound? who gives a fuuuuckkkk. I chased her for 2 months in a sense of trying to make her understand the situation logically but never, "Baby come back", bullshheeeet. But in a sense if Im chasing, its the same sheeet i guess. Last call was the last day of April. Ended it with me blaming myself. She used every argument we ever had collectively as the cause of our break up, when their was many good times that made up for it. After kickin my own ass and apologizing, shes like, "i wish it didnt take this long for you to realize". A few words later I replied, "hopefully we can reconnect somewhere down the line, and not 24 yrs later like the story we heard from a lady, and when we do, we'll be better people". She quietly replies with a, "yeaaa". But as I'm regaining myself and reading all these post on loveshack. For one, the fact that she has the capability to pull this on me really ticks me off, for the fact I have strong principles in how people should conduct themselves. She knows how I think and vice versa. I impacted her life on some major shiiit. When I first knew her and her now, are like 1.0 to 2.0. Fixed family drama, friend drama, self esteem issues etc. I took her in my heart like a gang takes a member. And its like she broke a code. At this point, if she ever came back with the, "I made a mistake", crap, I just wanna put the cigar ash on the biiiitcch. I feel like, for everyone that ever screwed her over, she ball'd that up and put it on me. GIGS? thats fine. But you're still old enough to know wtf you're doing. You just dont throw away someone like yesterdays news acting cold just coz you think you found an escape with someone new. Saying you just need space and time to think, then jumpin with someone else after a break up gives you all the freedom in the world but doesnt make it right. If you cared, you know that you're ***in the other person over emotionally. I concluded the biiitch doesn't know the differentiation of infatuation and love. And that shes emotionally immature. Thanx to her, she fueled the fire in me to succeed in life so i can pass her in greatness and bomb on her biiitch ass. Just for the day she comes crawling back and im like noooo biitch. Maybe reconciliation is possible. But not as long as im holding a grudge. Just wanted to vent from a mind state of a dumpee who wishes bad on the dumper. It's funny how u can be ONE with someone, then depending on how she acts during post-break up determines where it leads. I'm a person who judges a persons character heavily. I think how you conduct yourself during post-break up still has room for scrutiny to measure a persons' character.
OnwardandUpward Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 I wish mine would break his back so he can see just how i lived and what pain is like - just for 24 hours mind you - i dont wish it for him forever but just smash your whole lower back and come tell me how it felt. Sorry for your sheeet - just know you are better then her
Author Koans Posted May 25, 2014 Author Posted May 25, 2014 (edited) LMAO you don't even knowww!! I never thought about committing suicide but a spec of the idea imagining it crossed my mind. When I let her go. I felt like someone died. Sometimes I wish I could take back the impact I made. No money in the world can amount the strength and perspective I instilled in her. But as a year passes, all that will water down. I know that to be a fact. Especially when I prove to her I'm not coming back on her terms. Bread crumbs, ambiguous sentences and desperation won't win me back. Just think like a boss. Reconciliation is possible. But not when your life hasn't changed significantly for the better. Idk if its just my personality. Not sure. But I feel like i regained composure pretty damn quick. Sometimes the ones you love plays out the dishonorable role. Like old japan, you just gotta let them kill themselves to preserve your dignity. They can resurrect later in life when you are truly heavenly. If they comeback unmatched to your expectation. It's life. Some never learn. Then you move on. You did fine before them. You can do the same after them. They are their own worst enemies. Not you. Edited May 25, 2014 by Koans
Author Koans Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 (edited) Dump stories in my other thread. Last day of April (last call) - I call her. We bicker or w/e. She's with someone btw. Got with the dude 3 days after we broke up on Feb 28th. Anyways to sum up the conversation. Me: "Where do I stand, I feel like you keep leading me on with all these double meaning lines. Like, 'talk to you later?', it's like wtf, first you tell me to move on but talk to you later?" (Mind you, in our last phone call, I tried to say bye but she didnt want us to say bye to each other) Her: "Do you think talk to you later actually means Ill talk to you later?" Me:"wtf else does it mean, good morning in chinese!? Talk to you later is, talk-to-you-later". Her: "What do you want, you say it hurts to talk so what do you want" Me "you but its not possible, but coz we know our flaws in the relationship id want us to reconnect in the future and by that time we'll be experienced, mature and better people" Her: "yeaaa" (double meaning azz answer) Me "Hopefully its not 24 yrs later like the lady who shared her love story" Her "no thats too long" (double meaning azz answer) Anyways I didnt talk to her for a month. After the healing process. You stop blaming yourself. During the break up she just wanted space to figure crap out coz she claimed she fell out of love. So out of my inconveneiance I agreed to it without all the rah rah rah. I didn't know she was gonna be cold during post break up and find an excuse to why were breaking up. She literally collectively ball'd up all our bickerings and arguments that every couple has from our whole history and used that as an excuse to why were breaking up. In my mind Im like bixitch why couldnt you just say that during B.U. if thats the real reason. But yea I aint taking her back if that 6 month thing is real. The way the B.U. went down was childish and stupid. Edited June 2, 2014 by Koans 1
Mr.Pine Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 She's with someone btw. Got with the dude 3 days after we broke up on Feb 28th. No, no and more no. She did not "get with the dude" a couple of days after you two broke up. She went PUBLIC with the dude a couple of days after you two broke up. She was probably banging him for weeks or months. Get it through your thick skulls, people. Women start the break-up process LOOOOOOOOONG before they actually dump your sorry asses and have back up plans already in place. If I had hair, I'd be pulling it out right now. 2
Author Koans Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 Im posting this again coz for some reason it combined with another thread of mine. Dump stories in my other thread. Last day of April (last call) - I call her. We bicker or w/e. She's with someone btw. Got with the dude 3 days after we broke up on Feb 28th. Anyways to sum up the conversation. Me: "Where do I stand, I feel like you keep leading me on with all these double meaning lines. Like, 'talk to you later?', it's like wtf, first you tell me to move on but talk to you later?" (Mind you, in our last phone call, I tried to say bye but she didnt want us to say bye to each other) Her: "Do you think talk to you later actually means Ill talk to you later?" Me:"wtf else does it mean, good morning in chinese!? Talk to you later is, talk-to-you-later". Her: "What do you want, you say it hurts to talk so what do you want" Me "you but its not possible, but coz we know our flaws in the relationship id want us to reconnect in the future and by that time we'll be experienced, mature and better people" Her: "yeaaa" (double meaning azz answer) Me "Hopefully its not 24 yrs later like the lady who shared her love story" Her "no thats too long" (double meaning azz answer) Anyways I didnt talk to her for a month. After the healing process. You stop blaming yourself. During the break up she just wanted space to figure crap out coz she claimed she fell out of love. So out of my inconveneiance I agreed to it without all the rah rah rah. I didn't know she was gonna be cold during post break up and find an excuse to why were breaking up. She literally collectively ball'd up all our bickerings and arguments that every couple has from our whole history and used that as an excuse to why were breaking up. In my mind Im like bixitch why couldnt you just say that during B.U. if thats the real reason. But yea I aint taking her back if that 6 month thing is real. The way the B.U. went down was childish and stupid. And I know yall are gonna say she planned the transition like its fact. But to even give a good argument. You have to give the benefit of the doubt. I dont assume. So we can skip that part.
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