CalmandCarryOn Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 In a little pickle - ex broke up with me this past Christmas right before she left to study abroad all semester. I borrowed some gas money from her right around that time and told her I would pay her back and had a rough semester where that payment had to take a backseat. She's back now. I gotta get her money mailed to her. Not sure what to write in the letter (I have to apologize for the delay in getting her money back). Thoughts?
Sunbathe Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 How much do you owe her? If she hasn't contacted you to ask for it back, I doubt she even remembers.
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 How much do you owe her? If she hasn't contacted you to ask for it back, I doubt she even remembers. $40. I have a strong conscience and told her I would get it back to her in a few days after I borrowed. I want to stay true to my word.
Stronger14 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 You are looking for an excuse to contact her. You do not need to return the money, unless she explicitly asks for it. If you have truly moved on, you will not care anymore to give the money back. If you really want to stand true to your word, send her the money and say you owed her from a while ago. Nothing more than that is needed, nothing that will start a conversation. However, I would recommend sticking with NC. Don't make the mistake and break it like I (and many of us here) did. It's not worth it.
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 You are looking for an excuse to contact her. You do not need to return the money, unless she explicitly asks for it. If you have truly moved on, you will not care anymore to give the money back. If you really want to stand true to your word, send her the money and say you owed her from a while ago. Nothing more than that is needed, nothing that will start a conversation. However, I would recommend sticking with NC. Don't make the mistake and break it like I (and many of us here) did. It's not worth it. Yeah man, gotta get the money back. I've stuck with NC for about 6 months. Definitely keeping it short and to the point. What should the letter say?
bulldogz Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Yeah man, gotta get the money back. I've stuck with NC for about 6 months. Definitely keeping it short and to the point. What should the letter say? Dear [Ex Girlfriend], Here is the $40.00 gas money I owed you from last semester. Regards, CalmandCarryOn 3
Elle1975 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I'd just send a check. Proof of payment. Your name is on it, no need for a note.
deathandtaxes Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Don't send the money back. DON'T!! It's done. You don't owe her anything. the old rule is never lend out money you can't afford to lose. If you feel so damn bad about it, give it to a worthy charity.
Mr.Pine Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I gotta get her money mailed to her. Not sure what to write in the letter (I have to apologize for the delay in getting her money back). Thoughts? You "gotta" get her the money? Really? 40 bucks? That's a couple of drinks at a bar. That's lunch. That's half a tank of gas. You are grasping, reaching and itching for a reason to break NC. You say you have 6 months of NC under your belt. I call bullpucky. Why would you risk half a year for 40 bucks? I will tell you why...you are looking for ANY reason to contact her. Don't do it. You'll regret it. Unless the money you owed her was significant... a couple of hundred bucks or more, don't waste your time or our time. Because we all know you'll do what you want anyways.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 If she hasn't contacted you in six months about this, she doesn't give a crap. She probably sees it as her exit fee from her relationship if she thinks about it at all (which she likely doesn't). Your motives aren't to pay her back, they are to try to manipulate her into interacting with you. Sorry, not buying your backstory for a second.
elseaacych Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Dude, she broke up with you: broke your heart and crushed your dreams of a happy future. Don't send her money.
KaliLove Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 You "gotta" get her the money? Really? 40 bucks? That's a couple of drinks at a bar. That's lunch. That's half a tank of gas. You are grasping, reaching and itching for a reason to break NC. You say you have 6 months of NC under your belt. I call bullpucky. Why would you risk half a year for 40 bucks? I will tell you why...you are looking for ANY reason to contact her. Don't do it. You'll regret it. Unless the money you owed her was significant... a couple of hundred bucks or more, don't waste your time or our time. Because we all know you'll do what you want anyways. The bolded makes me sad because it's true. OP, you KNOW she's completely forgotten about that $40. I agree with everyone else. You're just looking for an excuse to contact her. Don't do it.
amaysngrace Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Don't listen to everyone else. Be the guy who pays his debt. 1
Elle1975 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 You don't need to contact her to pay her back. That's simple. Mail it, not cash as there's no proof. If you don't have a checkbook, get a money order. If your only intent is to pay her back, that should do it. 2
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