nobodie Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 (edited) I wrote about him in a separate thread. Well things have been progressing well since then but I do not know what's he's after? Sex? Money? Pure platonic companionship? Here's what he has done for me since our first meeting: 1) paid for all dating expenses (meals etc) ; 2) asked me out for a date every 2/3 days, he proposed activities that I'm interested in 3) sms me everyday and asked how I'm doing 4) suggested that we travel together soon Despite all the positive signs that he has shown, he has yet to make a move on me. I once sat quite close to him to see if he would attempt to hold my hands or hug me but he did not. There is zero body contact so far ; he did not also express any emotions towards me.. I told him I don't feel comfortable traveling with a male friend and asked him if he had ever travelled with female friends in the past. He said nope. He said he finds that I'm an interesting person and wish to travel with me. I have also given him opportunities to express his feelings/romantic inclinations to me if any, but he has not done so at all. I have tried to flirt with him occasionally but it doesn't lead to anything much.. So what does this guy wants from me? Is he romantically interested in me? Or I'm just his buddy or friend? Like I've been friendzoned?? Edited June 4, 2014 by nobodie
Potz4prez Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 He's probably just an anxious mother****er and is scared ****less about making a move. I'm surprised you've stuck around. You may have to make the moves for him, or you'll be waiting for a long time. Hopefully you're into that. Good news is: No guy is going to pay for all your dates and suggest traveling together unless he's interested.
Scrab22 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 He's probably just an anxious mother****er and is scared ****less about making a move. I'm surprised you've stuck around. You may have to make the moves for him, or you'll be waiting for a long time. Hopefully you're into that. Good news is: No guy is going to pay for all your dates and suggest traveling together unless he's interested. He may be scared, but calling him a coward or an anxious is not right for him. OP - he has made his moves. Don't be passive, make this relationship mutual! Start a hug or a cuddle by yourself!
PegNosePete Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 he has yet to make a move on me. I once sat quite close to him to see if he would attempt to hold my hands or hug me but he did not. So just go for it girl, what's the worst that could happen? I told him I don't feel comfortable traveling with a male friend OUCH! You used the F word.... this could be why he isn't initiating anything. He thinks he's been friendzoned. You think you've been friendzoned. One of you better do something about it before it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy!
HappyLove Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 You're not comfortable with this guy DO NOT go away with him! Maybe he has some type of social disorder where it's difficult for him to show emotions? If your starting to think you two are just friends maybe you should have a conversation about what his intentions are because you aren't clear.
Author nobodie Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 We head out again and we made out in the car (I took the initiative) he wanted to go all the way for sex but I stopped him in his tracks I asked if he likes me , he said yes and asked me, I said yes too. But then and there again, he did not bring out the topic of us being bf/gf or confessing his feelings for me. Till date, he hadn't referred to me as his gf or talk about our dating status.. A day after our meeting, I asked him where does he see us, I told him I'm into serious dating and he said he is . Then proceed to share with me that he has disabled his online dating account...,I was hoping he would bring up the discussion about us He's still contacting me but never bring out the topic about our status ..he just asked me if I have taken my meals and wished me gd morning daily.. There was no serious talk or any signs from his actions that we have progressed to exclusive dating.. He has left me tired, and feeling neglected , misled . I still don't know what he wants from me
Kitchen Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 We head out again and we made out in the car (I took the initiative) he wanted to go all the way for sex but I stopped him in his tracks I asked if he likes me , he said yes and asked me, I said yes too. But then and there again, he did not bring out the topic of us being bf/gf or confessing his feelings for me. Till date, he hadn't referred to me as his gf or talk about our dating status.. A day after our meeting, I asked him where does he see us, I told him I'm into serious dating and he said he is . Then proceed to share with me that he has disabled his online dating account...,I was hoping he would bring up the discussion about us He's still contacting me but never bring out the topic about our status ..he just asked me if I have taken my meals and wished me gd morning daily.. There was no serious talk or any signs from his actions that we have progressed to exclusive dating.. He has left me tired, and feeling neglected , misled . I still don't know what he wants from me He's definitely interested in you, and might be inexperienced. How many serious relationships has he had? He's probably too nervous to make the moves, or bring up the status; he might not even know that he has to bring it up as the male. The reason he's nervous, is because he really does like you and doesn't wanna muck up. And it seems that you like him as well. Don't feel neglected. It's TOUGH being a man. Making the first move physically, or even bringing up the topic of bf/gf takes a lot of guts because we have to put our emotions and pride on the line. You can either give him more time, if it hasn't been too long, or you can hint at the idea of bf/gf yourself. Nothing wrong with that. It seems that you made the first move in making out, good job! Best of luck, keep us posted.
Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 We head out again and we made out in the car (I took the initiative) he wanted to go all the way for sex but I stopped him in his tracks I asked if he likes me , he said yes and asked me, I said yes too. But then and there again, he did not bring out the topic of us being bf/gf or confessing his feelings for me. Till date, he hadn't referred to me as his gf or talk about our dating status.. Here is a tip. Never ask a man if he likes you when he has a hard-on. A man in that position will say anything, not his fault, the blood usually flowing in his brain is being redirected toward his d.1ck
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 We head out again and we made out in the car (I took the initiative) he wanted to go all the way for sex but I stopped him in his tracks I asked if he likes me , he said yes and asked me, I said yes too. But then and there again, he did not bring out the topic of us being bf/gf or confessing his feelings for me. Till date, he hadn't referred to me as his gf or talk about our dating status.. A day after our meeting, I asked him where does he see us, I told him I'm into serious dating and he said he is . Then proceed to share with me that he has disabled his online dating account...,I was hoping he would bring up the discussion about us He's still contacting me but never bring out the topic about our status ..he just asked me if I have taken my meals and wished me gd morning daily.. There was no serious talk or any signs from his actions that we have progressed to exclusive dating.. He has left me tired, and feeling neglected , misled . I still don't know what he wants from me OMG! Just ask him yourself!!! Seriously. Why do you insist on waiting around endlessly for HIM to start the conversation about exclusivity or not? He sounds a bit socially awkward so expecting him to be clued in about having "the talk" seems silly and short sighted. And pouting because he hasn't asked you to officially be his girlfriend seems rather immature. Ask him yourself. Go on...
Bonnie Potter Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I've been in this situation before, I had to initiate everything. From that experience I can tell you that he IS interested, just not very experienced. What are the ages we're talking about here? Late teens? Early 20s?
J21 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 He likes you but just doesn't have experience/guts making the first move. You should hold his hand through it (figuratively and literally lol).
MidwestUSA Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 We head out again and we made out in the car (I took the initiative) he wanted to go all the way for sex but I stopped him in his tracks I asked if he likes me , he said yes and asked me, I said yes too. But then and there again, he did not bring out the topic of us being bf/gf or confessing his feelings for me. Till date, he hadn't referred to me as his gf or talk about our dating status.. A day after our meeting, I asked him where does he see us, I told him I'm into serious dating and he said he is . Then proceed to share with me that he has disabled his online dating account...,I was hoping he would bring up the discussion about us He's still contacting me but never bring out the topic about our status ..he just asked me if I have taken my meals and wished me gd morning daily.. There was no serious talk or any signs from his actions that we have progressed to exclusive dating.. He has left me tired, and feeling neglected , misled . I still don't know what he wants from me OMG, it's going as well as can be expected! Don't push the bf/gf, or exclusivity, thing. He volunteered that he took his profile down, be happy with that. Read about the older women here and what they go thru with OLD. You've just got a naive/shy guy who seems to be wanting to do things right. Enjoy it, don't have sex until you're ready. Enjoy the build up to it. He inquires as to whether you've eaten and texts good morning every day? Hang on to this one and see where it goes! I wish I'd found one like him; hear me ROAR, LOL! Seriously, everything's fine! 2
michellew Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 We head out again and we made out in the car (I took the initiative) he wanted to go all the way for sex but I stopped him in his tracks I asked if he likes me , he said yes and asked me, I said yes too. But then and there again, he did not bring out the topic of us being bf/gf or confessing his feelings for me. Till date, he hadn't referred to me as his gf or talk about our dating status.. A day after our meeting, I asked him where does he see us, I told him I'm into serious dating and he said he is . Then proceed to share with me that he has disabled his online dating account...,I was hoping he would bring up the discussion about us He's still contacting me but never bring out the topic about our status ..he just asked me if I have taken my meals and wished me gd morning daily.. There was no serious talk or any signs from his actions that we have progressed to exclusive dating.. He has left me tired, and feeling neglected , misled . I still don't know what he wants from me How long have you been dating OP? He texts daily, initiates dates, pays for everything, says he likes you, says he wants a serious relationship, and has removed his dating profile. What more do you want? His actions speak 100x louder than his words. Tired, neglected, and mislead? Seriously? 2
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