steelgator Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 So I met this girl online and we met up and talked for a couple hours got to know eachother shared some laughs and we left with a simple kiss. I tried setting up another date but she said "I need to be blunt what do you want? because you're profile says you're looking for something casual and I'm looking for something serious." I told her I just want to get to know someone and if I start to like her I would consider something serious but I'm not gonna force anything. She didn't reply and I said what now? She said she's still reflecting. So a few days goes by and I'm like hey? she doesn't reply. I wait another week and ask "So i didn't even get a chance? She doesn't reply. 4 days later...she sends me 2 pictures of her weird painting. WHAT? I don't know what to even say...
mariee Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 No idea why she sent you those paintings... Haha She is looking for a guy who is looking for a serious relationship.. I totally understand your side though, you can't jump into a serious relationship after few dates,, you need to get to know each other and see how it goes. But because there are people who just want casual relationship.. Like they are not interested in anything serious at all, so she was trying to see if you are that type. And you probably didn't make it clear for her,, she thought you two look for different I think she's still interested since she sent you those pics... If you looking for a serious relationship eventually 'when things go well with her' too, try to talk to her about it.. Maybe she misunderstood you. If she still give you cold shoulder, she's not interested.. 1
Author steelgator Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 but like what do I even say to that? go from totally ignoring me to...paintings
Gaeta Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 but like what do I even say to that? go from totally ignoring me to...paintings You say nothing, she is not worth the 2 seconds it would take you to reply something. Ignore and move to next. Just another nut case.
todreaminblue Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 you gave her a good answer based wholly with honesty and respect.....and logic..... she reflected for a while.......and then sent you off beat paintings as an ice breaker...........she wants you to contact her.....women speak......for do you like my etchings....not a nutcase....ok ....we are all offbeat to men .....dont move on ...move forward see where it goes....you know she wants something serious ......you need to clarify casual to her doesnt mean casual sex probably and that you would consider a serious relationship which is basically what you have already stated.....she is giving you a chance.......deb
DArtagnan2 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 My Guess: she sent it to you by accident... but its just a guess She may have taken your comment as you weren't really looking for more then a hookup because maybe others have said the same thing. I see nothing wrong with what you said, but if worded differently, she probably would have saw more serious potential then she is giving you credit for.
Gaeta Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 you gave her a good answer based wholly with honesty and respect.....and logic..... she reflected for a while.......and then sent you off beat paintings as an ice breaker...........she wants you to contact her.....women speak......for do you like my etchings....not a nutcase....ok .... She ignored his text 3 times in a row. Then she sends him pictures out of the blue. It's written nut case all over her. A woman with a little bit of substance would never have ignored his text and when her mind would have been made up she would have text him and told him after reflection she would like to meet him again. That is how grown ups behave.
SammySammy Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 you gave her a good answer based wholly with honesty and respect.....and logic..... she reflected for a while.......and then sent you off beat paintings as an ice breaker...........she wants you to contact her.....women speak......for do you like my etchings....not a nutcase....ok ....we are all offbeat to men .....dont move on ...move forward see where it goes....you know she wants something serious ......you need to clarify casual to her doesnt mean casual sex probably and that you would consider a serious relationship which is basically what you have already stated.....she is giving you a chance.......deb Are you serious? Who expects a serious relationship after one meeting? How is ignoring him and then sending him some odd email giving him a chance? That's childish and crazy. I can't speak for any other man, but if a woman wants us to get to know each other then she needs to put her big girl panties on and let's roll. Otherwise, I don't have time for unrealistic expectations and silly games. If I were the OP, I would be on to the next one and wouldn't waste any time wondering about what she wants.
todreaminblue Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I'm not trying to be really mean here, but I've noticed that every one of your posts is like this. Maybe try using sentences please? This is the internet, so I don't think anyone expects perfection, but this stuff is just something else. OP: You didn't give her the answer she wanted to hear, so she passed on you. I think your answer was perfectly reasonable. Forget her. Sounds like a basket case to me. thats ok you dont like my posts......i don't agree with yours either.....my opinions and posts have as much value as yours.....and the way i post has been understood i guess in some way that was helpful..... i have written quite a few posts 8000 plus to your 88 .....of those posts i have received 3000 plus likes.......out of those likes i hope the majority has been because i have helped in some way.......and my posts were appreciated.......ellipses and all....or everyone thinks i am retard or a troll like they first did when i arrived at loveshack over seven years ago, either way ill keep posting whether people are humoring me and laughing at my style ....in the way i do post....ill say..... sometimes ill try......you can place me on ignore i wont be offended at all.......i tell anyone that who struggles to read my posts and i apologise i have made it so hard for you to understand what i write...... i have liked more posts than basically what i post and i try to be supportive and offer a perspective however childish it seems normally that child like post comes from my heart you have diverted the topic into beign about my opinion and my posting style.....not sure the op will appreciate that diversion or this long ass post of mine i apologise op ...feel the need to clarify myself.....and defend.... so i stand by what i have posted basket case retard or not......it comes from my heart...i respect your view....i will not change my hearts thoughts for you or change my posts so you can put me on ignore if you wish too......or build bridges i happen to love bridges.......i will do my best to make my post understandable.....best wishes..deb
todreaminblue Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 She ignored his text 3 times in a row. Then she sends him pictures out of the blue. It's written nut case all over her. A woman with a little bit of substance would never have ignored his text and when her mind would have been made up she would have text him and told him after reflection she would like to meet him again. That is how grown ups behave. what i do know is that dating becomes this game often of push and pull, her intentions are hers to know alone, i offered merely a perspective based on personal experience and my heart said what it said to ...i was deadly serious......the only one who truly knows is her what her intentions are.......and i think and feel he shoudl ask her......to give her a chance and himself a chance....i am serious about that...grown ups also allow others perspectives to be considered and dont often use the word nut case without knowing the person in question.........best wishes...deb
todreaminblue Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Are you serious? Who expects a serious relationship after one meeting? How is ignoring him and then sending him some odd email giving him a chance? That's childish and crazy. I can't speak for any other man, but if a woman wants us to get to know each other then she needs to put her big girl panties on and let's roll. Otherwise, I don't have time for unrealistic expectations and silly games. If I were the OP, I would be on to the next one and wouldn't waste any time wondering about what she wants. i tell guys first meeting i am after a serious relationship if i actually date them and not keep them as friends............i dont mess around...... i am serious....... i am often called child like too....because i dotn have guile./......i dont mind that...i am often guiless ...more guarded face to face i also often offer a different perspective which is why i feel i have been put upon in this thread...nothing new to me....being different..... i stand by what i wrote...i wont back down just because three posters tell me otherwise and question my mental health and whether child like is appropriate............considering the fact i don't know her personally.....i would say a chance is warranted on both of them..they need to talk about it....they both need to feel comfortable and on the same path....who knows what will happen you surely dont..just as much as i dont.i wish the op the best i hope he finds happiness with or without.......best wishes...............deb
todreaminblue Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Are you serious? Who expects a serious relationship after one meeting? How is ignoring him and then sending him some odd email giving him a chance? That's childish and crazy. I can't speak for any other man, but if a woman wants us to get to know each other then she needs to put her big girl panties on and let's roll. Otherwise, I don't have time for unrealistic expectations and silly games. If I were the OP, I would be on to the next one and wouldn't waste any time wondering about what she wants. i tell guys first meeting i am after a serious relationship if i actually date them and not keep them as friends............i dont mess around...... i am serious....... i am often called child like too....because i dotn have guile./......i dont mind that...i am often guileless ...more guarded face to face and my closest friends accept even the goofy me the retarded crazy one they come to me for advice i also often offer a different perspective which is why i feel i have been put upon in this thread...nothing new to me....being different..... i stand by what i wrote...i wont back down just because three posters tell me otherwise and question my mental health and whether child like is appropriate.....i have my big girl panties on.....but a heart that tells truth doesnt wear panties for protection............considering the fact i don't know her personally.....i would say a chance is warranted on both of them..they need to talk about it....they both need to feel comfortable and on the same path....who knows what will happen you surely dont..just as much as i dont.i wish the op the best i hope he finds happiness with or without.......best wishes...............deb
Author steelgator Posted June 4, 2014 Author Posted June 4, 2014 Thanks for all the advice guys! I asked her why she texted me and she said whe thought that the she felt awkward and wanted to give me another chance. So I told her I'd like to take her Ice skating because it's better than your typical dinner and a movie and it'd be fun. She then ignored me and never responded. I then told her ok I'm not into games and don't try to contact me again and deleted her number 2
DArtagnan2 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 so, she wanted to give you one more chance? lol I am glad you took care of it.
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