ll_lok Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 Damn I wished I had read this forum before and the whole NC thing. After a week and a half of a mutual break up I missed her so much I started thinking that there was still hope of saving our relationship... I told her how I felt, and she hesitated so much, at one point I actually thought she would say yes, but then she said no. I was devastated. I broke down and begged her (ok not in the way you might be imagining but I pretty much did). A week later I did it again a second and a third time. The third one I ended up getting upset and telling her I never wanted to see her again. (WHICH IS NOT TRUE). Now I dont know what to do. I want to apologize for my behavior but I dont want to keep pushing her away. I am just having such a hard time accepting it is over. This was my first true love. I havent contacted her since, but I think all my chances were ruined. I just keep thinking of how much I loved her and how much she loved me back, and when I do that I really wonder how her feelings towards me could change so drastically. Thoughts? Please be as harsh as you need to be. I need a reality check. 2
Lizie29 Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 I did the say with my ex bf so i feel you right how .. We think begging will bring them back but trust me im a woman and begging will only make it worse.. U need to go NC and show her that u can be independant . She knows u still love her ..if the feeling is mutual trust me she will come back and u dont have to beg for it to happen . Dont sit there and wait ! 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Sometimes people don't love you back as much as you think, they're love being loved. It's true begging makes it worse, the one who cares the least controls the relationship. Next time don't ever allow a girl to know you like her more than she likes you, and don't confess your love to them until they do. That way you'll be with someone who really does love you.
Lyn77 Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 My ex started begging me back this morning. After a 36 hour breakup where he left me helpless. If you beg someone to take you back, they may do so only out of guilt. Never a good idea. His begging me to take him back is actually making me want to get back with him even less.
yololin Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Wow good point from a poster. Some of us love loving. Some of us love being loved. I've been both. It's easy to like someone a lot when they are loving you. But that's not the same as loving them back. Our hearts are always in a state of protection, loving, being broken, healing, or staying broken.
HeartinPain Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 A lot of us have been there too. I begged for my first love back as well. It does not work. It comes off as very unattractive and pushes them away. I never really think break up are 'mutual.' There is always one person who pushed for the break up more than the other. If you were dumped, all you can do is go NC. Focus and heal yourself. Life seems hard now, but you will be surprised at how resilient humans are. Life does go on and you will find happiness again. It is important to not dwell and realize this is the time for you to improve yourself to move on to bigger and better things.
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