tito1501 Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 Me and my ex-girlfriend had a date that lasted 2 and a half years. We broke-up two years ago and now she reappeared saying that she misses me, stating that I am more mature and she loves me as she always did. It is vital to point out that I am moving to another country to study for a semester (or more) in another university, but she did not know that before she came to talk to me. Indeed, with all these things she said now that we are "getting back together", my feelings for her are emerging again, therefore, I expect that we see each other and talk to one another more often. However, she said we cannot see each other a lot because we will get too much attached to each other and that will hurt us a lot. I understand her point, but I can't understand why she does not send a "hi" to me or call me as she usually did when we had great times in that past. She only comes to me when I notice she really NEEDS to meet me. If she loves me as she affirms, why not to call me or invite me out ? I know I am not being able to see her point of view as I ought to and that I am being selfish but, if a person really loves the other, doesn't she try to be with the other as much time as possible ? She doesn't even share her problems or achievements with as she did before; maybe that is because I would be a "false/temporary support" Please, show me your perception.
Dallers Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 Just make sure you go to this other country and not even consider staying for a second. Go. It is bad news. Once you break up it is over, 2 years later...it has long been over. These feelings are not real feelings they are just thoughts of what you once had making you want her. It will pass and you will be thankful you didn't let your guard down. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 You need to go on your semester abroad. Casually keep in touch whil eyou are away but nobody is obligated & you aren't dating let alone exclusive. If she's still around when you get back & you want to date her, ask her to dinner then. 1
Youngblood11 Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 From a personal experience, this is bad news bro! Was in same situation couple of months back, my ex broke up with me, cheated and started going out with a guy she works with, bumped into each other in town she was all happy and saying how this new dude is amazing, considerate blah blah... Few months later, saw her again in town she jumped, hugged me and said same thing your girl is saying.. Turned out the dude was kicking the hell out her and that's when she realised what she had, she tried to get back together but I refused ( she tried everything ) My point is, think about it deeply and even if you decide to get back together officially, take control and don't expect much or else you'll go back to square one again 1
Author tito1501 Posted June 3, 2014 Author Posted June 3, 2014 Just make sure you go to this other country and not even consider staying for a second. Go. It is bad news. Once you break up it is over, 2 years later...it has long been over. These feelings are not real feelings they are just thoughts of what you once had making you want her. It will pass and you will be thankful you didn't let your guard down. Dallers, I really appreciate your insight, but do you think love can disappear after two years apart ? When we stay with each other, it seems our feelings are still dare, intact.
Author tito1501 Posted June 3, 2014 Author Posted June 3, 2014 You need to go on your semester abroad. Casually keep in touch whil eyou are away but nobody is obligated & you aren't dating let alone exclusive. If she's still around when you get back & you want to date her, ask her to dinner then. From a personal experience, this is bad news bro! Was in same situation couple of months back, my ex broke up with me, cheated and started going out with a guy she works with, bumped into each other in town she was all happy and saying how this new dude is amazing, considerate blah blah... Few months later, saw her again in town she jumped, hugged me and said same thing your girl is saying.. Turned out the dude was kicking the hell out her and that's when she realised what she had, she tried to get back together but I refused ( she tried everything ) My point is, think about it deeply and even if you decide to get back together officially, take control and don't expect much or else you'll go back to square one again Yes, I am totally focused on school and I think that is just another illusion for myself seeing her every now and then. Thinking deeply, it does not change a thing whether she calls me and say hi or not. We will be apart for a long time now. My main problem is to always have GREAT expectations about this girl. But life is not that simple, my future is what matters now. I just think that as we have been so much time apart and we still love each other, maybe one year or more apart won't be a problem. Not forgetting that we can meet another person on the path
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