purplesoccer34 Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 I've recently gotten into the whole online dating thing, and went on dates with a few guys. When I was talking to these guys online, they all seemed very nice and friendly, and I didn't think anything about giving them my number. Even when I met these guys in person, they were all very nice and friendly. However, there is one guy I'm having doubts about, and I regret giving him my number. When we were talking online, he seemed very nice. We were having a normal conversation about our interests, hobbies, what we want to do in life, and some intellectual topics too. He told me he was working on his master's degree, and he sounded quite intelligent. There was nothing creepy about this conversation, and at the end of this conversation, he asked if he could text or call me. I gave him my number. We never got to meet in person though, because he lives 400 miles away from me. When we started texting, we continued the conversation that we were having online. Every now and then he would say stuff like, "come here and cuddle with me," or "you have such a nice body," but he didn't go any further than that. He also told me about how he just lost his job and had a death in the family. I was getting bored of talking to him, but I continued to talk to him because I felt bad for him. Every now and then, I wouldn't respond to his texts, but he'd always text me again saying "hi" or "hey," and I'd respond once again. At one point however, I told him that I'm no longer interested, mentioning the distance as a factor (I realized later that there was no way it would work). He continued to text me saying, "Oh I know the distance makes it hard, but I also know that we can still make this work." but ever since then, I didn't reply. That was almost 3 months ago, but he still continues to text me every 5 days or so. It's always a "hi" or "hey" but for the past 3 months, he's been texting me every week even though he's been getting no response from me. Is it because he might be lonely? Could it be that he's obsessive? I know I shouldn't be giving my number to strangers, so did I make a mistake by giving this guy my number?
justhadto Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 (edited) Yes,Always make sure before handing out your number. A masters degree or a nice smile doesn't mean Jack. Tell him that you are not interested don't be harsh (I know you won't but I'm just reminding you),but firm.Your mistake was telling him it was because of the distance. If he won't let up, tell your local authorities and screencap your texts. Make sure to do what some dudes require and walk on egg shells. Good luck. Only tell him this after he texts you again and not out of the blue. My friend had a guy calla guy who harassed her and the texts stopped. Edited June 3, 2014 by justhadto
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