sugarpie Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 9 months and he relocated to my country. We started fighting a lot towards the end of the relationship and I got tired of his fickle-mindedness and emotional immaturity. We eventually broke up within 2 months of his relocation. As for who initiated the break, I'm not sure. He told me he didn't love me anymore so after having a think for a few days, I said "okay I respect your wishes and break up then". I thought he'd be happy with my answer but he asked what led to my decision. He was also very upset about a letter I wrote him about how he had been disrespectful and how I don't see the point in being with someone who doesn't love me. We promised to stay friends though because I know he doesn't have anyone here. I have tried meeting him twice after the breakup but he seemed rather angry and unstable. I then decided to go NC so that I could emotionally heal and to give him some space as well. I have been doing pretty good and enjoying myself. I didn't remove him on social media because his updates do not really affect me, and he hasn't contacted me either so I assumed he had moved on. I was planning to try reaching out to him again after a month or something. I'm still on Day 21 of NC and last night, I posted something about travelling this week and how I was excited. This morning, I woke up and found that he had disconnected from me on Twitter and Instagram. I'm blocked from all his chats as well, except Facebook chat. He also blocked all his Facebook posts from me but did not unfriend me. A few weeks ago, I commented on a mutual friend's wall post and within the evening, he removed her as a friend. I'm not sure how to proceed from here, in order to maintain a friendship. What is he thinking, and how should I reach out to him? As we were living together, I still need him to sign some documents to transfer certain accounts to him, and I was planning to do these after a month when the emotions have cooled off.
JoeFallkon Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 Seems to me that he has been reading about the NC rule too, he just left the fb to have a lil to hold on to.maybe you should unfriend him and see if he contacts you. My ex blocked me from fb like 3 weeks ago, then she started saying hi, and sent me a friend request last week on fb, but i havent accepted it. Pissed me off cuz after i ignored that she contacted my friend asking if i was ok, my friend said yes and she told him she was afraid i might had killed myself. i just dnt get why she cant just say she misses me, instead she always has to be on top to make her feel good. Maybe i will reply to her if she says anything other than a hi or how are you. After a lil more time.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 9 months and he relocated to my country. We started fighting a lot towards the end of the relationship and I got tired of his fickle-mindedness and emotional immaturity. We eventually broke up within 2 months of his relocation. As for who initiated the break, I'm not sure. He told me he didn't love me anymore so after having a think for a few days, I said "okay I respect your wishes and break up then". I thought he'd be happy with my answer but he asked what led to my decision. He was also very upset about a letter I wrote him about how he had been disrespectful and how I don't see the point in being with someone who doesn't love me. We promised to stay friends though because I know he doesn't have anyone here. I have tried meeting him twice after the breakup but he seemed rather angry and unstable. I then decided to go NC so that I could emotionally heal and to give him some space as well. I have been doing pretty good and enjoying myself. I didn't remove him on social media because his updates do not really affect me, and he hasn't contacted me either so I assumed he had moved on. I was planning to try reaching out to him again after a month or something. I'm still on Day 21 of NC and last night, I posted something about travelling this week and how I was excited. This morning, I woke up and found that he had disconnected from me on Twitter and Instagram. I'm blocked from all his chats as well, except Facebook chat. He also blocked all his Facebook posts from me but did not unfriend me. A few weeks ago, I commented on a mutual friend's wall post and within the evening, he removed her as a friend. I'm not sure how to proceed from here, in order to maintain a friendship. What is he thinking, and how should I reach out to him? As we were living together, I still need him to sign some documents to transfer certain accounts to him, and I was planning to do these after a month when the emotions have cooled off. He probably has his reasons. Not really much of a concern to you. You arent really going full no contact if you are looking at his social media sites. Either way, doesnt mean anything. He probably doesnt want a friendship. 1
JustC Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 If he was still on your social media, that wasn't NC. At least not for him. This is him finally NC-ing you. If he is the one who benefits from whatever he needs to sign, then he will let you know when he is ready to do that.
d0nnivain Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 He blocked you because he didn't want to read any more about how excited you were to do anything without him. He needs to heal & he can't do that with you in his life. If you were truly NC, you would not have noticed he blocked you & you'd be happy he was strong enough to do something you weren't. Promises to be friends in the immediate aftermath of a break up are empty words. If you cared about him at all, let him go in peace. Heaven forbid he calls you in an emergency since you are his only contact in this country, help him but other that that, leave him alone.
Chi townD Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 Well, you never removed him from social media because whatever he posted never affected you. Well, maybe you posted something that affected him? Maybe he saw something that he really didn't want to see? 1
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