Rig88 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 (edited) I've recently got back with my ex gf and things are going really well. My only issue is that I work with a lady who's in her mid 30's who seems to have taken a bit of a shine to me. I wouldn't usually be bothered but she's started drunk dialling and facebooking on the weekends saying pretty inappropriate stuff. It's really difficult because I work with her and I don't want to cause an atmosphere. I have absolutely no interest in her at all , even on a friendship basis. I don't want anything of anyone to sabotage my new found happiness. What should I do? Edited June 2, 2014 by Rig88
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Since you work with her, pull her aside at work & tell her you got back together with your GF & you'd appreciate it if she wouldn't call you any more. 2
Lisey9 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 If you have never done anything to encourage her or make her think drunk dialing you and saying inappropriate things is OK, you should not have a problem telling her to cut it out, even if you do work together. Would you rather make your non-ex-gf feel secure in the relationship or deal with the unpleasantness of telling a co-worker to stop sexually harassing you? If you don't want to make it a big thing, just try shutting her down next time she drunk dials you.
AnneT1985 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I'd definitely be honest with her...and ensure that your actions follow your words with this lady so everything is clear to her.
GoreSP Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Since you work with her, pull her aside at work & tell her you got back together with your GF & you'd appreciate it if she wouldn't call you any more. I agree with this except the part where it's done at work. I think that would be inappropriate.
dichotomy Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 How inappropriate ? Sexual things mentioned? or ? Step by step - in emails documented. 1) First. acknowledge positively you appreciate any compliments, but that your involved with someone and its so important to you not to damage your relationship with your GF, and ask her if she would be sensitive to this. 2) If this does not work, subtlety mention your previous request AND then said this is affecting your ability to work and would she please more sensitive and professional. 3) If this does not work, one last request, state that her comments feel like sexual harassment and you really wish she would return to only communicating about work related issues or you will have to inform HR at your company that she is creating a hostile environment for you. 4) If this does not work - three strikes - send all emails (hers and yours) to HR. State in the email you feel this is sexual harassment.
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