d0nnivain Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 I'm not sure..if he hasn't suggested anything by now, I feel as though I would be bugging him to hang out again way too early, and scare him away lol. Then wait a bit but before you give up, ask. You already don't have a date so you have nothing to lose.
mariee Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 There's no rules. You can contact him first.. But most times, when a guy really had a good time on first date, they text you first.. It's not about should I text her first, play games, anything like that. It just they reach you to see if you interested to meet next time, if you got home safe, what you upto, like anything,, because they like you and they are excited about you. Unless he is a shy guy.. Or trying to play games. I'm not saying all guys are like that. But in my experience and my friends, most times they contact you within 24 hours. If the date went great then he probably enjoyed your company too! Just text him what's up.. There's no rules really and if he liked you, he will be very glad. If not, his loss.
KaliKatherine Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Not sure how old you are OP, but at my age I would LOVE for a woman to just pick up the stinking phone and call me. One of my biggest turn offs is woman in my age bracket want to communicate with text. Texting can be fun to do while slacking off a little at work AFTER you establish some sort of relationship. and Like d0nnivain said "it's fine for quick notes". I feel that with texting we lose a lot of the emotion in the text itself. Maybe I am just "some old guy", but I would much rather hear a voice. Then I can tell she had a good time. Recently wound up on my FaceBook page and it makes a lot of sense regarding how we are with our phones and gadgets.......it's worth a look-see . I'm 33 recently divorced and not ready to date yet...finally got into texting in the past year. I have a hard time telling how sincere people are being when they text and it seems like sometimes people send a text and then forget about it especially when it says something vague like "we should do that again soon!" Maybe it's also because I am just meeting lots of new people (mainly other moms of young kids) and a relative newbie to texting. I have to say...the idea of communicating with a new love interest by texting is a bit of a turn off to say the least! I agree with what other posters have said--suggest something specific to do! Wondering if LoveFloats has any new news...
regine_phalange Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 I agree, calling is better, but still, if someone likes the person who texted, they won't be turned off because of a text. Lovefloats, in the text you sent, did you throw in some specific idea for an activity, and did you propose a specific day in your schedule, so that he could reply a yes or no? Even though, judging from his text reply he doesn't seem very eager to me (although he is polite). Don't worry, if it doesn't move beyond one date, then it just wasn't meant to be.
Leeway Harris Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 If a guy really likes you, he will lock in the next date while on the first date. Because you haven't heard from him he is probably keeping his options open or not interested This is absolute nonsense. Where do you get this from? Sometimes we're concerned about seeming too pushy, or overeager, or maybe we have to process the date that just happened before we plan another one.
Frank2thepoint Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Always let a guy know that you enjoyed being with him. Never ever use the 'you have my number, call me'. Instead be enthusiastic: 'I really enjoy being with you. I hope you feel the same and look forward to seeing you again'. To seal the deal give him a hug, look him in the eyes and say 'I mean it'. Then walk away. He has been given the green light This is really nice. As a man, I would appreciate such a message a lot by a woman. The hug would definitely seal the deal. Such an affectionate and thoughtful action would give a green light and relieve some of the worry that comes from dating. Not sure how old you are OP, but at my age I would LOVE for a woman to just pick up the stinking phone and call me. One of my biggest turn offs is woman in my age bracket want to communicate with text. Texting can be fun to do while slacking off a little at work AFTER you establish some sort of relationship. and Like d0nnivain said "it's fine for quick notes". I feel that with texting we lose a lot of the emotion in the text itself. I agree. I'm 35 and would enjoy hearing a woman's voice over the phone, affirming that she enjoyed the date and would love to see me again. Such a simple act goes a long way in establishing a rapport and comfort. I'm not sure..if he hasn't suggested anything by now, I feel as though I would be bugging him to hang out again way too early, and scare him away lol. Just to point this out, the responsibility of setting up subsequent dates does not solely fall on the man. If you like him, then show him that by calling him with a plan for a date (yes it's okay to leave a brief message if he doesn't pick up). Don't ask when he is free. Make suggestions, throw out ideas. A confident woman that is not afraid to make plans with the guy, is very attractive. It sends a clear signal to a (perceptive) man that you mean business.
Author LoveFloats Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 Thanks guys! I really don’t want to play games, and a friend if mine is ALWAYS pressing on me to NEVER call/text a guy first, but I don’t really agree. I got up the courage and asked him to dinner next Monday and he agreed! I wasn’t sure where exactly, but he said he would think of some places. Now hopefully he will follow up with that! 1
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