Vero Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I had a bad first "break-up" (I never made it official) with a girl at my high school. It's been 8 months since then and I really do believe that I've gotten over her. She's super hot, but I really don't like her personality at all. However, I occasionally may go through these random "feeling rushes" that can last like an hour. During these periods, I tend to stalk her on social media, listen to relationship related songs, and even masturbate. This girl was the only girl I've felt love for on a deep level. However, I don't feel these deep feelings for her anymore. I only feel this during these "rushes", which seldom happen. It seems like I can't really do anything with these feelings as it is summer, and my #1 go-to for girls as a teenage boy was school. Before you say anything like "stop complaining about this girl and enjoy your summer", I AM going to have a blast this summer, and I have dropped my deep feelings of her. It's just these "feeling rushes" that happen unexpectedly where I feel almost everything again and it's quite an annoying vibe-killer. What can I do to solve this?
Baller25 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Maybe something you see, hear, smell or remember triggers you to remember the good times of being in a relationship, which in this case brings you to this girl. When I break up with a girl, although I start dating others there are times when I just randomly check her FB. I've checked ex's FBs on my phone while on dates with new girls — I guess it takes time for our mind to completely move on, not that we miss that specific person but rather what we had or hoped. I'd say just leave it. Actually it sounds like you just really want some and the last girl that gave it to you was that girl. Jerk off and forget.
LustAppeal Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I know it sucks and you’ve probably thought about it already, but it doesn’t matter how seldom these rushes are, you CANNOT go looking though her facebook pictures… etc. You CANNOT get over someone if you decide to think of them in a sexual manner, so don’t think of her while masturbating. I am highly against porn in most cases, but if you really have that much trouble focusing sexual fantasies on women other than her during masturbation maybe start watching porn while you do so. Another thing, these “rushes” are probably just an increase in your sexdrive that could be caused by just about anything; Food you eat, seasons change, social events, familiar thoughts/smells, etc… When it comes to getting over someone the ONE MAIN THING that most people hold onto is the fact that maybe one day down the road, 10-20-30 years even, you’ll see this person and start dating again. DON’T DO IT, moving on is knowing that this person is out of your life for good. FOR GOOD! If you ever have thoughts of making the person jealous, impressing them somehow, or meeting them down the road and falling in-love… Well you’re not over them yet.
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