thromback Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 hey its me again ive been fine for 3 weeks and she broke nc and we started to talk alot (my ex) and like i saw her at a talent show a bunch of my friends and hers and i saw her with some douchebag and they walked aloen together im just so ****ing pissed off what should i do to get her back or get over her!!
StressFull Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 hey i dont know the story so how long have you guys been broken up, and how long were you togteher for. did you dumo her or did she dump you? cos if she dumped you and it was recently and shes already seein another guy then that really is out of order. but then again could you not be jumpin to conclusions i mean you did only see them together, did you actually see them kissing or anything?
MassiveAtom Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 Mike, change your handle, you're not a loser. Look you felt very strongly and you got hurt. It's part of life. Give up a little more info about the situation so we can help. C'mon buddy. Let's get you right so you can get the next cutie!
Author thromback Posted February 12, 2005 Author Posted February 12, 2005 we were going out for 3 months, and she broke up with me january 2nd. she said oh i just stopped liking you because we didn't hang out enough. THe thing was i would ask her to hang out every weekend and her parewns were gay and would say"she couldnt go to a guys house alone" or any of that. She still hasn't even given me a good reason why and she's just weird. She's nice in like school, but then if i ever see her out of it she just like says hi and walks away. I know we aren't going otu anymore, but we were best freinds before we were. She's like "oh i na month things will be fine" and that was a month ago. She hasn't changed and I don't know why I still like her. I don't want any answers oh if she's acting like that to you then just dont liek her. Well if it was that easy I would. I really just have no idea what to do to get back together with her or get over her, eithier way is not going to work out..
StressFull Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 well ok...number one is that there really is no answer to make you feel better. there is no magic remedy and its a matter of sayin to yourself "im me and im not gonna be feelin crappy over this girl cos im better than that" i know that sounds stupid but if you really start to listen and accept that fact it will work you will have good and bad days. more bad at first but it really does get slightly easier each week your right she isnt being honest with you. that doesnt sound like its the whole story. but there is no way you are gonna get it out of her if she doesnt want to tell you. to be honest the best way to get her back is to act like you really dont care. look at the effect it has on you. she acts like that and now your pining over her. do the same. you see her be like "oh hi" and walk off. not rude, dont be rude jus act like your not bothered. if this doesnt work, which you will have to accept it might not, then at least your already one step closer to gettin over her. the worst thing to do is hound her for answers and let her know she could have you back anytime.
crisp Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 Try to go on with your life. She said "no"... continue NC. Maybe she'll miss you and make a step towards you. The thing is you cannot make someone be honest to your or open up to you. This must come from them. If she shut you away, well, what makes you think she won't do it again? She may be pretty and all, but she's kinda messing with your head. MAybe she's unhppy, maybe she's got other issues. You can't be there for her unless she wants you to. You cannot go through to her unless she lets you. She's not. You'd better accept that. NExt time tell yourself you'll communicate more to your gf before letting your feelings show. Sorry, buddy, tough lesson...
Author thromback Posted February 12, 2005 Author Posted February 12, 2005 yea i did nc and she said we dont talk enoguh I'm gonig to continue it, but like im just annoyed over this i didnt do anything wrong at all even her friends said it.
StressFull Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 bro the thing is that, and you are gonna read this and be like oh that really doesnt help, there is nothing you can do. and i mean nothing sometimes in some situations you can change it and sometimes you jus have to say, ****in bitch you dont know what you lost, but its your loss. you will realise one day when your unhappy. in a way you are lucky becuase it was only 3 months and however strongly you feel for her now you will be OK soon, and you will have valuable experiance. its not nice at the moment and you will not see how this is a good thing but it is...i promise you if you dont feel better in about 2months then you can come back on the site PM me, ill give you my address and you can come round and kick me in the teeth lol! if i can give you one peice of advice (and this doesnt always work but really boosts the confidence) the sayin goes "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else". dosnt have to be anythin serious or even sex, jus someone to flirt with and you are interested in. your confidence has taken a kickin (i can judge from the name) but jus realise that you must be good or she never woulda gone out with you in the first place. keep me posted bro i really wanna know how this turns out
Chan Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 Originally posted by StressFull its a matter of sayin to yourself "im me and im not gonna be feelin crappy over this girl cos im better than that" i know that sounds stupid but if you really start to listen and accept that fact it will work to be honest the best way to get her back is to act like you really dont care. look at the effect it has on you. she acts like that and now your pining over her. do the same. you see her be like "oh hi" and walk off. if this doesnt work, which you will have to accept it might not, then at least your already one step closer to gettin over her. the worst thing to do is hound her for answers and let her know she could have you back anytime. if only we would listen to r own advice ey?
Author thromback Posted February 12, 2005 Author Posted February 12, 2005 alright thanks guys ive been talking to toher girls it just when i see her i get pissed off so ill try to avoid her thanks
aarsky Posted February 13, 2005 Posted February 13, 2005 As much as we've had our moments, I keep trying ways of hoping that my ex will one day return. Emails, phone calls, letters. Just wondering if I should just give up. It's really difficult especially around the holidays, because I think that maybe she misses me as much as I miss her.
StressFull Posted February 13, 2005 Posted February 13, 2005 yeh i do to but thats not wrong to hope your ex will return but at the same time while hoping you have to move on and accept that she/he probably wont. thats the hard part.
Author thromback Posted February 16, 2005 Author Posted February 16, 2005 last night i told her we shouldn't talk anyore, until I could handle being friends. Her friends told me she was crying and everything, but like she just treated me so badly... I don't know if i should stop talking to her forever or not.
Sukotto Posted February 16, 2005 Posted February 16, 2005 Its the easiest thing to do, just cut ALL contact. At least until you've moved on and those feelings dull down. I doubt they'll ever completely disappear though. Its been over a month since I last spoke to my ex, go me! Everyday I still think about calling her or sending her a message. If only for a few minutes though, its no where as bad as it use to be. I dont regret ending contact with her now at all, it was better than what I had attempted to do. We tried to stay in contact but it just felt strained and I wasn't really getting over her.
Author thromback Posted February 16, 2005 Author Posted February 16, 2005 Well im keeping nc unti lim over her maybe we can be friends after, but things will never be the same :/
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