Elle1975 Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 So, did you guy break up? Or are you just fighting? I am asking because of your "I guess he doesn't deserve it".
Author Sweeetie Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 So, did you guy break up? Or are you just fighting? I am asking because of your "I guess he doesn't deserve it". At that time we were just fighting; we have been through many 'break-up then make-ups' throughout the 11 months of our relationship, initiated by both of us. Now we have had a real breakup.
stillafool Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 So you are broken up. Good for you this guy sounds so down right mean and disrespectful toward you. Go strict NC on this one.
mightycpa Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Way back when, during the summer between high school and college, I used to say mean stuff like that to my ex. I didn't mean it, but I was frustrated by our impending separation, and being totally immature, I didn't know how to express it. So, it just came out in ****ty comments like the ones you got, and fighting over nothing and all sorts of little problems that I caused because of my lack of maturity. Now, I loved that girl more than anything, but I didn't show it, and my ex had enough self-respect not to put up with it. She dumped me, and it ended up being the right thing... not because we weren't right for each other, I'll never think that. But it was because I was immature, and we would have crashed and burned had I not been given my walking papers and motivation to grow up. Timing is everything, and plus, once you get into a pattern of behavior, it is tough, very tough, to break out of it. I don't think you can do it with little breaks... you have to separate and change substantially. Of course when you do that, chances are you'll find somebody else right for you, and you won't want to go back. You've broken up? That sounds like a good thing. Work on that insecurity, which is tied very closely to maturity. Do good things and do difficult good things. You'll see a whole new side of you blossom, and you won't worry so much about how "attractive" you are. You are what you are, so just take care of yourself and your appearance. Many people will find you perfectly alluring. Good luck!
Author Sweeetie Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 Way back when, during the summer between high school and college, I used to say mean stuff like that to my ex. I didn't mean it, but I was frustrated by our impending separation, and being totally immature, I didn't know how to express it. So, it just came out in ****ty comments like the ones you got, and fighting over nothing and all sorts of little problems that I caused because of my lack of maturity. Thanks for that. In this case we've both been through college, I'm gonna be 25 in 2 months and he turned 24 two months ago. I hope I find a more mature man who acts his age And I'm not insecure; I get attention from a lot of men, more than I ever got from this guy which is the irony of it all.
mightycpa Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 In this case we've both been through college, I'm gonna be 25 in 2 months and he turned 24 two months ago. I don't know about you, but I'm not sure college helped me mature. :-D If anything, I got to be a kid for 4 more years, except no parental supervision! The people I knew who didn't go to college seemed a lot more serious about life than me when I went back to see them after graduation. They had already begun to settle into the drudgery of real life. I don't think I began to feel that until I was in my 30's. Most people will dote and fawn over you until they think they have you. It is only occasionally that you'll come across one who never stops. 1
Elle1975 Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Getting attention doesn't fix the insecurity issues. I'm sure you feel fine though, since you say so yourself. It's just a thought. I agree, date someone a little bit more mature; and being single is good for school.. it gives you time to concentrate on that. I start again September 2nd, and I am glad I am single when it comes to school.
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