Nimbus4dt Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Is it common after the above period to feel really flat?? Have been really coping rather well, been out and about seeing friends etc doing things and have felt that I was coping ok. Sure still think about her but not 24/7 like I did before, actually felt like progress was being made on my part. However today it feels like I've hit a brick wall, thought nothing other than about her, what she's doing, does she miss me?, is she happy? all those silly little questions again, where did they all come from??? So as above is this a common occurrence after this time period? I stupidly still miss her dearly.
JahnJahn Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Is it common after the above period to feel really flat?? Have been really coping rather well, been out and about seeing friends etc doing things and have felt that I was coping ok. Sure still think about her but not 24/7 like I did before, actually felt like progress was being made on my part. However today it feels like I've hit a brick wall, thought nothing other than about her, what she's doing, does she miss me?, is she happy? all those silly little questions again, where did they all come from??? So as above is this a common occurrence after this time period? I stupidly still miss her dearly. I havent been in NC for a long time like you have, but I do understand what you are feeling. It is common, people you loved dont simply just dissapear from our minds just like that. What Ive tried to do and this is still a WIP is to have a time or day where I will cry and sob and let all the emotions run wild before I get back to doing something for myself e.g. Yesterday I actually cried, I told myself there is no shame in doing so and I needed to think about all the good things and bad things etc After this, when the phase passed, I felt better and went out for my sisters bday, my Ex never crossed my mind until this morning. 1
Author Nimbus4dt Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 Yes, I agree with you, did this for a while, although not been at all emotional for what seems like an age/ I think it's just a blip and having another good read up on Narcissistic relationships and reasons they are like they are, makes things better!! Certainly a roller coaster, wish you luck in your journey, stay strong!
lovehurtsme91 Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 I totally relate to you. It's my 2x something days of NC on my part. There are days I cry my eyeballs out, some days I feel gold. Last week I cried so badly for 2 whole days and the next 5 days felt great. Yesterday I cried so much till I had a headache (not even exaggerating here) and today I got up feeling A-okay. JahnJahn said it right, crying is not something to be ashamed of. I keep telling myself that too. There will be times when you just need to crawl to your bed and just cry it out. It is normal. Sometimes you just feel so low that you can't move and all you can do is cry, it is acceptable. Cos if you don't cry it out, you're not healing. And if you don't cry, means whatever happened to you doesn't mean anything or you're in denial. It happens. But what is important is how we try to pick ourselves up from that low point when it hits. It's a process. Don't feel stupid missing her, she was a part of your life and now she's gone. So it's alright to think about her once in awhile. Just let it pass, you'll do fine 3
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