raider09 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I asked this girl for her number last week. We sparked a short conversion it turns out that she is moving away from where she lives and signed up for a gym membership where i workout at. She also mentioned that she might attend the same community college as me. When I was leaving I asked for her number and she hesitated and said I have a boyfriend. When i got up i said see you around, she replied ill see you around in school maybe. Does anyone have any advice should i continue to stick around?
Charmander Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Nah man, go graze in different meadows. That one still has a sturdy fence ain't no cows getting into that pasture. Char! 1
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 She has a BF. She is off limits. She probably thought you were cute. If she didn't have a BF she might have dated you but since she does, you were nothing more than a momentary ego stroke. Take the compliment that she thought you were cute & move on.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 No, don't pursue her. Find someone who isn't already spoken for. And to be honest, her interest doesn't appear to be anything more than friendly.
JahnJahn Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 It saddens me and truly frustrates me when I see something like this. Why do people never respect the boundaries of another relationship? Sure she might be interested but you should not pursue her. Leave her be. You do not want to be the reason she becomes confused and ends up hurting someone else. Just imagine someone did that to you.
Scrab22 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 If you feel like hanging out with her as just a friend, it's fine. But don't try to get in a relationship with her. Reasons are already written here by the users.
Author raider09 Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 My intention is not to steal her from her current bf. I want to get to know her and over time hopefully get a chance to date her.
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 My intention is not to steal her from her current bf. I want to get to know her and over time hopefully get a chance to date her. Bad plan. If you are her friend while she has a BF you will end up in the friendzone. She will tell you all her relationship drama & then if she does become free later you won't seem manly enough for her. You can be her acquaintance. Wave hi across the gym but don't do anything else unless you learn she is no longer with the BF, then ask her out.
JahnJahn Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 My intention is not to steal her from her current bf. I want to get to know her and over time hopefully get a chance to date her. Those two are contradictory. How do you know she is not going to marry this guy? Over time "hopefully" get a chance to date her? If you have no intention of stealing her from her current BF then you would not be thinking about ever dating her or talking about it. Do the right thing and don't pursue her. Find someone single.
Moe'sTavern Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 My intention is not to steal her from her current bf. I want to get to know her and over time hopefully get a chance to date her. I seriously hope you recognize the contradiction you just wrote her.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 My intention is not to steal her from her current bf. I want to get to know her and over time hopefully get a chance to date her. WAT. This is perhaps the most contradictory sentence I've read in a long while.
Imported Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 My intention is not to steal her from her current bf. I want to get to know her and over time hopefully get a chance to date her. Yes, I understand. You want to do the wrong thing in a way where you can pretend you aren't doing anything wrong. Some people like to fool even themselves. You are of course thinking about trying to steal her from her boyfriend in a more underhanded loser way. Some guys are pathetic like that. On the plus side, I doubt you'll be able to. I am guessing this was a one time encounter and she was being sociable. You probably mistaked her being nice for interest. It happens. "seemed interested"......did she give you her number?
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