WiselyNaive Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 was dating a guy for a little while before i started feeling i was being lied to. did some digging found out about another girl, her & i spoke & divulged information & discovered he was with us both. we confronted him & to my surprised he chased after her & said he never dated me & a bunch of horrible things. only in that moment did i realize what happened...that i was the girl on the side & i was a fool. he humiliated me in front of the girl and all the people there after i thought he was my boyfriend. she spoke to me & said she'd never be with him again after how he acted I don't know if i ever believed her but.. its been 2 months since it happened...he never tried to contact me since i told him i'd tell her if he did. today i foolishly decided to look at his social media where I see him post a picture of her confirming my darkest fears... he doesn't regret his decision, or miss me, or feel dumb...but he's with the girl he chose..happy. & i still haven't even began to recover from everything he did. everything within me wants to comment on that picture so bad...but i know I've been great with NC in terms of direct contact to him...so far & that i'll just look AND feel silly after... i have never felt so hurt & I don't know how to cope with this amount of pain
lovehurtsme91 Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 I'm so sorry to hear about your story. I suppose I can relate with you on some ways. When I started with my ex of 4 years, I never knew I was the 3rd wheel till much later, although when he started with me, he broke off with her. It didn't make me feel any better when I found out. And now, he cheated on me with another girl who also did not even know I existed, putting her into that very position of the girl on the side without knowing it. He also posted pictures of the girl and PDAs in every social media (except FB cos his parents are on it) and having my best friend support him going after her even though he knew he cheated on me made things worse. I have many times wanted to comment and tag the girl to have her be aware of what a jerk my ex was but I knew it wouldn't do any good but just make me seem like the bad person even though HE was the one who cheated. I tried my best to keep the NC, although I try to not check his social medias, ain't easy honestly - but I know I have to. So I am resisting all possible temptation. All I can say is I know how angry and how hurt you must feel right now. But before you do anything like comment on the pic, think about it before doing so. 1) Would your future self be happy if you did it? 2) Would you be stooping down to his level if you did that? I understand is not easy, all I can say is try to not cyber stalk him. I'm trying to do the same too. So let's do this together k? When you feel like cyber stalking him, read a book or listen to songs. Not emotional songs, something you can dance to and just dance it out You can do this! We can do this!
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