Atticus9292012 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 (edited) There is this guy I have posted about before. We have gone back and forth for months. He would tell me he didn't want a relationship and then we'd run into each other and things would kind of rekindle. We have a lot of mutual friends so even with trying to avoid him we run into each other here and there. I kept trying to leave it alone, but I am just foolish I guess. I have feelings for him and against my better judgment I couldn't leave it alone. We kept ending up back at square one. I recently called him out on his confusing behavior and mixed messages and we ended up having an hour long phone call about it. No new information, but it felt good to tell him how I felt and how toyed with I have felt. We agreed to be friends, but I needed him to stop the flirting and the games. I get that you don't want to pursue this further, but that doesn't give you a license to toy with me. He even said the other night how much likes me, is attracted to me, and loves being around me. Total head trip. Anyway, I don't expect to be buddy buddy with this guy anytime soon. I saw him Friday and it was really awkward. Purposefully waited until I thought he left this friend gathering before I went, but nope he was there when I showed up. Anyway, he tried to start a conversation with me, but I kept it short. Not rude, but didn't want to fall into the same trap..guy eventually left. His birthday is tomorrow. Our friends had a get together today, but I didn't go to because I have my son and I am studying. He wished me a happy birthday last month and he and I have discussed that his birthday is tomorrow. So he knows that I know about it. Should I acknowledge it? I was gonna send a text. I want to be friends with him, but I don't want him to read it as me pursuing him, especially given our recent conversation. I don't wanna come off as a jerk either. Edited June 2, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
okc85 Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 eh. Probably don't bother. I was involved in a similar situation, except my unrequited love just flat-out stopped responding to me. Then, my birthday rolled around and she texted 'happy bday!' and i got excited. and i tried to engage her in convo..and she totally ignored me. WTF? Just don't. it's going to keep hurting
MikeyBe Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I want to be friends with him, but I don't want him to read it as me pursuing him, especially given our recent conversation. Errr.... well, the only way he'll read into it like that is if its true. Is it? Think about it, you're questioning a very simple Happy Birthday text and you contradict yourself more times then I can count in a single paragraph. eh. Probably don't bother. I was involved in a similar situation, except my unrequited love just flat-out stopped responding to me. Then, my birthday rolled around and she texted 'happy bday!' and i got excited. and i tried to engage her in convo..and she totally ignored me. WTF? Just don't. it's going to keep hurting Kinda opposite situation though.
Author Atticus9292012 Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 I'm not sure why I was so worried about something so innocuous. I sent him a happy birthday text. He responded with a thank you. End of conversation. Case closed.
preraph Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 It sounds like he likes you but likes probably a lot of other women just as well and simply has no intention of being monogamous anytime in the near future with anyone. One of these days, he will decide one is at least worth trying to keep from knowing who all he's cheating on her with. No reason you would want to be that person though! Give him a few years if he's under 30. If he's over 30, he's probably not maturing much anymore. Thing is, he probably doesn't have much respect for you left because now you've hung in there through all his playing. It's ironic, I know....
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