Marks Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 So I had posted about this girl before and how she is verrrryyy slow to respond to text messages...although the whole time all indicators seemed to point to her being interested in me (and at this point I'm pretty sure she knows I'm interested in her). Anyway, about a week ago she had called me to see if I was available to get together last Saturday (a week ago), but unfortunately I couldn't because I was going to be out of town. So I suggested that we meetup the following weekend (this week). Since she herself was going to be on a trip for most of the week, I told her to just let me know when she got back and that we would go from there and figure out a time to meet. Well, fast forward to a couple of days ago and I hadn't heard from her yet. So I figured that I'd ring her up during my lunch hour at work, figuring that I'd either catch her during her lunch as well and we'd talk for a couple minutes to catch up and maybe plan a date, or I'd leave her a voicemail asking her if she was free during the weekend. To be honest, I was expecting needing to leave a voicemail, but to my surprise she actually picked up. This is when things got a bit weird...I chatted with her for maybe a total of half a minute before the call dropped. All I was able to get in was to ask her how her trip went. I tried calling her back but it seemed like she didn't have a signal for a short while, after which she finally called back. When we finally got in touch again, she asked if she could call me back when she got home later because she didn't have good cell reception where she was and that she was actually at work. I told her that was cool. So afternoon and evening rolls around...I'm expecting a call at some point... and I still didn't hear from her. In fact, it's been a couple of days now and I still haven't heard from her. No calls, no texts, nada. So now I'm not sure what to think... I figure that she might have a busy weekend...but couldn't she at least have let me know that she wasn't going to be able to call? I feel kind of blown-off at the moment, especially since I thought we had agreed to arranging a date for this weekend. So at this point, should I try contacting her again? Send her a text asking how her weekend has been, or something else along those lines? Or should I just wait for her to reach back out to me? I'm not sure what to do because on one hand, I don't want to seem like I'm aloof and not interested, but I also don't want to come off as needy. I also don't want to be in the position of trying to force a conversation with someone who's not interested, you know? At this point we haven't seen each other for 3-4 weeks (due to scheduling conflicts and circumstances beyond our control), so I'm wondering if she just lost interest...but like I said, everything seemed cool and she seemed interested in meeting again and doing other stuff together. So I'm left scratching my head...
drdre Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Just text her dude. Dont bring up that she was supposed to call you or anything like that. Text or call her like you'd normally do. She called and suggested getting together AND she offered to reschedule when it didnt work out. Id say she is interested. Dont make a big deal out of her not getting back to you.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 90% chance she isn't interested, 10% chance shes just a flighty ditz. In either case move on.
Author Marks Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 Just text her dude. Dont bring up that she was supposed to call you or anything like that. Text or call her like you'd normally do. She called and suggested getting together AND she offered to reschedule when it didnt work out. Id say she is interested. Dont make a big deal out of her not getting back to you. That's what I thought...that she's still interested. Technically I suggested the rescheduling, but she seemed okay with it, and she was the one to suggest getting together in the first place. But that was a little over a week ago before I tried calling her again after her trip, so maybe she had a change of heart in that time? I know that no one has the answer to that, but her not calling back seems to indicate to me that I'm not really up their on her list of interests...or maybe that she's really forgetful, lol. Idk what to think.
swnyce Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 why don't you go and see her.. so you will know the real answer.. its very hard to assume things, feel like hurting and then all of a sudden, there was a valid reason...
Author Marks Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 why don't you go and see her.. so you will know the real answer.. its very hard to assume things, feel like hurting and then all of a sudden, there was a valid reason... Yeah, you're right...after clearing my head overnight I realized that this thread speaks more to my insecurity than whether or not she's interested. I don't know why I'm stressing over this...if she wants to talk then great, if not then no big deal, I have other things going on anyway to fill my time. I should play it cool and just shrug this off...insecurity isn't an attractive trait. Gosh, I hope she's not reading any of this, lol.
Author Marks Posted June 3, 2014 Author Posted June 3, 2014 Yay! She replied! No mention of a date yet, but hopefully I'll be able to work something in
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