Philosopher Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 About a month ago, I met this girl from an online dating site. After a couple of messages we met up with each other in a bar for a couple of drinks half way between where we both lived. The date went very well, she was laughing at most of my jokes and we were touching each other quite a bit. Therefore I set up a second date with her for a few days later. In between the dates we sent each other quite a few flirty texts. The second date also went really well. I took her to a restaurant and pub I knew well. We chatted about various stuff about our lives over the past years and joked and teased around with each other. Towards the end of the date, she almost could not keep her hands off me. So at the end of the date I gave her a peck on the lips. At this point I felt pretty good that this was going to go somewhere. So onto the third date. For the third date we decided to see a movie near where she lived. I arrived 10 minutes late due to my train being delayed and then lost my movie ticket which got me a little flustered. After the movie, we went for a meal and a walk. We both joked and flirted with each other, though perhaps not as much as the previous date. Towards the end of date, we kissed each other for a fair amount of time, which she initiated. After this date her texts seemed a lot more mundane. A few days after this date she went on holiday overseas to see her sister. During her holiday, after asking how her holiday had been so far, I sent her an IM message suggesting she comes round to my apartment when she got back. She said she would confirm when she got back. A couple of days after she got back I tried calling her. She did not answer and instead sent a text saying she was busy. The next day she sent another text saying we should just be friends . I texted her back asking why. She replied saying I was a really nice person but that she felt there was no chemistry. After seemingly going so well, do any of you have any idea what went wrong here? Did she genuinely feel no chemistry or did I do something wrong?
J21 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Brush it off and don't take it personally man. Prolly met someone else or was seeing someone before you she connected better with. That's how OLD goes sometimes.
SugarLips72 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Women will come and go. Sometimes it takes a couple dates to figure out if you like someone. She also could have met someone else. Online dating is a mixed bag. You build up all these expectations before you meet someone and rarely does the other person live up to it. That is just how it is. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong at all. You sound like a nice bloke. A lack of chemistry sounds legit to me. Good luck
Author Philosopher Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 Thanks everyone so far your replies. It seems like that is just the way it is with OLD. Has anyone else got any words of wisdom?
michellew Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 So onto the third date. For the third date we decided to see a movie near where she lived. I arrived 10 minutes late due to my train being delayed and then lost my movie ticket which got me a little flustered. After the movie, we went for a meal and a walk. We both joked and flirted with each other, though perhaps not as much as the previous date. Towards the end of date, we kissed each other for a fair amount of time, which she initiated. How did you act when you were flustered? This may have been a turn off to her. Or maybe she didn't feel any sparks or chemistry when you kissed. Her ending it now is quite normal with online dating. Any dating in fact. If I don't know for certain if I connect with someone on the first date, I'll give it a couple more tries. By the third or fourth date, I can tell if I want to pursue something serious with the person. If not, I'll let them know instead of wasting their time. I'm sure you did nothing wrong, she really just didn't feel the chemistry. Sorry, OP.
the tank Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 She was probably dating other guy at the same time. You do well. This happen a lot on online dating . It happen to me the last two time I tried it..
Frank2thepoint Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 During her holiday, after asking how her holiday had been so far, I sent her an IM message suggesting she comes round to my apartment when she got back. I found this golden nugget in your post. You had three dates, some kissing, and you send this message to her? She assumed you wanted to have sex with her for the fourth date. Real classy move chief.
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