mortensorchid Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I've been looking back on a lot of things in life, realizing many mistakes and many pitfalls, things that I learned and that others have as well. SOme are common mistakes of growing up and others are unique to me. I'm almost 40, and I see where I should and should not be in my development. I am a very practical person, almost too verbal some have said. I see everything in black and white and yet nothing at all at times. And don't you just wish, for once that IT would happen to you the way you see it in movies? And you might say that movies and fairy tales are nonsense and real life is different. And it most certainly is, no question... Don't you just wish that somehow, someday IT too could happen to you? I just watched that movie Somewhere In Time and there was that magic scene where he sees her across the way near the lake and they just stare frozen at each other for a few minutes. And she says "Is it you?" He says "Yes." And you just know this is the love of your life? This is The ONE you were waiting for the whole time? I guess I never loose hope that someday, somehow IT can happen to me and all the others out there the way it is supposed to... 5
Leigh 87 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 That's how I felt when I met my boyfriend. Just when I was going for the wrong guys who just weren't into me, I finally met a man who proved to be more than our instant sparks. My friend also felt that eexact same way just like out of the movies. Their eyes locked at a club, they started kissing 5 seconds after they met and they lasted. They had that electric chemistry you see in movies but it actually lasted. They were both smitten from day one.
somedude81 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Not really, cause then she's just break my heart when she dumps me down the line. Or maybe she already has a man, and hopes we could just be friends.
DArtagnan2 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I've been looking back on a lot of things in life, realizing many mistakes and many pitfalls, things that I learned and that others have as well. SOme are common mistakes of growing up and others are unique to me. I'm almost 40, and I see where I should and should not be in my development. I am a very practical person, almost too verbal some have said. I see everything in black and white and yet nothing at all at times. And don't you just wish, for once that IT would happen to you the way you see it in movies? And you might say that movies and fairy tales are nonsense and real life is different. And it most certainly is, no question... Don't you just wish that somehow, someday IT too could happen to you? I just watched that movie Somewhere In Time and there was that magic scene where he sees her across the way near the lake and they just stare frozen at each other for a few minutes. And she says "Is it you?" He says "Yes." And you just know this is the love of your life? This is The ONE you were waiting for the whole time? I guess I never loose hope that someday, somehow IT can happen to me and all the others out there the way it is supposed to... I hear ya... I do
Imported Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 What are you doing to make "IT" happen? Right now I just wish I had a cheeseburger with a stack of bacon in it and a bottle of katsup. Instead I am eating a watermelon. It's OK, I'll be fine. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I feel the same way. I also know that it's mostly down to luck. Probably won't happen but hope springs eternal 1
joystickd Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 It will never happen to anyone that isn't willing to put in work to make it happen. Most are lazy this is why you hold on to a fantasy of what the media gives you about love and relationships. People focus on what the opposite sex does to keep them from being in that perfect relationship. Can any of you take some level of accountability in your failures at dating/relationships? All I ever see is men do this or women do that. What is it that you do wrong? Hell you pick these people that never work the way you want so that says a lot. Quit being lazy and put some work in damn!!!!
HappyLove Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 It will never happen to anyone that isn't willing to put in work to make it happen. Most are lazy this is why you hold on to a fantasy of what the media gives you about love and relationships. People focus on what the opposite sex does to keep them from being in that perfect relationship. Can any of you take some level of accountability in your failures at dating/relationships? All I ever see is men do this or women do that. What is it that you do wrong? Hell you pick these people that never work the way you want so that says a lot. Quit being lazy and put some work in damn!!!! I understand what your saying BUT plenty people put the work in and still can't meet a great partner. Dating is SOOO messed up these days. Even people who have found a partner half the time the relationship is horrible. 2
joystickd Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I understand what your saying BUT plenty people put the work in and still can't meet a great partner. Dating is SOOO messed up these days. Even people who have found a partner half the time the relationship is horrible. Dating is horrible because people are lazy and so scared. I'm afraid to get hurt so I make a man wait. I had my time wasted so I got gets them panties off ASAP. Be honest and cut out the games and BS. Dating wouldn't be so horrible if people did 3 things. 1. Be honest 2. Cut out the games 3. Take some ownership in the reasons you have trouble Everything else would fix itself if they did that, but instead they fantasize about ideal love. If it's like that then the women on this thread might as well get accustomed to the dildo and fingers.
Anela Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 It will never happen to anyone that isn't willing to put in work to make it happen. Most are lazy this is why you hold on to a fantasy of what the media gives you about love and relationships. People focus on what the opposite sex does to keep them from being in that perfect relationship. Can any of you take some level of accountability in your failures at dating/relationships? All I ever see is men do this or women do that. What is it that you do wrong? Hell you pick these people that never work the way you want so that says a lot. Quit being lazy and put some work in damn!!!! I don't pick them - I only picked one! I've run away from the rest. One still keeps trying, even though I don't contact him in any way.
joystickd Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I don't pick them - I only picked one! I've run away from the rest. One still keeps trying, even though I don't contact him in any way. Honestly you make not pick all of them but there is something about you. There is a reason you attract these men that you can change. It's not an all them situation. It's just like a guy that is always friendzoned. It's a reason or something that person is doing that is a cause of their problems in dating/relationships. If it's that bad just approach instead of waiting to be approached every once and a while.
Anela Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Mortensorchid, I know what you mean. I was watching such a movie this morning, when I "liked" this. It would be nice - I know of people who have had the "meet-cute", whether or not they got together right away, or down the line.
Anela Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Honestly you make not pick all of them but there is something about you. There is a reason you attract these men that you can change. It's not an all them situation. It's just like a guy that is always friendzoned. It's a reason or something that person is doing that is a cause of their problems in dating/relationships. If it's that bad just approach instead of waiting to be approached every once and a while. It may just be that I paid attention to them, rather than not talking to them at all. I don't know what it was with my sister's husband, though - he just decided to hit on me one day, when my sister was gone, and over the years, did stupid things like saying that he was in love with me - and yet now continues to lie and say that I'm delusional. he also continues to call me "sexy" and whatnot. This is why I'm not over the first time he did it - because he did it again and again, and perpetuated a lie. I did nothing to invite it, though.
Anela Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I do know that my shyness has held me back from dealing with some men in the past, and I've admitted when someone triggered my insecurities - the men I'm attracted to, usually do, because I think we're equal on certain levels, but I can easily come up with reasons as to why they wouldn't want to date me, and would friend-zone me (or have actually done so). I didn't ask the one man out last year, because I'm not the type to say, "I'm really attracted to you, let me burden you with the crazy that my life is at the moment." He also has a child, who is his first concern, so I think that leaves it in his corner as to whether or not he'll ask me out. And I *have* approached. I've been rejected, too.
joystickd Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I do know that my shyness has held me back from dealing with some men in the past, and I've admitted when someone triggered my insecurities - the men I'm attracted to, usually do, because I think we're equal on certain levels, but I can easily come up with reasons as to why they wouldn't want to date me, and would friend-zone me (or have actually done so). I didn't ask the one man out last year, because I'm not the type to say, "I'm really attracted to you, let me burden you with the crazy that my life is at the moment." He also has a child, who is his first concern, so I think that leaves it in his corner as to whether or not he'll ask me out. And I *have* approached. I've been rejected, too. I know for me I tend to be an OM. It's because I act differently as an OM than with a single women. Single women trigger some of my insecurities if it's someone I see myself being in a relationship with. I tend to let somethings go. Last single woman I was with she wasted my time honestly. I hated to really see that. It's good she didn't know I was banging a married woman while I was talking to her. She had me waiting and she took too long. I should have ended it after waiting that long but I really liked her and thought it would develop into something. I also gave her the benefit of the doubt because she had somethings she was going through. Now that I think about it I get the feeling she was banging someone. 1
ponchsox Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 The problem is I see things black and white but often times I choose to ignore the red flags thinking "every little things gonna be alright."
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