MalachiX Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Calling her family "white trash" doesn't seem all that useful. That said, I think you already got enough red flags. Someone who pushes for sex early and then starts with the, "and now you'll disappear" thing is clearly screwed up. I dislike all those dudes who will dump a women because she has sex too fast but I'm finding myself increasingly maddened by women who sabotage relationships because of early sex. It puts a decent guy in a no win situation where he risks hurting the women by rejecting her advances yet then has to deal with her paranoia that he's just using her for sex. It demonstrates that they're the ones with hang-ups about sex and gender roles. 2
Author djcos25 Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 (edited) Calling her family "white trash" doesn't seem all that useful. That said, I think you already got enough red flags. Someone who pushes for sex early and then starts with the, "and now you'll disappear" thing is clearly screwed up. I dislike all those dudes who will dump a women because she has sex too fast but I'm finding myself increasingly maddened by women who sabotage relationships because of early sex. It puts a decent guy in a no win situation where he risks hurting the women by rejecting her advances yet then has to deal with her paranoia that he's just using her for sex. It demonstrates that they're the ones with hang-ups about sex and gender roles. For the white trash part, I think my friend is just trying to let me know what type of a situation it is and for me to avoid it. Plus she told me she's not exactly trustworthy. About the "and now you'll disappear" part, yea she's the one that asked me if after the night its gonna turn into one of those where the guy doesn't text back or anything. We kept in contact for another day or so, I text her yesterday morning and no reply. So basically she turned around and did what she told me she feared I'd do. Whatever. Edited June 2, 2014 by djcos25
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I think she was ready to date & she seemed to own her behavior but the reality of her wedding date threw her for a loop. It's understandable which is why I told you to back off until tomorrow. The fact that you friend who knows you both is telling you to stay away from her & that she's untrustworthy is a huge red flag. I'd listen to the friend. Just because she's on FB doesn't mean she saw your text. I set my phone up so FB notifications do not show up. It was too much of a p.i.t.a. to have all the likes & other FB BS binging my phone all day. Also reading your wall & liking pictures of cute puppies is far more brainless then dealing with the guy you had sex with on the 1st date; that takes alot more energy so relax.
Author djcos25 Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 I think she was ready to date & she seemed to own her behavior but the reality of her wedding date threw her for a loop. It's understandable which is why I told you to back off until tomorrow. The fact that you friend who knows you both is telling you to stay away from her & that she's untrustworthy is a huge red flag. I'd listen to the friend. Just because she's on FB doesn't mean she saw your text. I set my phone up so FB notifications do not show up. It was too much of a p.i.t.a. to have all the likes & other FB BS binging my phone all day. Also reading your wall & liking pictures of cute puppies is far more brainless then dealing with the guy you had sex with on the 1st date; that takes alot more energy so relax. I don't buy it. With my friend telling me how she is, and not returning a text message? All set with these games. If she was truly interested she would have responded, thats just how I feel. Here it is, Monday a little after 11am and still nothing. Her number and facebook have already been deleted anyway. I've seen this pattern before, mind as well cut ties now then try to keep getting in touch with her, only to cut ties anyway later.
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 I think you may be right to cut ties but not because of the FB/text thing alone. If that was the only issue, I'd say give it a chance. Since it's just one of many. . . moving on now rather than after you are emotionally invested is fine.
Author djcos25 Posted June 2, 2014 Author Posted June 2, 2014 I think you may be right to cut ties but not because of the FB/text thing alone. If that was the only issue, I'd say give it a chance. Since it's just one of many. . . moving on now rather than after you are emotionally invested is fine. I see what your saying but usually when there's a no text back that's it. I feel like when that happens, and you text the person again you come off as creepy. I mean the phone works both ways too. I texted her Sunday around 11am, its Monday almost 7:30pm and still nothing. I know I shouldn't be too upset after hearing what my friend said about her, but it still sucks. It actually seemed like it was legit, telling me she liked me and all that jazz. It felt good for once to actually have someone show interest in you. Actions speak louder then words I guess. What pisses me off the most, she asked me if she were to text me in the next day or so, if I wouldn't reply. Two days later she's the one who pulls that BS. d0nnivain, if you were in a similar situation and texted someone and didn't hear from them, you would text them at a later date?
d0nnivain Posted June 3, 2014 Posted June 3, 2014 d0nnivain, if you were in a similar situation and texted someone and didn't hear from them, you would text them at a later date? I'd probably wait a week & call. If that didn't get me a response, I'd be done. If you have read many of my posts, I'm pretty anti-texting.
Author djcos25 Posted June 3, 2014 Author Posted June 3, 2014 I'd probably wait a week & call. If that didn't get me a response, I'd be done. If you have read many of my posts, I'm pretty anti-texting. I gotcha. Like I said before though, phone works both ways. I doubt it but if she does text me again I'll just tell her "Hey I texted you and never heard from ya so.." This happened 2 weeks ago, texted a girl after hanging out and never got a text back. No sex was involved. I'm 28 I don't need to be dealing with nonsense.
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