jbc1470 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 (edited) Hi I had a very rocky relationship with my X over 4 years. I just didnt love her enough and new this from the start, but she always stayed with me and would stalk me constantly and there was always something that made me get back with her. We did have so many good times and I defo did fall for her at some point but I would always walk away when times got tough. Are recent breakup has been around 3 months. it ended with alot of hurtful words and we have cut ties. All though at the beginning of the breakup I always felt strong, probably because for the 4 years I always knew she was hurting and wanting me back - Am not proud of this negative way of thinking. Last few months, been having good and bad days, questioning myself as a person over thinking about everything but have generally been in control "most of the times". Found out a few days a go she was with someone else and seems super happy pictures on facebook with them linked together. Left me feeling crushed and unable to get her and him out of my mind to the point I cant seem to function. I realise with my mind in the normal world, she deserves to be happy and its normal for her to have moved on. Its just really hurtful for me. Maybe its all negative though as I am used to being in control. its only now I have truly lost her am feeling a lot of pain and upset. Edited May 31, 2014 by jbc1470
learning_slowly Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Maybe you're just feeling rejected? Time to look upon the world as a place where you are not dependent on others and go out and get someone you choose to be with rather than someone that stalks you?
stillfiguringitallou Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Get into some IC. My ex is the same way - was the same way. Loved me - but not enough to be around when I needed him too. Everytime we've split that I've moved on - thats what brings him back around. So this time I've had to go no friends ... no contact. He doesn't and isn't allowed to know anything about my life - that is my only rule for the friends I have that I know he associates with. Because the first sniff he gets that I have truly started moving on - he'll be back to his same old same old. Never bothered him when I was "waiting" except he'd lecture me ABOUT "waiting" ... but lord forbid I actually start moving on. It starts with cutting remarks about me or the person ... then comes the apologies once I start ignoring him .... flowers ... and talks about
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