kimmi Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 I have to say before you read this I have major mixed feelings on this issue that I am having and this is why I want advice from people that are not emotionally involved. It ripping me apart. I have dated this guy that has a terminal illness many years ago , A few years ago he came back into my life , We did agree that it would stay this way and not ever pass the friend zone and he was living with me so I could take care of him and help on some things he was no longer able to do . After a month of him being there we started up again . Time went on and it was pretty hard for us but we did not want to give up ( I do really love him always have always will ). Now to the problem I am having, He had left and moved to another province as he was not happy where we lived . I talked to him often and kept up with everything as much as I could via email . text and phone. He was gone for 4 months and during this time he borrowed a lot of money from me a few times I was going to move out there and so I gave him money for a place, the deposit , money for his meds , food smokes whatever he needed I was giving this to him. I do have kids but I was doing fine and I was expecting money back when I moved out there ( he said he did not know how to do a money transfer ) I ended up moving there thinking that I had a place and such , Well guess what , There was nothing set up and in his place he did not even have a bed ( A air mattress he was using ) I was expecting furniture and a nice home I had nothing at all , Long of the short I found out that he has a gambling addiction and drinks all the time ! I feel guilty for needing the money back from him as well because since I moved I am not working and I have a 3 year old that I take care of. I know or believe I should not feel bad for expecting this because that was the original agreement. So it has been 2 months since I got here and still nothing . He has money coming in almost 2000.00 a month . his total bills comes up to 900.00 a month, He got his cheque 3 days ago and he was going to give me money however he went out and came home at 3 A.M drunk and woke me and my child up , I had her in bed with me and he was drunk and loud. I know I have to leave , This is not safe but I have nothing to leave with , no money no place and in a province that I know no one at all. I am super stuck and I am mad today about this . I posted a add online to sell the things that I bought to get money but it will not be enough. How do I approach this without him or me getting in a screaming match .. That's the last thing that I want , I need the money and I need to leave here ..
jbelle6 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 You have a 3 year old and you paid for some guys smokes? Not sure how you will go about getting that money back???
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