Poppygoodwill Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 You clearly didn't read my thread correctly. I never said anything about that during our week long talks. The thing about fooling around was brought up by her and her only. No intervention from me. I had no desire to tell her a thing about that nor was I seriously thinking about it. She brought it up and then decided to cancel just to get on my nerves. Getting hit on at work? - pg.4 | allnurses Read this article. These are just examples of how ridiculous women can be around men and how they blow things out of proportions needlessly. Nothing more lame that having one bad experience and accusing a whole half a species of behaving badly. So something went wrong with her and you don't understand why. Why do you have to conclude that "all women" do this or "all women" do that? Maybe she was keen until she heard you spouting these sorts of attitudes? I know it would turn me off.
firmness Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 I once met a woman on an online dating site and we decided to talk on the phone. After a few great conversations she started asking me sex questions. I do not like to talk about sex explicitly on the phone unless I am talking with my woman about what we have already done. Just a thing I have. So this woman asks me something like "If I were there with you right now, what would you do with me?" And I obliged - but in a very subtle ways. Typing it here and saying it in the moment are two completely different things. She then started nudging into a discussion about how she likes it rough. I also obliged - but very mildly. She said she doesn't feel comfortable talking like that with someone she doesn't know and started sounding judgy. I immediately took her to be a jerk, insane, foolish, or deeply troubled and told her I had to go. I never spoke with her again and ignored her calls after that. This behavior shows up in a variety of ways. But the truth is that I understand why she did that. I could have responded in a number of ways, but if I had seen her as "serious" material, I would never have had that conversation. I know it and she knew it. So as weird as it may seem, there is some wisdom in this particular "game".
ThatMan Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 (edited) Normally I'm inclined to say you dodged a bullet. Playing games is a sign that a person has never achieved adulthood or a rite of respectability. Some people are just indirect, insincere, two-faced, passive-aggressive and they simply haven't pulled their act together enough to be an adult. She brought the topic up and was receptive to fooling around - all as some ploy to rub it back in your face. Maybe she wasn't turned on by what you had in mind for fooling around but I doubt that. She sounds more like the type who becomes plain vicious when being bumped into by a stranger in public rather than say, "Excuse you." Being passive-aggressive is horrible to be around and I get that. What I cannot understand are your other comments. Simply put - What the hell, Easyguy14? I was on the same page as you up until that allnurses forum. These stories typically involved really heavy sexual harassment. Thinking of women in general as being ridiculous exaggerators, especially in this context you've given us, is really messed up. Don't flirt with nurses while picking up the corpse of your grandfather from an assisted living facility. Edited May 31, 2014 by ThatMan 1
Author Easyguy14 Posted June 1, 2014 Author Posted June 1, 2014 Normally I'm inclined to say you dodged a bullet. Playing games is a sign that a person has never achieved adulthood or a rite of respectability. Some people are just indirect, insincere, two-faced, passive-aggressive and they simply haven't pulled their act together enough to be an adult. She brought the topic up and was receptive to fooling around - all as some ploy to rub it back in your face. Maybe she wasn't turned on by what you had in mind for fooling around but I doubt that. She sounds more like the type who becomes plain vicious when being bumped into by a stranger in public rather than say, "Excuse you." Being passive-aggressive is horrible to be around and I get that. What I cannot understand are your other comments. Simply put - What the hell, Easyguy14? I was on the same page as you up until that allnurses forum. These stories typically involved really heavy sexual harassment. Thinking of women in general as being ridiculous exaggerators, especially in this context you've given us, is really messed up. Don't flirt with nurses while picking up the corpse of your grandfather from an assisted living facility. The link I showed was an exaggeration of what I'm talking about but there was a few silly scenarios in there that annoyed me anyhow. And yessir said woman is a nut full of mind games and yessir I did dodge a bullet but this also seems to be a regular practice with women these days to find ways to test me when they first meet whether consciously or subconsciously. This is what separates the sexes because men just don't bother doing that stuff. We're just different in that respect and we cant understand the reasoning for it in doing this especially when its just an innocent date. Why turn it into something else? And this has become the norm now. I'll take the arranged marriages over this craziness any day.
topaMAXX Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Could be Anti-Slut Defense (or ASD). lol You could be a little less blunt about what you want to do. Or she could have a man and she has second thoughts about cheating. This. Another possibility is that she was talking to you and another guy and simply chose the other guy. Women do this kind of thing all the time. 1
johan Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 This. Another possibility is that she was talking to you and another guy and simply chose the other guy. Women do this kind of thing all the time. True. Guys do it to women as well. It seems to be part of the dating game for people of both genders to both do this and have it done to them. 2
BlueIris Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 (edited) I don’t know what was actually said in your conversation with her, but you said something she didn’t like so she decided you weren’t a good fit for each other. That’s not a game. Figuring out whether you're a good fit is the purpose of dating for lots of people. I’ve talked on the phone with men from OLD before who said something or had a tone or attitude that made me bristle, or realize we weren’t couple material. I don’t know if they knew, or cared, what the reason was that I decided we weren’t a fit. But it doesn’t matter. I’m sure lots of men have made the same decision after talking to me- just not a fit. It’s not a reason to stereotype or condemn all men or all women. Just keep at it until you find someone who likes you as much as you like her. Edited June 1, 2014 by BlueIris 1
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