whatdreamsmaycome Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 The Skinny: Had a huge blowout fight. He was in a not-so-great mood, but he wouldn't let up, so I felt I needed to defend myself. He yelled at me, but when I yelled back he said that he's not going to listen to me if I'm yelling. He called me "crazy", so I walked away from him and told him I wouldn't put up with any personal attacks and name-calling. He said if I walked away, that would be the end of us for good (this is where I am confused. If he wanted it to be over, or if he wanted to "dump me" he could've just let me walk away - we were in front of my house, so he could have easily jumped in his car and left) So, I stopped walking away. But when I started walking back towards him, I admit, I had had enough and my tone with him was not good. This made him blow up at me even more. He began screaming expletives at the top of his lungs telling me never to talk to him again unless it's work-related, never to come to his house, and basically to eff off. So, I did the worst possible thing (I have some abandonment issues, I know) and jumped in his car. This put him in a rage as he screamed at the top of his lungs for me to get out of his "effing" car. And then he called the police. I just sat there quietly, I had never seen him rage like this before (well, only once, the first time we broke up). I started crying, and he went and sat on the curb. I was honestly shocked that he called the police. After a few minutes I gathered my composure and left. I was stunned at what had just happened. I never called him begging or pleading, but I did eventually send a few angry emails/texts to him and the last one told him to stay away from my work area (and I said that if he did, I would speak to my supervisor). However, the first thing he did on the next Monday morning was walk right into my work area (he had no reason to be there) and speak in the loudest voice as possible to another co-worker of mine who sits next to me. I said aloud, "you shouldn't be here." But he ignored me, so I went to my supervisor. The rest of that Monday, he was still being obnoxious and loud and passing by my work area constantly. (Any ideas on why he was doing this?). But the following day, he was like a puppy that had been scolded. He was very quiet, made sure to kinda tiptoe around me and basically not to draw attention to himself. Though I caught him looking at me once or twice out of the corner of my eye. So technically, we broke up because of that fight, but both of us had moments during that fight where we showed each other we didn't really want it to end. But then again, he called the police on me. And I reported him to my supervisor. I know this must all sound crazy, but I really just want to know, who is the dumper and who is the dumpee in this situation? Because I really kinda don't know how I'm supposed to feel right now.
sumathi Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 You both behaved childishly. There is no maturity in the behavior of both. He seems a very immature person giving in to his emotions. He had no business to call the police when he could have talked it out with you. You should not be involved with him any longer as you will experience the same bitter situation again and again. When a person goes to the police to complain about the girl he loved, it plainly shows he will go to any extent to show his male dominance.
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