drdre Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 So I got my date last night. Went to a cool place with a rooftop, had awesome dinner, talked the entire time, laughed and all that. At the end of the date while walking back to the car (I went to pick her up), I went in for a kiss and she kissed me back (no make out session or anything but more than a peck). At this point I was thinking "great success [insert boart voice here]"! After leaving, we got to her place and I got out of the car to walk her to the apt building's door. She said "you dont have to do all that" but I was already out so I went anyways (besides, I like to do that, open doors, car doors, etc). When we got to the door, I was expecting that she would kiss me goodnight then go in - instead, I felt like she open the door and just kind of slipped in, then gave me a little hug and said "Thanks for dinner, I had fun, we'll do it again sometime". At this point I leaned in and gave her a peck. Now here is the question: right or wrong, I cant help but feel she slipped inside quickly in order to avoid kissing me again and that the second kiss was a push on my part. Now Im worried that she is NOT interested and only kissed me the first time bc I more or less just went for it. I've been on sooo many date where I feel clear cut that the girl is into me - I dont feel that way this time (Im super into her though). I feel like her words 'lets do it again' say one thing but her body language say another. Am I overthinking her interest level based on how the night ended? I tend to do that a LOT. Thanks!
almond Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Ya, you're overthinking things. Could go either way...she's either interested, or she's not. Time will tell. Chill out, and don't stress about it. Wait to see how things pan out. 1
Assasda Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 hahahaha... You got Horn-doggy for that second kiss man. Almost screwed yourself. -- I think you're fine though. Next time when you go out, you can make a self-depricating joke about it. Next time, you guys go out try to do something that is a more fun activity than just Dinner 1
Author drdre Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 hahahaha... You got Horn-doggy for that second kiss man. Almost screwed yourself. -- I think you're fine though. Next time when you go out, you can make a self-depricating joke about it. Next time, you guys go out try to do something that is a more fun activity than just Dinner I totally did man! I knew it the minute I walked away. And I was thinking the same thing on the activity for next time too. We were supposed to just meet for drinks at this rooftop but once we got there it was earlier than originally planned and we were both hungry so it turned into dinner. I have not texted her or heard from her today yet (keep in mind, she has never texted me first - think she is one of those girls that dont). I was about to text her right now, should I make the joke about getting greedy on that kiss or wait till I see her?
Woop1337 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Don't ever mention the kiss again. Don't reference it, but that's just me. Only one way to find out if you didn't blow it with her. Ask her out on anther date and she doesn't flake on you.
Assasda Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Wait till you see her to mention something like that. - Text her about something that she'd fine interesting, like something on the news, or something that she'd enjoy to know about. Like a news story that she's into, or some celebrity gossip that she may like, or even any funny cat videos. Hopefully she's comfortable enough with you to start texting you first 1
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 If you must mention the non-kiss at the door, wait until you are wedding planning. Then it will be funny. Much before that it will be creepy & awkward. Sad to say many women are not used to chivalrous. Although you intend to stay on the outside of her building door, she may have thought you were trying to push your way inside. She didn't know you well enough to draw the kinder softer conclusion. Let it go. Call her. Don't text & ask her out again. 3
jbelle6 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 I don't know, I would maybe not find an inside dinner exciting but I do love a rooftop or any patio really, then again it's freezing up here most of the year so sitting out is exciting lol. I like Assasda's idea of a light sort of text, see if she responds, if she doesn't then I would not bother again. I can't really judge the date because I don't know her and don't know the body language etc. I'm sort of old fashioned but even I would kiss on the first date if I really really liked him. But don't be discouraged, give it a go and see if she responds, only way to find out.
Damaged217 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 I'm with D0nnivain on this one. I think she probably thought you were trying to work your way inside to get some booty. If she has never texted you first, then you should text her. She is probably overanalyzing things as well and is waiting for you to make the next move. Just call her and ask when you can see her again. If she says she's too busy or blows you off, you have your answer. 3
Author drdre Posted June 1, 2014 Author Posted June 1, 2014 I'm with D0nnivain on this one. I think she probably thought you were trying to work your way inside to get some booty. If she has never texted you first, then you should text her. She is probably overanalyzing things as well and is waiting for you to make the next move. Just call her and ask when you can see her again. If she says she's too busy or blows you off, you have your answer. We've known each other and been friends on fb for over a year now. This was our second date. From everything and our conversations so far, I would like to believe that she knows that I am a stand up guy and that I am not just trying to get some booty. In any case, Im going to ask her out to go either go-kart racing or bowling this week - like you guys said, if she blows me off I'll know. If she doesnt blow me off and we go out, Im definitely planning on kissing her again on the third date and I'm hoping that she will be "into it". If she doesnt, isnt that kind of a clear sign she is just not that into me? She is 26, kissing a guy she is into and has been on three dates with should not be that big of a deal. Sex? Sure. Everyone has a different pace on that. But a little make out sesh? Think that is almost universally acceptable. Fingers crossed! 1
Gloria25 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I don't blame the chick for sliding in her home quickly. I mean, she probably didn't want to linger there then end up having to invite you inside, cuz people think once you invite them in sex is expected. I agree with others, light follow-up contact and go from there.
Author drdre Posted June 1, 2014 Author Posted June 1, 2014 Oh and one more detail. I left my car running, parked in a handicap spot because I knew I was coming right back.
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Oh and one more detail. I left my car running, parked in a handicap spot because I knew I was coming right back. Well in the case, my theory may have been off & I don't know why she slid inside so fast. Be careful about leaving your car unattended & running. It's easy to get stolen that way.
littleplanet Posted June 2, 2014 Posted June 2, 2014 Oh and one more detail. I left my car running, parked in a handicap spot because I knew I was coming right back. What a guy. I'm impressed. (She should be too, if she likes you.) Now turn the alalytical jets down to a very low, slow simmer, and relax. And I strongly advocate a phone call....after the appropriate time interval. As to the go-cart vs bowling (find out what she actually likes to do for fun) - and if no solid answer...get creative. I remember my second date ever.....(at 16) I went bowling - 2 couples. I really sucked. Was a big hit with the date because of how I handled it. But yeah. You're overthinking. That's fine. Perfectly natural if you like her a lot. Just be cool. Too early to be hot.
Author drdre Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 So I asked her out but she was going to be out of town (I know it is true). The thing is though, she did not offer an alternative, ie. "Im gonna be out of town those days but what about we get together on y day?". Doesnt EVERY girl know that if you are interested in the guy and he asks you out and you are legitimately not available, that you are supposed to offer an alternative? Or am I reading too much into it? Im probably going to hit her up next week anyways but Im curious about the alternative date topic. Thanks!
J21 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 So I asked her out but she was going to be out of town (I know it is true). The thing is though, she did not offer an alternative, ie. "Im gonna be out of town those days but what about we get together on y day?". Doesnt EVERY girl know that if you are interested in the guy and he asks you out and you are legitimately not available, that you are supposed to offer an alternative? Or am I reading too much into it? Im probably going to hit her up next week anyways but Im curious about the alternative date topic. Thanks! No, it's not a universal rule. I am dating a girl that got sick last minute, and cancelled. She apologized profusely but didn't offer an alternate as well. I asked her out again and had a great time. Go ask her out again, no harm in trying.
bubbaganoosh Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Call me old fashioned......................well I am old but anyhow, before you text, make a phone call and IMO you'll get a better handle on how she feels by her voice. Hell anyone can type something but to here her voice is a bit more personal and rather then reading something on a three inch screen.
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