avoforastig Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I rently went on a great first date. In the past, I may have sabotaged my last relationship due to moving things too quickly. At the end of our date which was on Wednesday, I requested a second date at a weekly outdoor concert the Friday of the next week to which she agreed(about 9 days in between). Is one date a week enough in the early stages? Is that too big of a gap between dates? I try to avoid looking needy and we seem very compatible in a bunch of unexpected ways. Should I call or text her periodically through the week? Thanks in advance!
Potz4prez Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 One date a week is fine. Just go on dates whenever there's something fun to do. Stop worrying about timing everything. Honestly, there's no set rule for contact. I always air towards the cautious side and let her do any contacting between dates, but you do what you feel comfortable with. If she really likes you, you can do no wrong. Definitely check up on her the night before the date. 1
Strength in Healing Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 LISTEN!!! You MUST wait 3.2 days and 15 minutes, 11.6 seconds in between dates or else you will DEFINITELY SEEM SUPER NEEDY AND CLINGY AND UNATTRACTIVE!!! 2
somedude81 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Waiting a week is fine. You could text or call her a couple times in between just to stay fresh in her mind.
mammasita Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I'm gonna say do what comes natural. When it's right, it's just right. Case in point when I started dating my now BF, we went out once a week and were in contact every day from our first date on...It worked and I loved every second of it. Some people don't like that, it's not their style.....etc. Why don't you ask her what she thinks so you're not playing a guessing game.....otherwise do what YOU feel is right and if she doesn't mesh with your style, she's obviously not right for you. Funny how that works, huh?
d0nnivain Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Everybody's pace is different. What you have planned seems fine especially if there is a phone call & some other kind of contact in between
Assasda Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Doesnt matter about the time in between as long as youre having fun. And the antidote to not "Seeming needy" is to not being needy. So if youre not being needy, you will not seem needy, no matter what you do. But if you are in fact needy, but trying not to "Seem needy" you will definately still come off as needy, girls can smell it. So you can in fact message her during the week. -if its not a needy text message
Author avoforastig Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 Waiting a week is fine. You could text or call her a couple times in between just to stay fresh in her mind. Would it be too soon to send her a text two days after, just referencing an amusing part of our date conversation? Again, I want to reiterate my interest but don't want to overdo it and seem desperate.
carhill Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 OP, since she agreed to the second date, the pace apparently is fine with her. Check in with a quick call close to the date day with perhaps some interesting and/or amusing banter about the talent you're going to see and leave it at that. Do most of the 'getting to know' in person. Lastly, kudos to you for asking her out at the end of the first date. Good show
Author avoforastig Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 One date a week is fine. Just go on dates whenever there's something fun to do. Stop worrying about timing everything. Honestly, there's no set rule for contact. I always air towards the cautious side and let her do any contacting between dates, but you do what you feel comfortable with. If she really likes you, you can do no wrong. Definitely check up on her the night before the date. In your opinion, it's fine to minimize contact between early dates? In my head, it would seem a bit odd to text her regularly like an old friend at this point. I just don't want to lose momentum or seem disinterested.
carhill Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 What did you do between the time you first had contact with her and the first date?
Author avoforastig Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 What did you do between the time you first had contact with her and the first date? I met her via OLD, we exchanged a few messages online. Then, we exchanged numbers. Then, a few short texts to set the logistics of the first date up. Once the date details were arranged, I confirmed with text the day of the date.
Author avoforastig Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 Waiting a week is fine. You could text or call her a couple times in between just to stay fresh in her mind. Would you recommended contacting her in between outside nailing down the logistics of date two or you just think it would be a potentially nice gesture?
carhill Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 I met her via OLD, we exchanged a few messages online. Then, we exchanged numbers. Then, a few short texts to set the logistics of the first date up. Once the date details were arranged, I confirmed with text the day of the date. So, it appears she was good with that style, and comfortable with and agreeable to a second date over a week after the first. That's good information.
Author avoforastig Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 So, it appears she was good with that style, and comfortable with and agreeable to a second date over a week after the first. That's good information. The overall consensus I get is it probably doesn't really matter too much, she either likes me or not. It's been a two days, does shooting her a text tomorrow(3days) seem sufficient?
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