Scrab22 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Hey guys, I have a question. I've been thinking about this girl from High-school for some time, I started getting overly-excited about it. I want to contact her and propose a date, and I remember her as a very emotional and kind person from what I know about her and from what I've observed throughout the time. (if in any case there's need for more info, I may give, though depends) The thing is, I can contact her through chat, I have confidence for that. However, I think it would be awkward to start a chat, because we didn't really talk much throughout school. Since the end of high-school, we haven't talked at all. Therefore I want to engage in a less direct way. I thought of liking her profile picture, maybe it'll do. The thing is, I've never been active around her Facebook activity (meaning no likes nor comments on her statuses and such), and her profile picture is from a few weeks ago, so being this kind of delayed and last person may emphasize. I remember at the 1st high-school year there was this lesson, I had accidentally looked at her and then she smiled. I didn't feel connected to her by then. With time, I would notice that she would speak more calmly to me compared to other men. I had other things in mind so I didn't feel any connection and awareness. But I have this feeling she still has some feelings. What do you guys think? I thought if she doesn't respond, I can send her a message a few days afterwards, but tell me what you guys think, since I fear that this crush on her blinds me to do things that are rather not done. Thanks guys!
slizl Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I would send her a message through Facebook. The ususal, how have you been? You look like things are going really well for you. Where do you live now, etc. If she responds, just ask if she wants to meet to catch up sometime. PS, do not propose a date, just something casual. If there is a connection when/if you see her in real life, see if she wants to go out to dinner sometime. 3
Kamila Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I had a guy email me after we last saw each other 6 months ago at a course. We barely knew each other. He asked me how I have been and that he left the course. I responded to his mail and it went back and forth until some months after he asked me out. After i told him i was single. So try it. 1
Author Scrab22 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 I can see how asking for a casual meeting can be a good idea, but knowing myself I would lightly shiver from excitement on the spot if I did that, so it would not seem like just a casual meeting. However there's something important I need to mention. When experiencing a date with her inside my imagination, I feel calm, so maybe being internalized is a key to being calm and confident? I feel very confident with and inside my mind. 1
Assasda Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Yeah, I know it sounds scary to you OP. but, just fake it till you make it. Pretend like she's an old friend that you'd like to catch up with, and just message her. Find out what she's doing, what she's into. Then hang out with her somewhere 1
d0nnivain Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 How long ago was high school? If some guy I hadn't seen in years suddenly popped up in my life over the internet & proposed a date I would find that creepy, especially if we didn't have a relationship / friendship in high school. That could be softened if we were interacting on social media for a while before the ask. 1
Author Scrab22 Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 (edited) Yeah, I know it sounds scary to you OP. but, just fake it till you make it. Pretend like she's an old friend that you'd like to catch up with, and just message her. Find out what she's doing, what she's into. Then hang out with her somewhere It's starting to sound like a good idea. I remember I had promised to show her some of my art a year ago, yet I didn't do it because of doubt. I haven't forgotten about it since then. So is it ok if I send her something like "I made a promise yet did not keep it, but here you go, enjoy! :)" and send some of my art. When it comes to what she's into, that's something thorough and detailed that I think it's best to keep that question to face-to-face. I like having thorough conversations face-to-face! I can't see the conversation on Facebook going too long, unless she'd have things to say. How long ago was high school? If some guy I hadn't seen in years suddenly popped up in my life over the internet & proposed a date I would find that creepy, especially if we didn't have a relationship / friendship in high school. That could be softened if we were interacting on social media for a while before the ask. It has only been a year, no more. And she's no absolute stranger, she was in my class and we would talk occasionally. That's why I thought to start with a "like" first, perhaps it would set a little spark (just chances though). Edited May 30, 2014 by Scrab22 1
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 If HS was only a year ago & you were friendly in HS, starting with a like is an OK opening to lead up to asking for a date. 1
DArtagnan2 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 If HS was only a year ago & you were friendly in HS, starting with a like is an OK opening to lead up to asking for a date. Do both, like the pic then send a short message saying you saw the pic, she looks great, and ask how she's been? 1
Author Scrab22 Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 Did both. I asked her how she is, she replied with a "I'm good, how about you?". I then replied with a "I'm cool! How are things going? Anything new?" It's been some hours and she went online on her phone between the time. My message hasn't been seen (by seen I mean the "Seen at *time*"). She didn't seem enthusiastic in her message. I always have room for hope but it keeps me restlessly excited, as it has been for some time. People seem to grow from a shy sapling to a blooming plant, but it seems the flower's direction is never to be towards its origins. I hope she still has her part of what she was since I knew her. P.S. Do you guys know how to deal with over-excitement? I can't do much but sit or lay restless. I can't get myself occupied with a video game or something else... When starting or attempting something romantic, my heart is extremely active.
Author Scrab22 Posted May 31, 2014 Author Posted May 31, 2014 (edited) Update: She connected a few more times and hasn't seen my message. I doubt it, she probably chose not to see it. They never see the soil again, only the distance from the sun and the other blooming plants' presence. Just looking a bit down can make you see allot more than the sky, but they want to bloom further. Unless someone tells me otherwise, I'm going to work on giving up. Thanks for all the help guys! Edit: Maybe she got upset overtime for not making my promise of sending her my art? Maybe this is why she doesn't really want to talk to me..? Edited May 31, 2014 by Scrab22 There's another way
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