dunkindoughnuts Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 First off, our relationship wasnt long at all but I really did like her. Two weeks ago she told me that she wanted to slow things down and I was ok with that (we talked for about a month before I asked her out) she cut off sex and kissing and I thought to myself "thats weird but w/e". Anyways, as time went on (about a week) I started to think that maybe there was someone else, I ended up telling her that we needed to talk and we did the following day and what it basically came down to was that she didnt have time for a relationship and that it wouldnt be fair to me if she was always busy (keep in mind that im also a busy guy) and that were just friends. I keep thinking that maybe I texted her to much or gave her too much of my time but I dont think I did. Im the type of guy that wont text back if you didnt respond to me before and its not like I hung out with her everyday. As of now Im doing the whole No Contact thing and I do feel better but I dont know if its the right thing to do. In a perfect world I would want her back but I dont know if I do, I have more self respect than that and I dont think I would be able to trust her. I was just wondering if anyone could offer me some advice?? ps: she still has my shirt and I have hers and I hit her up about it a couple days after we had talked the second time
lauri Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 First off, our relationship wasnt long at all but I really did like her. Two weeks ago she told me that she wanted to slow things down and I was ok with that (we talked for about a month before I asked her out) she cut off sex and kissing and I thought to myself "thats weird but w/e". Anyways, as time went on (about a week) I started to think that maybe there was someone else, I ended up telling her that we needed to talk and we did the following day and what it basically came down to was that she didnt have time for a relationship and that it wouldnt be fair to me if she was always busy (keep in mind that im also a busy guy) and that were just friends. I keep thinking that maybe I texted her to much or gave her too much of my time but I dont think I did. Im the type of guy that wont text back if you didnt respond to me before and its not like I hung out with her everyday. As of now Im doing the whole No Contact thing and I do feel better but I dont know if its the right thing to do. In a perfect world I would want her back but I dont know if I do, I have more self respect than that and I dont think I would be able to trust her. I was just wondering if anyone could offer me some advice?? ps: she still has my shirt and I have hers and I hit her up about it a couple days after we had talked the second time When she says "we are just friends", it means she doesn't see you romantically anymore. There could be someone else, but it doesn't matter...truth is you don't need to know. Sticking around will only push her away and make her feel her decision was the "right one". The only thing you can do is forget her and move forward - she will start to miss you and throw a few breadcrumbs, but unless she says "I want you back" you continue to ignore. I wouldn't trust her after this - she ended it with you once she can most defiantly do it again. You need to be with someone who will stick with you through thick and thin, not run when they lose a bit of interest or not fight to make it work between you two. In regards to your shirt, I suggest you get a friend to go pick it up from her and don't speak to her anymore. You can message her stating that you asked a friend to pick up your stuff at this day and time and leave it at that. Afterwards, don't say another word to her and disappear. 1
Elle1975 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 First off, our relationship wasnt long at all but I really did like her. Two weeks ago she told me that she wanted to slow things down and I was ok with that (we talked for about a month before I asked her out) she cut off sex and kissing and I thought to myself "thats weird but w/e". Anyways, as time went on (about a week) I started to think that maybe there was someone else, I ended up telling her that we needed to talk and we did the following day and what it basically came down to was that she didnt have time for a relationship and that it wouldnt be fair to me if she was always busy (keep in mind that im also a busy guy) and that were just friends. I keep thinking that maybe I texted her to much or gave her too much of my time but I dont think I did. Im the type of guy that wont text back if you didnt respond to me before and its not like I hung out with her everyday. As of now Im doing the whole No Contact thing and I do feel better but I dont know if its the right thing to do. In a perfect world I would want her back but I dont know if I do, I have more self respect than that and I dont think I would be able to trust her. I was just wondering if anyone could offer me some advice?? ps: she still has my shirt and I have hers and I hit her up about it a couple days after we had talked the second time Yes, NC is the right thing to do. After a relationship that wasn't all that long, I'm assuming a couple months, she simply decided you weren't for her. Or she met someone else. Either way, stay NC indeed. The "I don't have time for a relationship" is just bs. It means "We dated. We got to know each other. I didn't like what I saw, and broke up". I wouldn't take it personally. She just isn't the one for you. I suppose it's a good thing that she realized that early.
Natsume21 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 First off, our relationship wasnt long at all but I really did like her. Two weeks ago she told me that she wanted to slow things down and I was ok with that (we talked for about a month before I asked her out) she cut off sex and kissing and I thought to myself "thats weird but w/e". Anyways, as time went on (about a week) I started to think that maybe there was someone else, I ended up telling her that we needed to talk and we did the following day and what it basically came down to was that she didnt have time for a relationship and that it wouldnt be fair to me if she was always busy (keep in mind that im also a busy guy) and that were just friends. I keep thinking that maybe I texted her to much or gave her too much of my time but I dont think I did. Im the type of guy that wont text back if you didnt respond to me before and its not like I hung out with her everyday. As of now Im doing the whole No Contact thing and I do feel better but I dont know if its the right thing to do. In a perfect world I would want her back but I dont know if I do, I have more self respect than that and I dont think I would be able to trust her. I was just wondering if anyone could offer me some advice?? ps: she still has my shirt and I have hers and I hit her up about it a couple days after we had talked the second time Here's some sage advice. When a woman is interested, you know it, you feel it, you can tell she is. Even if she says she's interested and agrees to going out, if she doesn't act interested, she's either 1. Not. or 2. Game playing. Don't mess with a woman who doesn't act interested. Period.
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