SavesTheDay Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 Hey there. Well, I've been "kicking it" (just friends) with this one baby who I've met at a party a few months back. She's abolutely beautiful, she has a wonderful personality, is nice to everyone, etc. She asked me what I do for a living - I told her that I'm a "book slave" (i.e - student), and a DJ. (I spin Hip-Hop; I do it for the love of music; money is a big +). I decided to bring her to one of my gigs (she wanted to come), and at times, girls would come up to me and ask for me to play - Lil Jon, T.I, Xzibit, or whatever. She got "annoyed" because I was talking to some of the people who came up for requests. Though I stated that they were asking for requests, she countered that some of the girls were getting "too friendly". Everytime I tell her that I'm going to spin somewhere, she thinks I'm cheating on her. I've offered to invite her to my gigs, but I've seem to have made this problem worse? What should I do?
tattoomytoe Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 inform her people interaction is a huge part of DJ-ing! has she Never been to a club and tried to entice the dj to play her song?
Hund1976 Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 Well if you've invited her to come be there when you're spinning there isn't much else you can do. If being right there with you so she can see with her own eyes that you're not cheating on her doesn't satisfy her then I don't know what to tell you.
Craig Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 Tell her you'll take a polygraph test to prove your loyalty to her and she can choose the polygrapher, the questions and pay for it too. Seems to me that being friendly and social is a big part of your job as a DJ. Who would want a DJ that wasn't friendly, happy and social?
HotCaliGirl Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 Maybe you were being flirty with the girls who were coming up to you. Were you trying to make her jealous? IF you acted professionally towards them, she may not have been as upset. Try to be sensitive towards how you make her feel when she is with you. How would you feel if flirty guys were coming up to her, regardless of whether or not it was work related? You'd want her to show interest in you, not them, so you should act the same when girls are being too friendly to you in her presence.
MassiveAtom Posted February 12, 2005 Posted February 12, 2005 {{{{HCG}}}} Hang in there. STD SavestheDay First, Don't do ANYTHING that will give her reason to be insecure. Second, a grand gesture might help your situation. Bottom Line, she's insecure about you. NOT your fault. But she is. All you can do is show her you're not about all that. Let me say this again. You have to SHOW her. Next time in the club, Do a shout out "to my heart [insert name]" IF you're feelin it. Don't lie now. Don't play. That's a woman you got there. precious. Let all the other ladies in the club know that you are spoken for. You'll still have your rep, AND your honey. She cares about you. You have her heart. Hearts are NOT meant to be broken. That's what rules are for. Break the rules. SHOW her you love her. Then leave the rest up to her. Edited to add: check the "baby" stuff at the door. Respect is a big part of this too bro.
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