sallyjones124 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I have been with the same man for 6 years. He went to a party and had sex with a friend of his. She ended up pregnant. Two days after I found out and ended things with him I found out I was pregnant too. He thinks the girl is lying as no proof provided yet but thats besides the point. He says he wants to be there for me and our baby and we are his family. He claims he just messed up drunk at a party and will spend his life making it up to me. My first instinct is to use logic and know that he cheated and that is the end. Game over. But my heart is saying that we have a child, a child we have wanted for years and I thought I couldn't get pregnant and here is this miracle. He messed up one night (confirmed with her it was one time too). He keeps apologizing but i'm just not sure if its enough. What would you do? It's 6 years and a family gone for one mistake or it's common sense that it happened once so it;ll happen again????
jbelle6 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 (edited) If it's his kid he has to pay for it, that's money he took away from your child. Thanks but no thanks to him. Cheaters cheat. And what? No condom? Gross. Edited May 29, 2014 by jbelle6
2sunny Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I would never trust a guy who can have random sex at a party while pretending to be my steady guy. Baby or not - I wouldn't stay with him. He lacks character, judgment and shows poor judgment when drinking. Those are not qualities I would admire - I don't care how long you're together - he doesn't respect and honor you. And he's REALLY made a mess out of your whole life now. Stay and get more of the same.
HeavenOrHell Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 How do you know this is the first time he's cheated? Maybe you didn't find out about the other times. He doesn't care enough about you or he wouldn't have cheated, if you have problems in the relationship and he chose to **** a friend then that's immature and selfish. I'm dump him, I wouldn't trust him again. Sorry this has happened, horrible situation for you. I have been with the same man for 6 years. He went to a party and had sex with a friend of his. She ended up pregnant. Two days after I found out and ended things with him I found out I was pregnant too. He thinks the girl is lying as no proof provided yet but thats besides the point. He says he wants to be there for me and our baby and we are his family. He claims he just messed up drunk at a party and will spend his life making it up to me. My first instinct is to use logic and know that he cheated and that is the end. Game over. But my heart is saying that we have a child, a child we have wanted for years and I thought I couldn't get pregnant and here is this miracle. He messed up one night (confirmed with her it was one time too). He keeps apologizing but i'm just not sure if its enough. What would you do? It's 6 years and a family gone for one mistake or it's common sense that it happened once so it;ll happen again???? 1
Marco Valerio Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Totally agree with everyone. He has already proved you can't trust him about fidelity. Remember you can always forgive but not forget. Go and look for someone that would never do something like that to you. You should never trust people who doesn't respect you and cheats on you, there's no excuse for that. Best regards.
redbaron005 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I would see how he handles this situation over the next few months and determine to what degree I want to grant forgiveness based in part on that. For now, stick to your decision and show him that these actions are absolutely unacceptable in your eyes.
No Limit Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 What a freak. Leave him before you catch a STD. Also think about your baby's safety here, most STDs at the very least cause complications, at worst they kill the newborn. 1
jbelle6 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 I wanted to be clear, my money comment wasn't in a gold digger way. Just think, you stay with this man, say you get married, a part of your household income is automatically gone if the other child is his. Alright, fine. Then what if he does this again? That affects MY child's quality of life. So true about the STD's as well. Ditch this guy and you can focus on your baby, later on you can meet a nice man who respects you.
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