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Girl of my dreams just stops responding


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I'll make this as short as I can, thanks in advance to those of you who read it in full. I graduated high school with this girl exactly 10 years ago, I was a jock and she was an artist. We were always friendly but never really hung out, our lifestyles were pretty far apart. Flash forward to about 2 months ago, I see her out for the first time, and I'm immediately in awe of her beauty and personality. She willing gives me her number and we set up plans within days. The first time we go out, I found out shes still an artist and she finds out I'm still a jock, she has paintings on her walls and I have sports memorabilia..that sort of thing. However, for two people who live two completely different lifestyles - we shared the same music interests, movie interests, travel interests, state of mind interests....etc, etc. The butterflies in my stomach immediately start flying like you read about. Then she tells me she just got out of a 6, yes 6 year relationship, but the guy cheated on her so "shes over him". Ok, fine, we chat and text, it takes her about 5 to 6 hours to respond to texts, but she always did. We go out again, and this time we just hit it off. She ends up spending the night and we both end up showing each other a good time. We wake up for our jobs in the morning, we kiss, she looks me in the eyes and says "see ya (first name)"....and I havent heard from her since, this was a week ago. I havent been to "clingy", the day I last saw her I texted her once, the day after once, the day after that once....and finally my friends just told me to hold back. It hurts man, it hurts... any insight, please?

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She may simply not be into you. She may be rude. I'm not a huge fan of texts. If you want another date, pick up the phone & call her. When you actually get her, ask her on another date. If you can't get her, assume she's avoiding you & move on.

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Well... I know it's super cliche, but they do say that artists are very moody. Perhaps she's having one of those weeks. You could've inspired her incredibly, and she's locked herself up to work on something marvelous.

 

Or maybe she just saw it as a one-off thing. I know, sorry, that hurts :(

 

Either way, your friends are right. Hold back, let it go, move on. If/when she replies back, then you can re-evaluate your feelings for her. In the meantime, try to loosen that attachment just in case it goes for the worst.

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Seems like you maybe to eager, and you dont know her yet.

 

It doesnt matter how many times you texted her.

It matters, What you texted her

--which could be a long superneedy paragraph.

 

Anyway man... move on

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I'm sure the girl of your dreams would respond, so she's clearly not the girl of your dreams. Nothing lost. Time to wake up.

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Yea you're all right, it is what it is. Thanks

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I'm going to go on a limb here....

 

You two had little contact early in your lives. Different social circles, etc. She's an artist, expressive, probably more open in her views on relationships, life, etc. Many artsy people tend to be. She sees this big, athletic, jock type and is PHYSICALLY attracted. Just got out of a 6-yr relationship and figures that she has an immediate need that she's like to satiate. In other words, could it be that she just wanted sex??? Not a relationship, not now.

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