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[confused4231]

I wanted your thoughts on something if you had time..... I need some advice pls. or your thoughts on my situation. This is going to be long and run on and maybe at times repetitive. But I would really like to know what you think, (good or bad) what you think I should do. If there’s something that I shouldn't do, or any advice in general. I’ve been dating this girl for about 8 months, we were living together after about 3, really fast I know but I don't remember the last time I was that happy. She also has a two year old daughter.

Sarah and I apparently aren't doing well at least not in her opinion. She said that in the last 6 weeks I haven't seemed the same as in the past. That I always seem mad or annoyed to be around her. Anyhow, this past week she said she needed time and felt like I was pushing her away, etc. She moved out already in with your aunt (to a town about 10-15 mins away, she still has been texting me, (how did I sleep how was my night, Told me to have a good day, the following day I did the same.) We talked a little, last Friday and just said that she felt really stressed always trying to have everything perfect for Me and her daughter. I told her that I don’t need things to be perfect because to me they already were and that I appreciated everything she did. She has said, she misses me on several occasions. Thursday she called, asked how I was doing asked if I was doing anything for the weekend and I told her that I didn’t have any set plans, and asked her why she said that maybe she could swing by so we could hang out. I told her that I would like that. Last Friday, night I was playing slow-pitch and she used her pet name for me for the first time in about a week and told me to have a good night. I didn’t say much just thank and told her good night also. So Saturday I sent her a text and asked her if she still wanted to hang out, she was kind of ignoring me because she didn’t replay until I changed the subject and just asked her how her day was going. Her final response was that she was just really tired and that we would hang out sometime soon. Saturday she texted “how are You” and asked me how my day was later in the afternoon. Sunday morning I text her to have a good day she replied and said you too, and later text me to ask if I was going to watch Game of thrones. We talked a little about the show and how each other’s day was. Monday she texted me in the evening telling me that she appreciated me being patient with her and that she just wanted to figure herself out and that we would hang out soon. When I ask her what she meant by wanting to be her….She replied that she wanted to be a good mom, a good worker, and concentrate on her workout challenge. She’s like maybe we can do something in two weeks…. I said that’s understandable, I am glad you are feeling better. And I asked her if what she’s going through is something that she felt I couldn’t help her with or what she couldn’t do around me? And why she wanted to move out so badly and quickly. Her response was that she felt like she was mad a lot, that she didn’t want to take it out on me, and she felt like she could have been paying more attention to her daughter. She also added “I don’t know if it’s that I just know that I was really stressed lately, I'd come home and be upset and you seemed upset I just felt like we were both unhappy. I said “I'm sorry you felt that way and had to resort to moving out and that we couldn’t work on it together. Do you want me to continue not to call or text you? (Because for two days I didn’t say anything unless she said something to me)” And she said No if you need something or want to talk I want to be there as much as I can I've just been really busy. So then I said okay so are we done? Are we broken up? And she said I know, what do you think we should do. I told her that I still wanted to be with her and that I would continue to give her space as long as she wanted. I said I would like to work on this together and help you in any way that I can. I know some of the things that bothered you but I don’t think we got the opportunity to work on them. After that she was like "can I ask you something why are you trying so hard now, why is it so important to you, because I feel like this passion wasn’t before"

And when I starting answering her telling her that I see now that when things upset her and what I could have done more to help her out and help out around the place. I told her I loved her. How much my family and friends liked her. She said that she loved my family too. I was going to keep going but her daughter was crying in the background and we stopped talking. She texted me later Monday night just about dinner and how the weekend was. Yesterday, she came over to pick up a vacuum she had left and she gave me hug, a kiss, we both said I miss you. Before she left I asked if we could continue the conversation from the day before later she said yes. But she ended up not texting me until about 930 telling me sorry that she was really busy, she asked me how my workout went but we didn’t talk about our relationship.

So what do you think? I really love her, I haven’t felt this way about anyone that I can remember. During this time we had a conversation where she told me that after a couple months of dating she told her dad and her aunt that I might be the one and that right now she wasn’t sure anymore. She said that she really wanted me to think if I wanted her and her daughter in my life and If I really wanted them as my family. She said to show her instead of tell her…. She said that she missed the guy that she fell in love with, with positive attitude. I’m not sure what she meant by that, I don’t feel like I have been any different. So, I don’t know if I’m talking to her too much, Should I leave it for now wait for her to contact me? Should I initiate contact? I kept this note she wrote me when we first started dating… I was thinking of sending it to her and telling her that I am still that guy…. I’m not sure if that would be too much or what. What do you recommend? Im sure ex's have wanted you back, I’m sure he did some of those things, maybe some others, at this point do you think in your opinion there’s a chance we’d get back together? Do you think she’s just trying to be nice?

[FitChick]

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