benbutler Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 i work at a pizza place.when i first started dating my girlfriend her aunt said "i need to come get a free pizza" i laughed and said " ahha ok come in sometime" i thought she was joking about the free pizza. i mean i cant give out free stuff anyway the other day her aunt texted me wanting the free pizza. i said "umm you do know you have to pay right, that would cost me my job" she said "why didnt you tell me that before? are you that much of a prick. i thought you were a nice guy but im not seeing it now." i said "i thought you were kidding about the pizza being free. you can come in and get one, ill make you it" my girlfriend then told me today that they are upset at me and dont like me to much i mean...am i that wrong?
d0nnivain Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Unless you own the pizza place it was silly of them to assume you could give away free stuff. It was also very inappropriate for the aunt to call you a name like that. (I'm assuming you are a student & the aunt is close to being her mother's age but that may not be true). If you think it would help offer to buy them a pizza but they sound very crass. 1
Gaeta Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Wow! why do I imagine them living in a ghetto trailer park. No class at all. You did nothing wrong. Did you tell your girlfriend? She should be mad as hell for them treating you this way. 3
MissBee Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Wow, these people seem ridiculous. They dislike you because you cannot give them free pizza? That's absurd. I really wouldn't worry about it. Although, the one thing I would have done differently is that I wouldn't have said "Umm you do know you have to pay right", I could see where that may have come off badly/like you had an attitude or were being a jerk by saying it in that way. I would have simply said "I thought you were joking about the free pizza, I can't actually give away free stuff but could make you one on me" or something of that sort. That's the only logical thing I can think of why she may have reacted that way because she felt that your message to her was snarky, as I'm really trying not to believe that she can be upset about not getting free pizza. 1
Author benbutler Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 Wow, these people seem ridiculous. They dislike you because you cannot give them free pizza? That's absurd. I really wouldn't worry about it. Although, the one thing I would have done differently is that I wouldn't have said "Umm you do know you have to pay right", I could see where that may have come off badly/like you had an attitude or were being a jerk by saying it in that way. I would have simply said "I thought you were joking about the free pizza, I can't actually give away free stuff but could make you one on me" or something of that sort. That's the only logical thing I can think of why she may have reacted that way because she felt that your message to her was snarky, as I'm really trying not to believe that she can be upset about not getting free pizza. well i texted my girlfriend and said "hey your aunt is coming to get a pizza tonight, she does know she will pay right?" and my girlfriend said "no she thinks it will be free"
Author benbutler Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 her aunt said i told her i would give her a free one..i dont recall honestly but if i did it was in a jokingly way i don't see why someone would expect me to just give them a free pizza
d0nnivain Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Perhaps because you said you would give her the pizza. She may have thought you were buying it for her & treating them. It does sound like an awful lot of drama over a pizza
Author benbutler Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 Perhaps because you said you would give her the pizza. She may have thought you were buying it for her & treating them. It does sound like an awful lot of drama over a pizza i just think its rude she would think shes getting a free one 1
Fondue Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 If she's bent out of shape about not receiving a free pizza, there's probably many other issues in this family. I have to agree with Gaeta on this one. These people sound really classy:rolleyes:. 2
hoping2heal Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 i work at a pizza place.when i first started dating my girlfriend her aunt said "i need to come get a free pizza" i laughed and said " ahha ok come in sometime" i thought she was joking about the free pizza. i mean i cant give out free stuff anyway the other day her aunt texted me wanting the free pizza. i said "umm you do know you have to pay right, that would cost me my job" she said "why didnt you tell me that before? are you that much of a prick. i thought you were a nice guy but im not seeing it now." i said "i thought you were kidding about the pizza being free. you can come in and get one, ill make you it" my girlfriend then told me today that they are upset at me and dont like me to much i mean...am i that wrong? EWWWWWWW. No class, no class, no class. Even if it was a misunderstanding, who says something like that?? What a manipulative and bitchy response. I hope your GF doesn't side with the aunt. The fact that the Grandma allegedly doesn't like you now really worries me. I mean, is this bull**** behavior like a family trait or what? ICK :sick: 1
HappyLove Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Wow, LOW CLASS. You shouldn't worry one more second about this. As a matter of fact time to reevaluate if this relationship is even worth your time. I couldn't stand to be around bottom dwellers. 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Why kind of greedy cows ask for handouts like this....and then get mad when they don't get it!? No OP, you did nothing wrong. Why on earth would you risk your job in order to accommodate some miserly relatives of your girlfriend? You'd think they'd have considered that beforehand but clearly not.
todreaminblue Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 i agree with the other poster that you didn't word it quite right but i am guessing you would have been feeling a little uncomfortable......and you wouldnt have been really meaning to sound a bit sarcastic......text messages dont have tone or portray with out doubt, how you are actually feeling they are words not conversations they are ambiguous and can be taken in a multitude of perspectives.....and it was simply a handful of words from you started a tirade.......how it normally happens i guess.......texts often suck big time..... every girlfriend wants their family to deep down like who they are going out with,and i have a suggestion, say what the other poster said you should have written , it is a miscommunication and silly to continue a cycle of dislike on that, from them or from you....so go around see her and say you didnt want anything lost in translation say what comes from your heart.....it is petty and easily solved...if you use yrou heart and evrything right that you have in there......if you can be that man .....and make the first step....if i was the gf this is what i would suggest for you to do out of love for family and love for you......dissention can often become a gulf....so fill it.....if it were me in your position i would also do this......i may not be a man but as a woman i would have foresight enough to know it needed fixing and it is going to take a bit of humility on both sides...do your best and that is enough you cannot have humility for them ....hopefully they have it already.....best wishes....deb
gaius Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 You did say you would give her one, even if she misunderstood it as being serious. I would have just bought her a small pizza, made another joke about how you're only allowed to give out one pizza a year and she's lucky to get it, then watched what jokes I made around her in the future. Is the 6 bucks you save really worth the aggravation of your girls family talking crap about you?
HappyLove Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 You did say you would give her one, even if she misunderstood it as being serious. I would have just bought her a small pizza, made another joke about how you're only allowed to give out one pizza a year and she's lucky to get it, then watched what jokes I made around her in the future. Is the 6 bucks you save really worth the aggravation of your girls family talking crap about you? Good idea but not everybody has an extra $6! He works at a pizza shop not Wall Street . Besides the greedy woman can go buy her own pizza. I'd prefer knowing now what kind of people I'm dealing with, that's worth more than the $6 to me. 1
alexwood Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 wow...she liked you until she realziied now free pizza lol
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