Jay779 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 She broke up with me because she thought she wasn't a prioritiy of mine (ya wtf... I still don't get that one, how can she have any say in what MY priorities are). I tried proving to her that I love her, but she didn't buy it, and tbh Im still in love with her and she doesn't see it. Well, I tried texting her several times asking how she was doing and asking her to lunch as just friends and she never responded. I saw her at school and she completely ignored me. I just don't get why she is ignoring me. She said we could stay friends after the breakup but she doesn't even give a sht about me. And SHE was the one to break up with me, so its not like I ever hurt her feelings. She is playing the victim for some reason when she was the one to break up with me over something trivial. I don't get it at all tbh.
slizl Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Can somene post a link to the No Contact Guide to help this guy out? 3
Mrin Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Hate to say it but... 1. The excuse she gave probably wasn't real 2. When she said she wanted to be friends, that was probably a lie 3. Even if it wasn't a lie, she probably needs some distance (as do you) before shifting to friends mode 4. You ex is ignoring you because she's your ex Read the NC guide. It is your friend. 1
soccerrprp Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 She broke up with me because she thought she wasn't a prioritiy of mine (ya wtf... I still don't get that one, how can she have any say in what MY priorities are). WTF??? Do you know what a relationship is? I don't know what your ex was talking about here, but this tells me that you don't realize what it takes to have a successful relationship. Here's a clue.....you MAKE the people you love a very HIGH priority. She may not have a "say", but she shouldn't have to. You demonstrate your love for them by simply making them a top priority. 1
Author Jay779 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 WTF??? Do you know what a relationship is? I don't know what your ex was talking about here, but this tells me that you don't realize what it takes to have a successful relationship. Here's a clue.....you MAKE the people you love a very HIGH priority. She may not have a "say", but she shouldn't have to. You demonstrate your love for them by simply making them a top priority. I did, she was my highest priority outside of school and work but she thought I was too busy with school work (hence the priorities thing). She was just as busy with school, even more so than me, yet I didn't mind, but for some reason she didn't like me studying for final exams and wanted me to constantly text her. I told her I had to study or else I'd fail and she got mad at me. I made sure we talked every night and saw each other as much as possible besides that. I don't know where the hell that accusation came from.
Mrin Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 I did, she was my highest priority outside of school and work but she thought I was too busy with school work (hence the priorities thing). She was just as busy with school, even more so than me, yet I didn't mind, but for some reason she didn't like me studying for final exams and wanted me to constantly text her. I told her I had to study or else I'd fail and she got mad at me. I made sure we talked every night and saw each other as much as possible besides that. I don't know where the hell that accusation came from. See my point #1. It could have been something else but that is just an easy and blame shifting excuse
soccerrprp Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 See my point #1. It could have been something else but that is just an easy and blame shifting excuse Okay. Yes, this may be it.
d0nnivain Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 She wanted more than you could give. Even if you still like her you can not give her your whole life at the expense of school. When people say they want to be friends after a break up, they don't really mean it. It's just a nice thing to say. By ignoring you, she is doing you a favor even though you can't see it yet. Concentrate on your finals. Then enjoy your summer as a single guy.
Gaeta Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Your last thread was about her being a virgin and wanting to wait till marriage for sex, you disagreed with that notion and had no intention of waiting. Sounds like the break up was inevitable, you were not compatible seems on more than one aspect. 2
soccerrprp Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Your last thread was about her being a virgin and wanting to wait till marriage for sex, you disagreed with that notion and had no intention of waiting. Sounds like the break up was inevitable, you were not compatible seems on more than one aspect. Aaaahhhh, there's more to this story....hmmmm.
MissBee Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 She broke up with me because she thought she wasn't a prioritiy of mine (ya wtf... I still don't get that one, how can she have any say in what MY priorities are). I tried proving to her that I love her, but she didn't buy it, and tbh Im still in love with her and she doesn't see it. Well, I tried texting her several times asking how she was doing and asking her to lunch as just friends and she never responded. I saw her at school and she completely ignored me. I just don't get why she is ignoring me. She said we could stay friends after the breakup but she doesn't even give a sht about me. And SHE was the one to break up with me, so its not like I ever hurt her feelings. She is playing the victim for some reason when she was the one to break up with me over something trivial. I don't get it at all tbh. She broke up with you because she felt she wasn't a priority to you..she doesn't have a say in what your priorities are but she has a say in how she FEELS. Just because someone broke up with you doesn't mean it doesn't hurt them, especially if they did it because they felt neglected. Sometimes people say they will be friends and some try to but realize it is a lot harder than they thought and MOST people cannot go from bf/gf to friends seamlessly. Perhaps she could have told you she needed time away from you but point is, she is trying to detach and move on that's why she's ignoring you. It isn't about playing the victim. Don't take it personally. Leave her be. Maybe one day when she's over it and you are too you can be friends, but for now it's probably better this way.
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