sugashaine Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 we were together for a year and a half and we had an abundance of arguing but we had great times as well I met her kids they fell in love with me I fell in love with her I fell in love with them but then this kidney disorder came in to where she became weak and broke out into hives and became sick all the time and emotionally drained.so she broke up with me and after the break up she refused to talk about the relationship , due to her health. so later she ended up explaining why she broke up with me FLT alone in a relationship that I was very selfish.so since then what started to talk more she's sending me pictures talking to me on the phone while she's at work.and we agreed that we wouldn't talk about the relationship into after she had the surgery that she needed..but at the same time in anger and then times with you we first broke up she said she didn't want to be with me she says the sing poison by beyonce reminds her of me she builds a wall and with time break all the walls she built up, I'm her kryptonite....but now I've made minor changes and being more open minded and she seems to be more open minded as well what do I do?
ThatMan Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 (edited) This all sounds pretty vague. Dumped for being a jerk? Selfish? You've never explained your own role in this. So let me get things straight: She thinks of you whenever she hears the lyrics, "I don't see how something good could come from loving you." Wow, okay, that's a pretty vivid description of how she feels about you. It sounds like she has already made the decision to focus on herself and anything you decide to do won't change that. Although it would probably be a great idea to strongly reconsider whether or not pursuing this relationship would be a good idea. I would also research her ongoing health concerns to become better informed. I do not know what sort of kidney problems she has as you never told us. I'm formerly antiquated with two individuals who struggled with kidney disease. It's truly a horrible and drawn out way to die. The fatigue, difficulty concentrating on everyday tasks, seizures, and so on. It's essentially terminal in most cases as you cannot survive on dialysis indefinitely and organ transplants are only viable for so long. We're desperate for kidney donations for good reason. Any sort of health concerns, even any type of surgery, can all be emotionally draining. The last thing anybody needs in their life is to be faced with serious health concerns and put up with the drama of a poor relationships. I don't think these vague/minor changes are going to cut it and make this relationship acceptable. If I was speaking to your ex, I would absolutely suggest that she focus on herself right now, which is exactly what anyone needs to do prior to any surgery. Edited May 28, 2014 by ThatMan phone...
jbelle6 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 What does she mean when she says you were being selfish? I would be able to get a picture if I knew more. I am curious as to what her kidney problem is as well and is her surgery going to be done laparoscopically or just open? Mine were all done by laparoscope and they were really not that bad so I hope it's that.
Author sugashaine Posted May 31, 2014 Author Posted May 31, 2014 (edited) What does she mean when she says you were being selfish? I would be able to get a picture if I knew more. I am curious as to what her kidney problem is as well and is her surgery going to be done laparoscopically or just open? Mine were all done by laparoscope and they were really not that bad so I hope it's that. Will chronic kidney disease, the surgery scheduled from what she told me was a laser/camera surgery. Well she's a single mother she did every thing asked. We live pretty far away from each other maybe 30-50 miles 45 minutes in car. She drove every other weekend to See me even when didn't have the money. She was the glue that held us but she spoiled me and o took advantage of that. I would jump down her throat if i we're having a bad day(mind you she's non confrontational). Just totally me me me. So she said it was a combination of her being sick and me being and ass the drive her over the edge. But we've recently talked and I explained I have a social condition bdp and we're working on s friendship. But I wanted to mention that It wasn't all bad im great with kids and we did alot of things together, I was great to get and her kids abd kinda filled the void if her negligent ex husbandhe wants nothing to do with them and they grew to me as the make figure abd I know really touches her. I was good and bad but the bad was overshadowed when she got sick. It was harder to deal with me. Due to lack of energy. Also note I'm the second man she truly loved abd the first man she dated/been with and her kids met since the divorce. And she's really conscious of her kids meeting alot of men and they loooooooove me her and them. I was just bn an a hole. Edited May 31, 2014 by sugashaine
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