sanne Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 I've been with this girl for about 6 months now, and these past two months have been a huge rollercoaster. We've broken up and gotten back together too many times to count now. We've never actually been broken up for more than 1 day. Well things have finally settled down and I find myself thinking about breaking up again all the time. I know she's trying to fix the problems that I have with her, and she is making improvement. A part of me is telling me to wait, and to see if time will cure all things. I'm afraid that if I just let things be and not say anything, that she will just revert back to the way she was. It seems like everytime I get on her case and threaten to leave, she starts trying hard again, but as soon as things settle down she just goes back to her old ways. I almost feel like she's dangling the relationship that I want on a string in front of me but always keeping it just out of reach. It's like things can never stay the way that I want them to. I keep telling myself, that I just need to give her time and to let her wait it all out, but I think deep down I know that she just isn't the right person for me. We are planning on spending all day Saturday together to celebrate Valentine's Day. I'm thinking about telling her Saturday night that it will be the final night we are together. I know it may seem like an a**h*** move, but I'd like our last night together to be one that we both enjoy. I know in my heart that I need a break from this relationship, after all of the fighting I did to keep her, I now know that the timing just isn't right. If things are meant to be we will find each other again. I'm also going to initiate complete NC after Saturday, and try and see if I can move on without her because I know I need to show myself that I can be ok without her. I'm really dreading telling her, but I hope she is feeling the same way so this isn't painful.
GrUmPy1 Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 my mouth dropped when i read this. you and i are in the same relationship dilema. unfortuneatly i live right next door to my bf. so nc would be like impossible. i love him but i dont know if he is the right one for me. everytime i try to break up with him he crys and says he'll change and i keep saying ok one more chance. good for you that you have the courage to say goodbye. hopefully soon i will too.
Author sanne Posted February 11, 2005 Author Posted February 11, 2005 I fought so hard to keep her, but it was really only because I was afraid of being alone. I realize now that if I ever want to move on I need to show myself I can be ok on my own again. She's a really great girl, but there are things about her that she just cannot and will not change. I think when I finally leave her and don't come back, she will realize exactly what I've been telling her all along and change for the better. If not, then she just wasn't the right girl for me. Either way I win. Good luck with your situation Grumpy, I know you'll have the courage to leave, it just takes time to build it up.
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