Should I stop asking her out?

[iamawesome]

Hi Friends,

 

I've been on a date three times now with a lovely lady. In each instance I feel like I'm making progress, but it's painfully slow and I haven't even landed a kiss yet. Usually by three dates, I can tell if a women has interest in me, but with her -- no idea. None of the dates have had any sexual chemistry. There's good "verbal" flirting and she does touch my leg occasionally when she talks, but nothing beyond that.

 

She always tells me she has an amazing time and I am confident if I keep asking her out she will keep going out with me. The thing that bothers me is that she doesn't initiate any conversation or reciprocate the dates by asking me out. I end up doing all the leg work.

 

I'm just wondering, if she hasn't expressed sexual interest by now, should I stop pursuing her?

[Potz4prez]

She's probably not all that interested. Move on before you get hurt.

[slizl]

I think you need to man up and kiss her. If she is touching your leg during convo, she is definitely interested IMO. I bet she is wondering a(nd probably as frustrated as you) when you are going to make your move! Man up and kiss her. And don't complain about always having to set things up, again, man up.

[d0nnivain]

I agree about trying for a kiss. She is probably wondering why you are not making a move.

 

If you are getting a negative vibe about the kiss, yes you should move on.

[stateofgrace]

I agree with the above 2 posters. Just man up and try for a kiss. That's the only way to find out. She's probably sitting there wondering why you haven't done it yet, wondering if YOU'RE interested. Especially if she's touching your leg and flirting with you.

 

Just try for a kiss and see what happens. Don't write her off just yet. A lot of women are under the impression that the guy should initiate, otherwise she'll come off as needy. That's how "the rules" go, so this could just be her trying not to come on too strong.