SmellyMelly Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 My ex broke up with me in Nov. We were together for 6 years. He has two kiddos from a previous relationship that I ADORE! I finally got to see the kids this past weekend and the kids don't know about the breakup. They caught me off-guard a couple of times so I dodged their questions. Later, I asked my ex about it and he says he doesn't know what to tell them. He keeps promising me that he's going to tell the kids and he doesn't. He hasn't told anyone about the break-up. AND HE BROKE UP WITH ME! We are still in contact, obviously. He calls me and I call him. He still wants to hang out with me and stuff but its confusing to me. I don't know if he wants to get back together or what the deal is. I asked him the other day if he has intentions on getting back with me and he said he's never going to say never....that he'll never close that door. It's weird and it totally sucks. I'm just confused. Sometimes I think he may want us to be together and sometimes I just don't know.... I guess I just want to hear someone else's point of view. Why hasn't he told anyone when he broke up with me? I'm still devastated about the break-up and I LOVE HIM! I'm trying to be friends because he really is a great guy. I can't imagine my life without him in some way. I guess it's working now because he isn't dating anyone yet or even thinking about it...when that happens I don't know what I'll do. Thanks for listening to my vent. It helps.
bluechocolate Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 They caught me off-guard a couple of times so I dodged their questions. You shouldn't have to dodge their questions. He should be man enough & father enough to be honest with his children (& with himself by the sounds of it). We are still in contact, obviously. He calls me and I call him. He still wants to hang out with me and stuff but its confusing to me. Of course it's confusing - sounds like he's confused too. You should stop contact with him - it's not healthy for any of you unless he's committed to getting back together & working on the relationship. What reasons did he give you for ending it in the first place? ....that he'll never close that door. Close it for him - honestly - this is such a wussy thing for him to say & to my mind shows little respect for you. Why hasn't he told anyone when he broke up with me? Because he's embarrassed? Because everyone will tell him he's an idiot? Because he doesn't want to "close any doors"? He's the only one who really knows the answer - if you really need to know then press him for an answer.
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